Should I just delete the message before he gets it?
Q. Help, urgent advice needed. You are probably sick of my saga. My husband had a 'text affair' with a work colleague and although it's over he still has to liaise with her and attend work related committee meetings (he doesn't see her on a daily basis ...
A. 25 March 2009: Wooo! It's generally frowned upon to even GO THROUGH another person's mail, let alone what your proposing to do.
I respect your defense of your relationship but you're way OTT!
What you are doing is blatant manipulation of another's private ... (read in full...)
I want a date night with my husband!
Q. Hi, I am 28 years and I've been married almost 2.. Have a son whose 1. The thing is my husband and I have known eachother for 12 years and we've been together on and off. He's a good person and we love eachother very much. But when we got marr...
A. 25 March 2009: Well, differences about consumption can drive a wedge in any relationship.
Especially, when a person chooses to change after forming a relationship on a certain basis.
Clearly, you've had the power to change but your husband is somewhat more lac... (read in full...)
I'd rather give my baby up for adoption than to let him have it
Q. I'm 7 months pregnant my boyfriend and I have since split up it live in the same apt I'm trying to find a new place. He has a daughter from a previous relationship. I want to give the child up for adoption I just think he would have a better life. ...
A. 25 March 2009: Well, if you try too hard you might overstretch yourself and sacrifice yourself at the altar of your baby.
But if you don't try then you risk self-resentment because you never know how much of a go of it you might have made.
One thing is for sure... (read in full...)
Should I move back home if I'm jobless?
Q. I moved to a city to get a job and now in my third month of living here and have no hope left. I am qualified and have not had problems getting a job in the past but in the current climate its not looking good. Im about to go through a break up and ...
A. 25 March 2009: No man (or woman) is an island.
A little humility, and a "I'm back" to your family is sometimes just the ticket.
When a bird leaves the nest, sometimes it stays out.
Other times it flaps around until it finds it's way back to the nest.
Nothi... (read in full...)
What's causing my unhappiness and how can I change?
Q. Hi, i just need a bit of advice so if anyone can offer some that would be great? Been with my boyfriend 3 years, love him, thing is we had history we went together for 6 months, broke up for a year then got back together been back together three ye...
A. 25 March 2009: Well, it's one thing to be academic, and another to have an "academia-friendly boyfriend..."
Don't say I didn't tell you so!...... (read in full...)
He wants to take it easy and go with the flow
Q. I have been seeing a man since last Nov. He lives 1 1/2 hours north of me. I knew him for about 2 years prior but we only saw each other every 6-8 weeks and never got involved, timing was wrong. So Nov things were different. We were great ...
A. 25 March 2009: You shouldn't use acronyms; very annoying...
Nevertheless, it's a big country; isn't it??... (read in full...)
How can I find out more about his rehabilitation?
Q. So I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. Only until recently, approximately 2 months ago, my boyfriend sobered up. He use to drink and smoke marijuana. He is currently checking into rehab this week. He realizes he has a problem and I am ...
A. 25 March 2009: This is interesting;
I used to think that Cannabis and Alchohol were brother and sister drug...
But then, I found out that the Hops in beer (Cannabicea Hops...) was only in there for flavouring...
Em, beer=cannabis flavouring; emm...
But ... (read in full...)
Really need some help!
Q. I have been with my partner for 7 years, I was 16 when we got together, now I'm 23, and I am starting to feel that I want to go and explore life. I think I still love him, but I feel I've missed out on a whole part of my life. We seem to have les...
A. 25 March 2009: Well, variety is the spice of life.
Blow a fresh breath on him fresh from the lips of Cupid my dear.
A change is as good as a break.
Oh, sweetie; I know ya wanna do the whole "till death us do part thing..." but your VITALITY is giving you s... (read in full...)
Why can't I get away from him and get over him?
Q. Let me start off that i am 20 and this guy in my life is about 25. I have known him about a year and a half and I fell completely in love with him. I belived he felt the same. He started doing heroin again when i moved outta state for a couple ...
A. 25 March 2009: There are reasons for everything.
You gotta get a grip for the both a yous.
Be his kinder and milder side of heroin and you won't go far wrong...... (read in full...)
To go or not to go?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. But it was all very unexpected, I never expected him to break up with me, because everything was going great. And then one day he calls me and tells me he was not feeling it any more, and that we s...
A. 25 March 2009: Eh! He's doing a good job of proving the idea that girls mature quicker than boys. Also, girls are more relationship biased, and men suffer from fancy finikyness. You'd do as well to ask yourself; "Well, then how is a lady supposed to satisfy her n... (read in full...)
Should I sit down and talk to him?
