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writes:i need help I'm 12 i was raped by my brothers best friend now I'm pregnant please any advice
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reader, cls1990 +, writes (23 March 2009):
 i agree with everybody else on this, you need to tell somebody you trust, nobody will judge you nothing that has happened is in any way your fault
U cant do this alone & while us cyber aunts can offer advise we cant be there to support u.
Dont be scared of telling your parents, im sure they will support you as much as they possibly can
take care
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reader, bethevans +, writes (23 March 2009):
 awwww sweety, don't worry.. okay so you're pregnant.. if you parents know that's good.. you're brave for telling them .. to be completely honest .. if your brother doesn't know i would tell him because he needs to no hunny .. it may be akward.. but if u can't tell your parents he's the person to go to .. he can get the money out of his(hopefully ex bestfriend) for the baby .. (that's if your having it).. but hun when i was your age.. i had the same problem.. except i wasn't pregnant .. my brothers friend just used me.. i was really reaaly scared.. and i no you must be feelingg so unbelievably confused right now but hun everyone of the people in your family care about you .. and you need to let them know.. thats as much advice as i can give you.. good luck with everything sweetie x
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reader, Jason means Healer +, writes (23 March 2009):
I'm so sorry that you had such a bad experience of man at such a young age.As everyone has said, a lot of things have to happen.I hope you come to realise that this guy broke you're brother's trust. Unfortunately, you can't have power, responsibility and trust without the abilty to misuse them.But this boy will pay very heavily for what he has done.Perhaps you even liked him before he did it but that in no way excuses what he did, you are in no way to blame.The world is made up of good people and bad, and men are no exception for sure.I hope you are able to find it in yourself to trust again and know that there are good boys out there who wouldn't do that to you in a million years.You was just very unlucky, that is all.
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reader, HollyHeartbreak +, writes (23 March 2009):
 Go to the police.
You need to tell your parents about this or talk to somebody you trust to give you help and advice like a school counsellor or school nurse. But please,make sure your parents know about this. They cannot let your brothers best friend into your house who does things like that.
Best of look sweetness
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reader, sometimes ( Iwish)  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 I am sure that you're very unsure, and scared right now, but everything will be ok.
Just focus, and talk to someone you can trust to give the proper guidence for this situation.
Ideally, this should be your folks as they will find out eventually. You are very young, and need help from someone who is mature, and safe to be around. Rape is a crime, but worse than that is your trust has been violated.
Seek help, don't go this alone - you will recover, and life will be better for you if you handle this right. Please tell someone,and ask them to help you promptly.
You may have concerns for more than just yourself right now.
The very best Regards, and take care - you can heal from this. BE STRONG,
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Hi
First GO to your Parents LET THEM DEAL WITH THE POLICE.
All you have to do is tell the complete truth from A to B to your parents, no matter how embarrasing leaving no details out. If this boy has raped you he will be severly punished.
Have you had a doctor tell you that you are pregnant?
You must tell your parents straight away, so they can help you.
via con dios
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): As the previous Aunts have said, you need to notify the police. But first tell your family, so they can be of support when you talk to the authorities. This guy needs to be held accountable for what he has done! Then, go see a doctor!
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reader, schristinar85  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 I agree with that last answer 100%. YOU NEED TO TELL SOMEONE! Start with a parent or someone you trust, then go to the police together and PRESS CHARGES! I know it's scary, but this is something you need to do, if you don't you will regret it. Then you need to go to the DR and get checked out and figure out you options.
Good luck sweetie,
xoxo, Sarah
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Go to either the police or your school counselors/ teacher, they will report it to the police as well in addition to a social service aid who will do an investigation.
And tell your parents. They need to know about the person they let into their home. Also, they can best help you decide what to do about this pregnancy. But you NEED to tell your parents.
You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. You did nothing wrong, and no one is going to blame you for this. You cannot keep this to yourself, this is bigger than you can handle alone. Tell your parents.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Yes, go to the authorities straight away, tell yourparents, and your brother. He dosnt need a friend like that hanging about.
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