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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. But it was all very unexpected, I never expected him to break up with me, because everything was going great. And then one day he calls me and tells me he was not feeling it any more, and that we should be friends and that we would still talk and hang out. But since that day he has not had the modesty to call me or text me to see how im doing, so much for friends huh? I was totally cool with being friends, because I really cared about him. And now his best friend (which is how I met him, through his best friend) is having a birthday getty at his house, and I don't know if to go or not, cus it might be very awkward, and he has not talked to me since the break up, and knowing him he will probably pretend like it's all good, so I don't know if to go or not?help?Thanks!
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reader, Jason means Healer  +, writes (25 March 2009):
Eh! He's doing a good job of proving the idea that girls mature quicker than boys.Also, girls are more relationship biased, and men suffer from fancy finikyness.You'd do as well to ask yourself; "Well, then how is a lady supposed to satisfy her need for relationship when boys are so shallow?"Eh, the answer is hunting...
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (25 March 2009):
 If you think you can go, smile, and not have your gaze linger in his direction, go.
I think you might not want to go... The fact that you are asking this question hints that you might not be ready!
You could always just stop by to say hi to your mutual friend, test the waters, then leave gracefully if it gets super awkward?
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): I don't think it matters if you attend or not. I think if this guy is your friend too and you want to go to the party then go, but be prepared for him to be there with someone else....If you do see him and he ignores you, then just let it go and ignore him and have fun talking to your other friends.
If you do see him it might be a great opportunity to say Hi, act happy and go on about the party....If you behave as if you are OK and are cool with him then hopefully he will behave the same.
It takes some time passing, even moreo than a month to remain friends with an ex. You all are very young so I see no reason to take this so seriously and you can at least be friendly with one another when you see him out, but don't go out of your way to get together with him beyond that.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (24 March 2009):
 remain cool and dont attend, its so much more classier and you will be able to keep your dignity. just tell your friend that you will be unable to attend as you alrady have plans (make something up and say that you cant change this) x
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