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writes:i broke up with my ex around 3 months ago, he hurt me severely and left me messed up emotionally for a long time. Then i found someone ( his friend) who i genuinely had strong feelings for. We had a thing,he acted as though he really liked me, then one day he just clicked and screwed me over and now has a grudge against me. Hes used me and i am so sick of guys hurting me, it's happening too much. And i was in love with him and am just getting over it - its hard and sometimes i just cry because he meant so much to me and the things he said were the things someone who really liked me would say. Now,i am in a rut. All my friends have boyfriends and there is no one for me. I just want someone who i like and that they like me back and wont use me. What do i do? My emotions are all over the place. (i'm 16)
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reader, Jason means Healer +, writes (23 March 2009):
Eh, I think I know what's going on here.
Word has got out that you're a nice caring, decent girl and therefore bait to take the piss out of.
Don't worry. Sometimes the lack of boyfriends can be an indicator that you are quality and you just don't grab at anyone.
Concentrate on quality and not quality and remember that you have been successful up to a point already.
Be careful not to wear your heart on your sleeve (on display) and learn the art of being coy in love.
That way, you can have your burning heart on the inside, but a cool exterior on the outside and you will dazzle them!
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reader, Luaris  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 What do you mean he screwed you over? That would really be helpful. With what youve wrote I would say his friend most likely told him things about you (a lie or the truth) that made this new guy turn on you. Thats my guess but I dont know everything. Also dont think for a second that youre the only person in the world who feels like they keep getting used. Its my experience that EVERYONE feels that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): I know it's hard but you don't NEED a boyfriend. You are so young - and I know it's lame when people say that - but listen, you need to focus on yourself here. It's normal to be confused and lonely at your age.
Cultivate relationships with your girl friends, you don't need a boyfriend just because they have one. Spend time with yourself, too.
Don't sell yourself short and settle for some douchebag who is not worth your while. You need and DESERVE more than someone you "like" and "won't use you".
Trust in yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Calm down. Forget about the guys who messed you up, they didn't deserve you anyway. Dating is about learning. Reflect on those two relationship and learn something from them. Pliz never date friends, that's not cool.
Don't worry about being the only onw without a boyfriend in your crew. Never compare yourself to anyone. You'll find someone, meanwhile enjoy being single coz there is nothing wrong with it.
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