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writes:My girlfriend is 5 months pregnant, and it has been one hell of a roller coaster ride. To begin, before she was pregnant she had violent and very aggressive mood swings. She demeaned me in front of some of my friends, ripped one of my shirts, and keeps telling me she hated me......However, the next day she would apologize and swear she'd try to be better.Now that she's pregnant, the mood swings have escalated, due to all the hormonal changes. It has put a great deal of strain between us. And because of the mood swings before being pregnant I don't have much sympathy anymore, and am stressed beyond belief and don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): I love her to death and Bipolar has been mentioned to me before by several people. Also, she did tell me she was abused as a child. Another thing that doesn't help was the house she grew up in is a freaking circus, I can't stand going there except for family things. It's always dirty and my gf's parents raise their grandchild instead of my gf's sister raising her kid like she should.The way we were raised is like night and day. I was raised in an upper middle class, taught right from wrong and not to act in a "Jerry Springer" type way. There's always a crazy arguement at their house when I go over, and it's for the most trivial of things. She comes from a lower class. Her parents aren't educated past high school, and it definately shows, the way they talk, appearance, and mannerisims. Her brother who is 18 now has been smoking since he was 12, the other brother who is 16 gave his dad money to get him beer. And the kid that my gf's parents is raising is about 2.5 years and can barely talk, diet consists primarily of chocolate and candy and still on the bottle and is behind alot developmentally compared to some of my friends who have kids that age.I want to do something, but I am afraid going to the authorities will really hurt alot of people and people will look at me as a bad guy. And trying to talk it over with my gf or her family ends up in an arguement.
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reader, cupidhelper +, writes (24 September 2007):
Everything they said.
Let doctor know it was worse before pregnancy-- she might deny it and blame it on pregnancy, but let them know. Pregnancy give off hormones and supress other chemicals, this information can help with finding out what's wrong.
Be honest about drugs you or her might have done. they can mess with brain chemisty short-term and for life.
as far as "no sympathy," unless your rubber broke, you chose not to use birth control. You bound to this woman for the next 18+, so you better learn to fake it around your kid, even if you don't stay together.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Are you saying her behavior before she got pregnant is better. She still has issues. I agree with the other person who posted, you need to get her to a doctor, a mental health doctor. There are 3 disorders I can think off right off that include those behaviors (1) Bipolar, (2) Post Traumatic Stress (3) Borderline Personality Disorder.
What separates these is one factor. Has your girlfriend, during her life, experienced any traumatic situations. This would include, death of someone close, rape or sexual assault, or any form or child abuse when she was a child.
All three of those are difficult to treat, so doctors care would be in her best interest in doing so. Her regular swings against you will be harmful to the wellbeing of your child.
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reader, JackieR  +, writes (23 September 2007):
 You must get her to a doctor now!!!! Your girfriend must see that she needs help, as it may get worse when the baby is born. If you love her you must stay strong and i know it is really hard for you but she is going through her own kind of hell too which she has no way of controlling which is why she needs help, and she will resist this but for the sake of your relationship and your unborn child you must see that she gets it.
My brother and his wife went through the same thing, it got so bad she had to be sectioned!! But now she is getting better and hopefully will be out of hospital soon to be with her husband and baby daughter, so please seek my advice, she can't get better on her own.
Good luck and stay strong.
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