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writes:i split with my fiance a couple of days ago and im finding it really hard to cope. i just dont understand why he thought it wasnt working and within 24hours he decided we were not working no more how can i forget and move on im only 18 years old but feel like my life has ended please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): What I usually do to get over a break up is I think the worst. For instance, I ask myself "does he still think of me" And I'm like NO probably not. "has he met someone else?" And I'm like yeah probably. "Is he over me?" He probably is. "Is he going to call?" Probably not. And stuff like that. I just think the worst and convince myself that he is over me and has moved on. Just thinking that gives me the push to move on myself. Cause if I were sitting around convincing myself that he too is sitting around thinking of me, I may be disappointed in the end. So instead I try to be realistic. And it helps me move on from my loss.
And the truth is that when a guy doesn't call they probably have moved on and are doing things that you do not want to know about. But be strong and don't worry about that. Because soon enough you will be doing your own thing too. So just convince yourself that he has moved on. And use that to push yourself to be on your own and forget him. And don't let it bring you down. On the contrary. Use this rejection as a motivation to workout and get beautiful and just be as fabulous as you can be. Be strong. It is not the end of the world. I promise. In alot of ways it is only the beginning. Don't be scared. Good luck.
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reader, JackieR +, writes (23 September 2007):
 Please believe me you will get over this, you just need a bit of time. I know he has really hurt you but don't feel too bad about him as he probably doesn't know what he wants. So it has nothing to do with you, he is probably at a young age were he is still trying to figure himself out, which is what you should be doing!!! You are only 18 and you have your whole life ahead of you. So when you feel like it (but don't leave it too long) get out there with your mates and have a great time being free to do what you really want to do. When you find someone again, take it easy and dont rush into things!! Believe me when you get older life becomes more complicated so enjoy your young free and single days because they don't last forever, and either will the way you feel at the minute.
Getting over somemone is a bit like having the flu, you feel like shit for a wee while but it soon passes!!
Best wishes and keep your chin up, and live your life!!
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