Q. Well tonight he said "we need to stop this because I am starting to get to attached to you, and I'm afraid what will happen if I actually do get attached." SO now what I think I need to sit down and talk to him, what do you think? To all those wh...
A. 25 March 2009: Well, you can slow it down...
Just as in life (and sex), in relationships, ya gotta have a well oiled gearbox (and know how to use it...).
Then he'll say nobody does it better...... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant if a guy touches your vagina with his erect penis?
Q. I've looked everywhere but I cannot find the answer to this question. Can you get pregnant if a guy does not get an erection but touches your vagina with his penis? ...
A. 25 March 2009: Ya.
But, he'd have to have a pre-ejaculative spurt at that exact moment (which isn't impossible) and then boy would that sperm have some swimming to do!... (read in full...)
Please help! I want to make a step ahead
Q. my boy friend broke up with me a week and days ago.. the thing is he asked me when i was going to the north that means he wanted to see me i told him i moved on with a guy from an other country he is now jellousy that he d...
A. 25 March 2009: Well, realistically speaking; we all have to hold relationships in reserve just because we don't know every person on earth, and so therefore who or what is our perfect partner.
The problem comes when you've had such a quality partner that noth... (read in full...)
What does pookie mean?
Q. What does pookie mean? Seems like a fun pet name but I would wish to know the meaning before I use it....
A. 25 March 2009: Pooky or Pookie may refer to: Pooky (character), the teddy bear belonging to cat Garfield in the comic strip, and was on garfield and friends in seasons 1-3 Pookie (vehicle), a Rhodesian mine-detecting vehicle Pookie the Lion, a hand puppet... (read in full...)
Did I ruin this relationship on my own?
Q. I've had this wonderful connection with a man I met a year ago and I fell in love with him.. we had so much in common in our outlook on life. Though at times my common sense said he might be a player, and has a serial history of 3 marriages, two ...
A. 25 March 2009: Wow! Tell him he's a fiend.
Normal, or sex-fiend, I dunno.
But, never tire of trying to define your relationship.
It's what defines it...... (read in full...)
Why does my friend have 2 boyfriends when I cant even get 1??
Q. My friend has had 2 boyfriends for over a year now and its really not fair because I cant even get one. I've been told that I'm really attractive but guys just want to sleep with me and nothing else. And I dont sleep around, I make the guy wait a wh...
A. 25 March 2009: Sweetie! I can tell you why...
In your beauty, you're just too intimidating for a guy.
But, don't let that put you down.
Do quality vs. quantity.
Make a real play for the one you fancy.
But don't waste a nickel of emotion if he don't reciprocate... (read in full...)
She thinks that she's the tops of tops and I only a miserable being.
Q. Hello dear friends, This question I am asking is not really a love, dating or sex question but rather a matter that is troubling me a lot. I have a big sister and we were never in good terms. Today we share no relationship at all. She has always ...
A. 25 March 2009: Well, it's the million dollar question, isn't it.
Dolly Parton sung about it, King Solomon made an observation of it.
Because the fact is, that being/doing good and evil only constitute ONE part of life.
Being born in Africa and dying before you g... (read in full...)
I like her only as a friend as she is a real sweetheart to be with
Q. i am scared of something friends ....i have been committed to my girlfriend since a year but i dont love her !! i really dont know what i found in her but i like her only as a friend as she is a real sweetheart to be with. probably the ...
A. 25 March 2009: Relationships redefine themselves every day.
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Can you tell me why she would be acting like this?
Q. Well my best friend has a boyfriend that she's been with for awhile. When we met everything was fine. But lately it just seems like she finds something wrong with every person i date or have feelings for. And it doesn't seem like she's even int...
A. 25 March 2009: The possible choices are jealousy, apathy, lack of empathy,snobbery, contempt, or pride at both her partner and time spent with him. If you over-compensate with praise for her relationship, it should give the impedus (shove) to find out which.... (read in full...)
Can't keep erection while entering her...please help
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I have a unique problem. I was a virgin until I got married. However, I used to masturbate a lot and am theoretically educated about sex and protection etc. Now the problem is, during foreplay which both of us enjoy ...
A. 25 March 2009: Mate! You might as well forget your impotentcy. It's all about the pregnancy worry. You have to ascertain whether your partner is stable enought emotionally, physically and mentally to make a determination on the correlation between her oest... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to keep adding girls on their facebook list?
Q. hi everyone i am sort of worried about my boyfriend of 1 year.is it normal for guys to keep adding girls (they don't even know at all) on their facebook list? is it like one of those "cool" wannabe things or what?its really getting on my nerves now...
