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writes:dear cupid\I'm in a distance relationship with this guy, he is working and I am student, I'm 19 he is 24. At times he is all caring and loving, but when he is angry he calls me names and yet he says he loves me, he even wants to inpregnate me, but I dont think that he loves me enough, so i dont know if I should carry on with it or not - yet I love him so much! Reply to this Question
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reader, tinkerbell29  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 hi hun,
Please don't let this man take advantage of u anymore. He says he loves you but he doesn't show many signs of it and certainly doesn't respect you as a person and most importantly as his partner. Don't let this man get you pregnant, if he treats you like this now just imgine how he would treat you if you were to have his child. Children do not fix troubled relationships, they can make them even worse with the added responsibility being a key factor. Also this man does not live near you, which means you would probably be left alone to bring up the child. Please think very carefully, the best advice i can give you right now is to continue with your studies and gain yourself a career. And if things do not work out with him then at least there isnt a child involved. You might not think it right now, but there is a man out there who will love you, respect you and treat you in the way in which you deserve, you just haven't met him yet.
take good care of yourself and most of all be careful in your choices! xx
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (7 October 2007):
 You say you love the guy - but he calls you names? and clearly doesn't want you to get pregnant by him? If a man loved you, you would know about it - he'd treat you with respect, be with you constantly and would probably want your kids - but he doesn't seem interested, does he? Is this bloke what you really want? There are plenty more fish in the sea...And please don't even consider getting pregnant by him, what kind of a life would it be for your child? Just be sensible about this!
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): Why are you even considering having a baby with this bloke???
He is not for you and you well know it, you deserve someone who will treat you 100% so dont even consider having a child with this oaf!! Get rid and meet someone else.
take care
xx
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reader, JackieR +, writes (7 October 2007):
 Why do you love someone who doesn't treat you right???
Please DO NOT get pregnant with this guy, you may think that this will make him love you but it won't. First of all babies are very hard work were both parents have to give up so much and this can bring alot of strain into the relationship, and your relationship is already strained, so can you see how it will make things worse.
Secondly, i know this is hard, but you can not MAKE anyone love you no matter how hard you try, and being in love with someone shouldn't be this much hard work, what do you think??
Thirdly, it would be a mistake to bring a baby into a world were he/she's parents are not sure about each other, especially if he gets angry and calls he/she's mother names, do you think that will make a child happy???
You are 19 years old, you are too young to be this unhappy, go out in to this big world, explore it, have fun, fall in love, create new frienships AND BE HAPPY for your own sake, you don't deserve to be anything else, and enjoy your young years, belive me they don't last long.
Good luck!!
ps, DON'T GET PREGNANT!!!!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (7 October 2007):
 You do not treat someone that you love in that way, i would be very wary of him and would definatly not be even thinking about having a child with him.
Take care.xx.
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (7 October 2007):
 So do you actually want a baby? I'm 19 too and I want to do things in my life before that huge responsibility. Don't you? Is it a long distance relationship because if it is...will the baby see his father enough? A baby is a big step and you need to make sure you want to before hand. :) reply if you want to love just-ask-xx
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