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writes:My elderly father is now living alone in our family house and I know that he really likes being there, though of course he is lonely since my mother died.I can already feel the vibes of sisters who want to try to make him move or something just for their own peace of mind, and it is already making me anxious.I don't know what to do. He is very sagacious and pretty strong, but they don't understand his intellectual needs and I am afraid because they are powerful people. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): This is the original writer. Thank you so much for your answers, especially Old Guy who really hit the mark! My Dad WANTS to stay in his house!!! I could really see him thriving in his familiar church, community etc. if myself and my sisters give him our loving support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): As long as your dad hasn't been declared incompetent, it's up to *him* where he lives. If he doesn't want to move, then support him! Relocating the elderly to nursing homes against their wishes is effectively a death sentence -- they tend to deteriorate quickly. As long as he can function reasonably well, he's far better off in his own home.
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (5 June 2009):
 Well, you have to sit down and jot the points and then talk to them and state your case. If you give them the facts and really plead your case, I'm sure they will understand and not move him dad out. I'm not a big fan of sending your parents/parent to live alone. After all they do for us, we shouldn't shun them out when they get elderly.
Good luck.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 What's wrong with moving you dad into another house?
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