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female
age
36-40,
velvetcaroline
writes:The last 5 boyfriends I've had have all been lovely, charming, romantic gentleman. Three of them have told me that they love me. But i am SICK of KNOWING that I'm the one thats going to have to end it. Im not the kind of girl who sits pining after a guy who wont look at me. I don't WANT a long term relationship right now. And thats the thing, that because I'm a friendly person I attract nice friendly guys who are brilliant for a drunken late night discussion about chocolate digestives and a re-inactment of black books series 2 episode 4...but not for lust.I sound stupid saying this, but I need to be used. I need a guy to treat me badly and dump me and break my heart.[but ..why?]because if I dont then I'll never appreciate the good guys.and i owe it to them, if anything.Ive never been dumped, it's about time. The funny thing is that my best friend is the exact opposite, she always seems to get the using bastards who dump her. She thinks I'm mad. loloh dear.-caroline
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reader, JackieR +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Are you mad??? Look at your friend when she has just been hurt, do you really want that to be you??
You don't like 'nice' guys because i guess you don't think you deserve to be treated with respect. I assume you think these guys are boring which you will quickly tire off, even the ones that you get drunk with, have drunken chats into the early morning with, in other words the ones that you appear to have a great time with and the ones who accept the way you are, are these the nice/boring guys you mean???
You need to look at things in a whole different way, start to let these guys in, and loosen your need for self control, or deep down are you scared what will happen if you let yourself go??
Loosen up and stop painting 'nice' guys with the same brush, you never know you might find the love of your life!!
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (30 September 2007):
 You can have my broken heart for a couple of months :)
I don’t think you should worry, it sounds like you are having a great time and meeting lots of fun people. I understand perfectly what you mean, pain is there to make you understand what good feelings are, but even though I absolutely don’t wish you any harm, I think that when times come, you will know how it feels, no need to wish for it on beforehand. And I don’t think a guy must be right only because he is a good guy. When the right good guy comes along, you will notice and appreciate him, even though lack of experience of a broken heart, I’m sure.
Wish you a good day!
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