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*osieee
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together a while now,and he has always understood that i am a worrier so when it came close to use having sex i said i wasn't sure if i wanted to, the main reason for this is, is that i know after sex some may bleed and some may be in pain (uncomfortable) but if you do bleed, how much is it.. and is it unusual for some one of my age, 16 - 17 this year... to be so worried. thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, Rosieee +, writes (23 March 2009):
Rosieee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone
nahh i wont be pressured
when i first got with him when it randomly came up in coversation he said he would wait until i am ready, and not before so i respect all of you comments
i am deffinatly going to make sure that i think and make sure im ready before it happens
thanks once again x
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reader, Jason means Healer +, writes (23 March 2009):
Well, your hymen is a covering of skin which bleeds when it comes away during sex for the first time and doesn't normally bleed alot, normally about a couple of tea spoons to a couple of table spoons.
You are at a key critical age where there are a lot of changes and new responsibilities coming your way.
But you needn't fear. Life has a strange way of rewarding you with other things as a sort of compensation.
Like sex for instance.
I'm fairly certain you'll enjoy it quickly enough.
Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Someone your age should even be thinking about sex. If your boyfriend loves you, he will wait until you are ready and that's not anytime soon.
I lost my virginity at 18yrs and I regret it. The guy I was with then doesn't mean a thing to me now. Wish I could have waited until marriage.
Wait.
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reader, schristinar85  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 It's not weird to be worried. It can be a scary thing. There's so much anticipation with sex, it can be nerve racking. First of all, don't have sex just because you feel pressured, you will regret it. Second, it probably wont be as bad as you expect. If you are an especially small girl or if you don't masterbate, or if you haven't had a lot of foreplay (fingering for example) it may be a little worse. To be honest, I recomend fingering a lot before attempting penetration. I actually waited until I was 18 to have sex, and I had the same worries. Actually, this may sound strange, but I used a dildo before I had sex, to get thru any pain or bleeding. It actually helped. When I did have sex, it was great.
Good luck sweetie & PLEASE use protection, no matter what.
xoxo, Sarah
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Trust yourself and your body, only have sex when YOU want to. Don't allow yourself to be pressured. You are your own best friend, so take care!
There won't be much blood - maybe none.
It is normal to be nervous and worried. The hurt is very slight, just be sure to be lubricated. Foreplay will help relax you and make you wet, thereby reducing any pain/discomfort. Take it slow, you'll be fine.
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