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writes:I dont know how to say this... but I dont know if i should tell my best friend about i have slept with her ex boyfriend once even i dont remember that night at all. its not like i have feeling for him... my ass! but... my best friend have a new boyfriend, they have been together for about seven months and shes very happy with him! i dont know if its good idea to tell her about it.. help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): plse tell her, if you don't then someone else will. secrets have a way of coming out. better you be upfront with her.
next time, easy on the booze, you wouldn't want to start a trend with just giving it to people you care nothing about. at least be selective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Hmm I think I will actually say don't tell her. If that night meant nothing to you and she is happy with another guy then I don't see the point in bringing it up NOW. You should have bought it up back then but you didn't. Ok so she might hear about it from someone else but by then I doubt she will care. The thing about it is that you are just feeling guilty and I think you only want to tell her to share that guilt, like you feel you need to be punished or so...but she is happy and with a new guy so let her be. Suck it up and deal with it coz you were the one that fooled around, not her. Honesty..dont believe the hype :P
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reader, LOML +, writes (16 June 2009):
 Yes tell her because what if someone else tell her 1st things could really be bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Just tell her. If she's happy in a relationship, she shouldn't mind, but if you don't you may feel guilty. Just explain that you don't remember it happening and that if you hadn't have told her, you would've felt it was a burden in your relationship. You must explain the last point, so that she doesn't think you're telling her to be spiteful towards her. I know it may sound silly, but when my friends tell me something about the guy that I previously liked, I feel they're doing it purposely, despite the fact that I know they love me and I trust them.
I hope it all goes well.
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (16 June 2009):
 You should tell her. I'm sure if the situation was reversed you would want her to tell you. And it's better she find out from you than someone else.
I don't think it will be so bad, it is her ex.
Good luck.
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