A. 25 March 2009: You know? Of late, I've obtained a great laugh lazoring and being lazored over any quirk, such as this is. In short, turn it into a joke. How much you can get away with, only you know; "Mr. popular over there..." And of course, stay true to rid... (read in full...)
Have I just made a total fool of myself? :-(
Q. I just made a total fool of myself. I wanted to play it cool with a guy I was really starting to like and I just blurted out that I wanted to get to know him better and he actually responded that he felt sorry for me! I was so shocked that I asked ...
A. 25 March 2009: Eh, he's a pig; and a selfish one too (with his HOBBY).
Why, of all the condescending whew!
You should have said "well, don't expect me to be eternally grateful because I illicited your sympathy!"
Or, is he mistakingly refering to empathy?... (read in full...)
Is it okay to meet him and show the real me?
Q. I'am female just call me simplegal. I'm already 18,but I never had experience relationship with a guy since birth... Now I'm here, because I want you to give me some advices and your help this serious problem with my feelings to this men. this was ...
A. 25 March 2009: Wow! I think you've just invented Chavspeech!
Still, true to Chav's getting on approach; strangely I understood everything you said...
Sure; go ahead meet him, he's not gonna bite your head off.
You gotta take it to the next level, girl.
... (read in full...)
I love my teacher and I think she loves me back :)
Q. im 16 and shes 27.lets call her lizzy. shes my chef course teacher. lizzy calls me pretty and she gave me a flower 2day :) she touches my thigh and my shoulders. winks at me all the time and smirks a lot at me and shes always offering to help ...
A. 25 March 2009: Yow! That's a little bit of an infatuation. Mmm; from her perspective doubtless you are her little flower. I'm not altogether sure what the consent age is but you understand this lady is in a position of responsibility over you and shouldn't even r... (read in full...)
Should I cut him off now or wait until I the abortion?
Q. So, I was with my ex boyfriend for over two years. It was my first real relationship and I loved him very much, we did everything together. Well two weeks ago, we were arguing and he had told me he cheated on me out of anger. The next day he tell...
A. 25 March 2009: It seems, it's not so much your "unbudgingness" with regard to abortion, as your seeming lack of negotiating the views of the one other person who has an equal genetic heritage with this unborn child.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a girl who was hurt by several ex boyfriends
Q. How do i deal with a girl who was hurt by several ex boyfriends. I really like her but part of the reason she just wants to be friends even tho she likes me more, is because she is afraid ill do the same thing in time. How can i prove to her that i ...
A. 23 March 2009: It's better to have a relationship on a basis that she's comfortable with. If you love her right, it will help to heal those wounds and eventually restore the confidence she has lost through them. Not everybody has redeemable qualities, and d... (read in full...)
I need to heal now but I don't know how
Q. I was seeing this man for over a year during which we broke up many times because he never made me feel special,etc but i kept taking him back because it felt good to be wanted. I must add that during that whole time i thought he was single, we talk...
A. 23 March 2009: When I first got married I told my wife; "if you ever went with someone else I would rather you just told me... I will be angry and I don't know if our relationship will survive it, but I'd rather you just told me..." She agreed, and I agreed t... (read in full...)
In 6 months I have only been with him alone once
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for six months and we are seemingly the 'perfect couple'. We both come from good backgrounds(private schools etc) and our parents have doing alot to keep us from being alone. In 6 months i have only been with him alon...
A. 23 March 2009: Em. They obviously have their reasons. Do they wish you to put a vocation before relationships at this stage in your life? Ultimately though, you will progress to being responsible for your life to the point where you can make your own decisions. ... (read in full...)
I look at and scrutinize everything she has done from then to now
Q. I have a live in girlfriend that I have been with for over a year now and I love her with all that I have. My problem is that 2 months into our relationship we were out having drinks and she drank too much and does not remember the events of that...
A. 23 March 2009: You're being a tad too hard on yourself. Having your two-month old girlfriend proposition your brother is a slap in the face. It's true, that people are often attracted to siblings of partners for exactly the same reasons they're attracted to the... (read in full...)
I really like him and think about him everyday
Q. well i really like this boy but he is older then me some people may say to old and others say its fine. he has a girl friend and i am friends with her but have known him longer even though she is my friend i get on better with him an i really like...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, in the strange world of Karma, what goes around, comes around. How you can keep Karma happy is not to betray your friendship with his girlfriend by stealing her boyfriend, and that from your own friend. That doesn't mean you can't have him. ... (read in full...)
I havent had my period for about 6 weeks
Q. I havent had my period for about 6 weeks and im a virgin and never been with a boy more than a pull whats wrong with me ? (im only 15) and had my periods for about 18months...
