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*ageyz001
writes:hi i need some advice as i am going CRAZY about this at the moment.. so i have been seing this girl online for about 3 months now and things have been going well but this week she told me that i have been trying to contact her too much and that it is putting her off me! i am terrified that i am going to lose her even though she hasnt said that we might be over certain things she has said in our conversations have made me almost convinced that she is going to leave me. what should i do i really need some advice as some people have been telling me to set a date in my head and if she hasnt decided by that date that i should break it off with her and move on(which i dont really want to do because these last few months have been the best of my life) and other people are saying to "hang in there" and ride it out!! please help me i dont want to lose who i am convinced is the only one for me!thanks for your help and all answers welcome!
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reader, JackieR +, writes (21 October 2007):
 I think you have got a bit carried away here, going by the fact that you have never met. I know your emotions are all over the place but for you own sake you need to chill out big style!! You must take your rose tinted glasses off for a second and put things into perspective, get into the real world. Do you spend most of your free time on the computer, chatting on line?? If so you have got to ask yourself why??If and when you do met, have you thought that there may be no chemistry between you? then what will you do?It seems to me that you are putting too much energy and attention into this 'friendship' and you need to get out there and meet real people who you can see. You are so young yet, you shouldn't be so hung up on things at this stage in your life, believe me!!So leave the computer alone for a while, get out there and have some fun NOW!!!Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): I suppose this is the main problem with internet friendships. I could be wrong on this but:-
Over the internet, it's easy to mis-represent yourself in some way, and the mental picture you have of each other bears no resemblance to the reality. She's probably totally different to what you were expecting, and now it's 'crunch time' - you're planning to visit - and she's panicking at the thought of you finding out what she's really like, probably her looks or something, having sent you a photo of herself before she put on 50lbs.
I would guess she's trying to put you down gently, and is backing off. You might think she's like Kylie, when in fact she could be a double for Jo Brand.
Phil
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Ohh right,
Well in that case, I would back of for a while and see if she makes contact with you. As the previous aunt said "she may miss your contact" and could make her realise that your not at her heels.
Hope it goes OK. XX
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reader, pageyz001 +, writes (4 October 2007):
pageyz001 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust a quick update she has had my phone number from day 1 and i have spoken 2 her and was going to go and see her this month(we havent met yet) the problem i am asking about has just arrised this week(MONDAY)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): Just give her your phone number and leave it at that. If she wants to get in touch with you, she will. And leave off with the internet chat for the time being. She might even miss your presence. If you don't hear from her, move on and find a 'real' person to talk to.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): have you actually met her? if not, she could be anybody. there's no way of knowing that she's the only one for you because she might be totally different in real life compared to how she acts online.
if she's saying that then she might not be as interestedm in you as you are in her. i'd leave it alone and focus on getting to know someone you can see not someone over the internet.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (4 October 2007):
Hi,
I am a bit confused. When you say you are seeing her online, does this mean you havnt actually met her in person?.
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