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writes:I lost my virginity to a guy i was dating nearly two years ago..he ended things quite soon after because he got back with his ex....so i never really got over him but carried on with things as normal.Completly out of the blue i got an email from him in july..asking how i was ect and apologised for how he acted.We emailed and txted for a month when i eventually asked what he wanted from this....he sent back an email reveling that he had a girlfriend who at the time was 7 months pregant with his baby..but he said they had a rocky relationship and didnt think it would last long after she gave birth. We spoke on the phone for the first time 2 weeks ago and have called or txted each other everyday since.We meet up yesterday..and straight away all the feelings i had previously had came rushing back....We went back to his and after sitting around talking and messing around for a while lay on the bed to watch a film....we ended up kissing and more.I stoped at one point and said that i coudnt go any futher because of his girlfriend. He said that we had already crossed the mark, but we stopeded, he then said he needed to know that if he was going to leave his girlfriend he needed to know i could commit to a relationship....we then stoped and spoke and he said he felt really awkard and embrassed for almost begging....so we agreed to call it a day.We held hands in the car on the way home and kissed goodbye.I couldnt help later on feeling really guilty about the situation 1. Because he has a pregant girlfriend 2. Because i almost felt like i was leading him on.PLease help me i still have really strong feelings for him but dont know what to do?
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (28 October 2007):
You shouldnt feel guilty. To be honest he is a coward if he cant be bothered to tell his girlfriend how he feels.
i think you should move on. Do you really want a guy who could do that to his pregnant girlfriend??
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reader, JackieR +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Think about it, if this guy really loved you, like you want him to, he would leave his girlfriend!!!! and he would not make you responsible for the break up!!
I think he is using you, and i think deep down you know it too!! I bet if his girlfriend was not pregnant, he would not be sniffing round you, i imagine she can't have sex at the moment, so, i'm afraid, that is where you come in!!
Sorry to sound hurtful but i think you need to know what is REALLY going on, do yourself a favour and forget about him, he is not man enough to break up with his girfriend without dragging you into it, is that what you want from life, come on you deserve better than that!!!
just forget about him, see him for what he is, remove the rose tinted glasses!!!
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Hi.
You did the right thing, there are a couple of things you should really consider before you commit anything to him, i know that when some woman are pregnant they loose their sex drive and some males go off with other woman for that reason alone and no other.
Because she is pregnant you should not even considering this guy at all, when the baby is born he will most likely be over joyed at farther hood and will not bother you again i hope.
If he does leave his girlfriend with child, what will that really say about him, then if he comes to you and you should fall pregnant, will he be phoning another girlfriend and leaving you holding your baby.
This guy is total trouble to you, and you would be better not getting involved with him for your own sake,you have proof what he is really like, he tried it on with you and you knew it was wrong, so you stopped him, if you had not then he would have received what he wanted from you all along.
I would really give this guy up, he is no good for you, he will do the same to you as he is doing to his other girlfriend, for your own sake, keep away from him.
hope this helps you.
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (28 October 2007):
i would put yourself in his pregnant girlfriends position. how would you feel if your bf suddenly went off with someone who hed met a couple of years ago. i would try and forget about him. tell him he needs to be there for the baby. imagaine if it was you who was pregnant and your bf went off with someone. im not trying to be mean and i hope im not coming across as mean, but please the baby needs a father wholl be there.
lol
ellie
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reader, dominicanelly  +, writes (28 October 2007):
its really hard to completly get over someone..but it soundz to me like he's coming to you for some fun. he has a girl pregnant so you should just let him go..its wrong on your part but mainly on his for going back to you just because things are getting rocky with his girl...your like the rebound...find someone that wants to be with you regrdless and that your not thier 2nd opion....
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