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writes:I met this guy online a 5 months ago, before that we had sent pics back and fourth, we talked about everything..he is in the middle of a divorce right now..He has never said he loved me but he did say he was falling for me..I fell in love way to quick..he says he is not ready for a serious relationship but he calls me everyday 7 or 8 times, we talk about having sex but have not yet, we have only made out a few times and went out on a few dates, he has come over to my apartment but never got to that point. He says Im not ready for a relatinship, he says he wants a woman that is sure of herself and that I have issues with low self esteem..He said he wants me to grow and I should find happiness no matter what, he says he doesn't know what the future holds for us but that I should not give up, he knows I love him and he is great with that...We have phone sex all the time and I know I can make him feel very good...the only thing we did was oral sex..(I guess that counts as sex) But he worries about me and my kids, when Im sick he makes sure I take my meds and that the kids have what they need (Im a widow) He works alot but he always finds the time to call me and stays on the phone with me for hrs...He tells me he cares for me very much...Do u think he is falling in love with me? He says he has never met anyone like me, we have so much in common...Should I act hard to get? Should I keep being the way i am? He says his wife never paid any attention to him like i do. Please tell me what I should do.I have never met anyone like him, I love him dearly.Thank You
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate:
He is still calling..he says Only time will tell, Im getting ancious, and he knows that and he trys and calms me down...He says he doesn't know what the future will bring...im pretty much at the same place as I was 1 month ago. He says that a string base with a string friendship is very important to him since he never had that with his wife.
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reader, JackieR  +, writes (21 October 2007):
 If he is going through a divorce right now, he is not in the right frame of mind to give you what you want, his emotions are all over the place. I think he cares for you alot, but he stopping himself from falling for you because he is scared of things repeating themselves, can you see this??
Just go easy on him, and understand where he is coming from and don't put any pressure on him, but you must stop putting him centre of your universe and build a life for yourself and your kids, they need to see their mum happy and content with herself, with or without a man!!
Just enjoy his relationship for what it is, and who knows what will happen!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i dont think its the oral sex since we only did it once in five months......so i guess thats out of the question.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (24 September 2007):
He is in it for the oral sex. He sees no need to make a commmitment. Play hard to get and I bet he will give up on you.
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