A. 23 March 2009: It could be stress. It could also be a lack of iron in your diet. A girl once came to me who hadn't had a period in a year. I asked her to read a list of the top ten iron containing foods and she said she didn't like any of them. I explained to... (read in full...)
My partner wants us to have sex with other people.
Q. My partner wants us to have sex with other people. I like the idea for myself, but my skin crawls at the thought of him doing it. It scares me he won't come back and I would not be able to contain my jealosy. I know this is selfish, but has anyo...
A. 23 March 2009: Yes. Jealousy burns like a bush fire. What? I ask myself is the process whereby it is put out? Well, firstly; there's more to sex than your relationship. You've got him, haven't you, not them? Of course, there is always the risk that either of ... (read in full...)
How can get over my ex girfriend after she dumped me for some other boy?
Q. i am 16 my gf is 14 and it al kicked of on wednesday afternoon me and my gf were sat in my room kissin and stuff and she got my name wrong i was hurt and upset and after a while of her talkin she told me she liked this outher boy who she had been...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, the first love takes the longest to get over given the length and depth of your relationship. But, as you get older you learn to live one day at a time with relationships. All's you can do is enjoy every minute you are with that person but ... (read in full...)
I was raped by my brothers best friend
Q. i need help I'm 12 i was raped by my brothers best friend now I'm pregnant please any advice ...
A. 23 March 2009: I'm so sorry that you had such a bad experience of man at such a young age. As everyone has said, a lot of things have to happen. I hope you come to realise that this guy broke you're brother's trust. Unfortunately, you can't have power, respon... (read in full...)
My vagina is really red and itchy
Q. I'm 13. I had sex with my boyfriend of 5 months for the first time last week. He's 14. This is a little embarasing but, my vagina is really red and itchy. I've been having headaches and stomach aches, frequently. I get a bit of a burning sensation ...
A. 23 March 2009: You truly have to go to the doctors. The downstairs part sounds like Thrush (a yeast infection) but the other symptoms in your stomach and head do not. Also, make sure you get advice on how to protect against unwanted pregnancy. If you're scared ... (read in full...)
All my friends have boyfriends and there is no one for me.
Q. i broke up with my ex around 3 months ago, he hurt me severely and left me messed up emotionally for a long time. Then i found someone ( his friend) who i genuinely had strong feelings for. We had a thing,he acted as though he really liked me, then ...
A. 23 March 2009: Eh, I think I know what's going on here.
Word has got out that you're a nice caring, decent girl and therefore bait to take the piss out of.
Don't worry. Sometimes the lack of boyfriends can be an indicator that you are quality and you just don... (read in full...)
I worry loads
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together a while now, and he has always understood that i am a worrier so when it came close to use having sex i said i wasn't sure if i wanted to, the main reason for this is, is that i know after sex some may bleed an...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, your hymen is a covering of skin which bleeds when it comes away during sex for the first time and doesn't normally bleed alot, normally about a couple of tea spoons to a couple of table spoons.
You are at a key critical age where there are ... (read in full...)
He sees everything in black & white..no hope of us getting back together
Q. my fiance and i just broke because he doesnt want a family and i have a 2 1/2 month old baby and he said that he isnt in love with me any more. he said he still wants to be friends but with benefits. and i agreed to it cuz we are both madly ...
A. 23 March 2009: You know; there's no accounting for men's (and women's) hormones! Typical blokey behaviour. You kinda gave two reasons for splitting. First you said "cos he didn't want a family" then "he didn't love you anymore." So, adding it all up; wouldn't... (read in full...)
I gave her a ring, she calls me pet names and then starts dating someone else!
Q. I am 17 years old and she is 21.I was going out with my ex for 4 years.She is hot and when i gaved her a ring she wanted for years she says I'm going out with someone else.it hurt me for so long.For some reason she calls me by my nicknames she gave ...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, I doubt if she realises just how much hurt she's causing you. She sounds like she's still a bit emotionally shallow. Another thing; she doesn't have alot of respect to Karma dude, what goes around, comes around; trust. In the mean time, ceas... (read in full...)
He doesn't feel the same, he still has a thing for his ex
Q. I have been dating this guy for 5 months and he warned me from day one that he didn't want to hurt me. I told him I wouldn't let him but I don't know anymore. He told me that he and his girlfriend broke up two months before and that he was still in ...
A. 23 March 2009: Sometimes, you're so close to a situation you can't see what's going on, that's what we're here for!
It's not that he still has feelings for his ex only, it's that he's still hurt over splitting from her.
If I'm right, he'll heal in time and ever... (read in full...)
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