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writes:About four weeks ago I met someone online and we immediately hit it off. She was beautiful in her photos, fascinating to talk to and we have quite a lot in common. We chatted for about an hour, batting responses back and forth and she said it was good to have someone intelligent to talk to for a change, which I felt quite good about, despite the somewhat negative phrasing.The next day I wrote to her again. I didn't get any response for several days, so I wrote again, saying she'd dropped off the radar, asking after her and complimenting her on her new photo. The next day she replied saying sorry, she had gone to Spain and would email me when she got back. I wished her a wonderful time and said I looked forward to hearing about it when she was back. Four days later I decided to ask when she was due back. I noticed she had logged onto the site the day before but I didn’t say anything about it. She replied, telling me about Spain but said nothing about coming back. I felt boosted by her email and replied enthusiastically. I also asked her if she wanted to meet up when she was back. A couple of days later I emailed her again to give her my private email address and tell her about some job vacancies I thought would interest her. I didn’t hear from her for nine days so I wrote to say it had been a while and cheekily ask if she was still talking to me. She replied saying sorry, she’d been busy and asking if I was OK.I feel frustrated and disappointed. I think I’ll leave her to contact me if and when she feels like it, although I hate not knowing where I stand! Any advice on how I can get peace of mind? Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses. I appreciate what you're saying and see the sense in it. I think I was probably feeling needier than I needed to. I'm creating more activity and satisfaction for myself and continuing to chat to as many people as poss.
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reader, JackieR +, writes (21 October 2007):
 You have only started chatting 4 weeks ago, that is not a long time, so my advice is to back off a bit as you seem to be taking things too seriously at such an early stage which i'm afraid puts people off, which is what's happening here!!You sound like a lovely guy, but you seem to be in a rush to met 'the one', is this true?? Just go easy, relax, flirt a bit and enjoy yourself, just don't take it so seriously. i know you would scare the hell out of me!!!Make sure you are chatting to others also!!!Have fun!!!
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (2 October 2007):
Back off dude. You're expecting too much too fast. You are freaking her out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): Talk, ask her just what is going on? If nothing then move on. There are plenty more lovely people out there who you so deserve and have a right to be with. Dont let this dampen your enthusiasm, its not the end of the world.
take care
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