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writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for a few months. His mother is really strict (she's indian...I'm white..soo..) but she finally accepted that we were together. She actually would talk to me and liked me. Then today, we were in the guest room on the couch watching a movie. My boyfriend grabbed my face and started making out with me, but suddently his mom walked in and he quickly laid his head on my shoulder. She saw...and she acted pissed the rest of the time I was over there (which was like another 4-5 hours...). She acted really mad and irritated. She wouldn't even look at me, and when she did talk it was pretty cold...We didn't even do anything bad..I guess to her, it's the end of the world because her little babys growing up. (He's 17 and I'm 16).Later he said she wasn't speaking to him...I bet I'm not going to be welcomed..for a bit...I think our relationship and my progress is ruined. Can anyone give me advice? :\I felt so bad I cried on the way home. Reply to this Question
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reader, James_Michael  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 She's going way over the top.
Don't cry about it, she'll get over it if she's anything of a mother to be honest with you.
Kissing is nothing, for goodness sake, when kissing is a crime she can complain, but it's not. So she will have no choice but to get over it.
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reader, jrunlucky +, writes (8 August 2010):
 man, so close and yet so far now. :( well at least your not the only one she's focusing her anger at.
indian women are very strict in ways of relationships.
have you tried learning some of their culture? try their dance, it's really awesome and fun ^.^ especially in a group.
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reader, Jesc +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Well as you said she is Indian. Different people raise their kids differently. That's just how it is. All you can really do is show her as much respect as you can every time you see her. Even if she gives you the stink eye.
You could also talk to your boyfriend in the matter of Respecting his mother. As in no making out in the house while she is there. It sounds bad in a way but I never felt comfortable touching my partner or even giving him a kiss on the cheek in the beginning of our relationship when we were at his parents house.
What i am suggesting is maybe if you guys just show that you Respect his mother by not doing things like that in her presence. It is hard to see your child at that stage.
I'm still working on my partners father to at lest show me respect,(He is Persian and I am white.) We have been together for almost 5 years now. It's hard.. It really is. But I always make sure I show Respect no matter what and I feel better about myself. I said this so you know it might never change. Yet it always could
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): it was just kissing. ther is no reason she should be mad. u guys are just showing ur love + u guys are 16 and 17 so she shudnt care if u guys kiss
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