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writes:Hello,I was wondering if anyone could offer some insight into my problemSo I meant someone at the gym I go to, a couple of months ago. We exchanged phone numbers and we would talk and text daily. A little over a month ago, he, finally, asked me out on a date. On our first date, before the end, he asked me out on another. He initiated about 3 more dates after our second date. So I thought everything was good. We still talk and text all the time, and plan to meet at the gym at certain times, but now he does not ask me out anymore. So a couple weeks ago I asked him if he wanted to see me outside of the gym anymore, and he asked me out on a date a couple days later. But now we are back to only seeing each other at the gym (which we make plans to do). What is the deal? Is he just not interested, and does not want to hurt my feelings? -A little background information - He is 37, and I am 29. He has a 14 year old daughter, and his dad just moved in with him, because of financial problems. He also lost a son last November. He works 3rd shift, and always says he is tired and stressed out.Do you think he is just stressed out? Or did he just lose interest? I would just like some insight, because I am into him, but I do not want to continue bugging him to hang out. I am confused, because we talk and text on a daily basis, and he is the one to constantly ask if I am working out that day, and what time am I going. And we still will meet at the gym. What is the deal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): If your father moved in with you, you were working constantly and had a daughter to provide for and look after especially a teenage one i'm sure you'd be stressed out too! He probably just hasn't got the time, sounds like hes into you, his lifes just a little hectic at the moment. Ask him straight out how he feels about you, and whether he wants to go out again. Its the only way you'll ever know whats on his mind..
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (5 June 2009):
 He's not looking for a relationship, he just wants a buddy he had work out with, and maybe go out with once in a while. It might be because he has a lot of his plate and doesn't want to add anything else.
Forget about a relationship with him, just be a friend (if you're okay with that).
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reader, tenfold  +, writes (5 June 2009):
My guess is he is stressed out. Maybe some problems with his family.
try not to bug him so much or speak of your problems in front of him for the time being.
I'm not sure if this works but maybe you sort of make it look like you are less interested in him? Probably he wouldn't appreaciate you for a long time if he can get you easily.
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