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I am just me, a person that has lived through unrequited love (more often than not).
A person that hasnt had it neither hard nor easy, I have had to work for what I have got but I havent had to claw my way out of poverty.
I am a pretty easy person to please I just ask for a little consideration, understanding and love.
A smile costs nothing yet it gives much.
I had a family berevement recently, I found it hard but I have came through it, I hope that it will be resolved in a satisfactory manner soon.
I have 2 parents and I think they have done a great job.
I love reading, I write too and draw.
I love the company of others as much as my own.
I have recently got married, and I am now mum to baby Donald things are amazing!
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My ex partner is seeking a property settlement... !
Q. Was in a 10 year relationship with my NOW Ex-partner as I agreed to finish his house off...However he has got a solicitor and asking alot more than agreed,Im really needing advice what can he claim for knowing that he got a first homers grant in ...
A. 7 August 2007: The only thing I can think of is to have a word with your solicitor, you need someone that knows how the leagal side of these things work. I dont know how things work in America (or england for that matter lol) but the only sound advice I can give... (read in full...)
Ladies, do you like your man's genitalia...shaved, trimmed, or manly as possible??
Q. Shaved, trimmed, or manly as possible? Wondering if girls prefer a guys pubs to be shaved, trimmed or all together hairy, personally I always assumed shaving it all off was the gently thing to do for a chick. That and doing so makes your penis...
A. 24 April 2007: I like a man to be a man, I like to know that I am with a feller and not a boy so I like hair, if it is trimmed then thats all to the good too.
But I do like shaven balls because when I suck them I like to feel ball on my tongue and not swallow lots... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out before or after my face surgery?
Q. i've never had a girlfriend although i'm very popular amongst girls. i've tried to make my personality really good to make up for the bad looks and it works. well i've asked out few girls and got rejected. recently i really like my friend but not ...
A. 24 April 2007: I think that if she likes you already then she likes you already but it cant help to have a bit of "help" on your side.
I would say dont say anything till after the surgery, No matter what any one says there does have to be physical attraction ther... (read in full...)
I've been seeing the guy from work, trouble is how do we be together when there's an object in the way.... The Boss!! ?
Q. Hello, My problem is that I've met a guy, ive been working with him now for about 3months and he's so lovely... Just recently i got his number and we've texted and spoke to eachother on the phone everyday... We've met up a few times and i spent th...
A. 17 April 2007: Do you think your boss would be so petty? Is your boss the type of person to split you up this way?
If you think the answer is no then I think that this bloke might be making up excuses for not being with you but getting what he wants.
If you thin... (read in full...)
I have trouble reaching orgams, Only one man made this happen for me, what can I do to make them part of my sex life ?
Q. Dear Cupid, I do have one more question. Im 29 years old and having trouble having orgasm. I was 22 years old when I first had one and that was with my daughter father. It's like even today he is the only person that I can have one with. I had ...
A. 17 April 2007: Firstly be honest, not in a confrontational way.
If you love your boyfriend then tell him that you havent been happy but with his help you can be.
Try to relax with him, you love him and he loves you it should be an exploration of your bodies, ... (read in full...)
How can I love her personality but not be physically attracted to her!?
Q. ok i met this girl online she lives in the same city as me i have talked to her and so on........but I absolutely have practically fallen in love with her personality.....but i met her recently but she has a nice body nice eyes.....but her face ...
A. 17 April 2007: Beacuse you met on the net I take it that you didnt swap photos, I think what has happened is that even if you didnt know you were doing it you were building up a mental picture of her, When you meet you find out that she doesnt match the pic of her ... (read in full...)
Im 30, and Im not that sexually experienced, thought about hiring an escort but Im too scared! I need experience what do I do ?
Q. Inexperienced in need of serious help... I'm 30yrs old and have had about 3 sexual experiences with women. my problem is that i don't know what to say or do during sex, and my last encounter was about 8 years ago and the longer it goes on the hard...
A. 17 April 2007: I yern to be in your shoes, but I am not and you are.
I would be so happy to have you as my bf, it would make a refreshing change, Single parents arent a minority any more and I cant help feeling that if I am with a man that has children then his ... (read in full...)
She knew about the event before it took place, could she now get in to trouble even though she wasnt involved ?
Q. Hi everyone i need help i know this girl and she is going around telling everyone about a murder that happend a couple of days ago that she knew about it befor it happend and i was wondering if anyone knows if she will get into trouble if she was ...
A. 17 April 2007: I think that the police would be very happy to hear from her, I dont think she would get in to trouble as such but she would be questioned.
How did she know it was going to happen? where did she get the info?
Does she know who did it?
What you ... (read in full...)
I need more confidence in myself for starting realtionships. Any tips?
Q. Hi there, Basically, i am a 21 year old female who has been single for just under two years. Although i dont think that this is a huge amount of time, the time has affected me quite severly i think. Firstly, i am not unattractive - although...
A. 7 April 2007: I have been single for a lot longer than that and dont feel impeeded in my conversation at all, thats because I use chat lines to talk to people, I talk on the net and although I dont use speed dating I would do if I had the cash. With the chat lin... (read in full...)
I find it meaningless to relate emotionally with girls . Can this create problems in the long term?
Q. Please help, i am a single guy and have got some serious issues with girls. I just find it meaningless to relate emotionally with girls mainly for the kind of control they seek and demands they put. So i can only think about having wild sex with ...
A. 7 April 2007: if you want to at som etime settle down and have children then yes it will cause problems, if you want to be in and out of beds treating women as sex objects for the rest of your life then not a problem at all.
I think that you dont want to trea... (read in full...)
I'm dating my cousin's best friend. Is it wrong?
Q. i met my cousin's best mate at my cousin's wedding, he asked me out for a coffee after that and we have been dating since then. my cousin came back from his honeymoon last week. should we tell him specifically? its not WRONG is it?...
A. 7 April 2007: No its not wrong at all, if it were your cousin you were dating then i would have problems with it, I would say if it is worrying you then just take your cousin to one side and just say that you are dating your cousins mate and you feel that your ... (read in full...)
I'm curious about men in porn. Am I gay!?!
Q. I've never been one to watch porn, but I must admit that it does make me interested and a bit a annoyed when they don't show the full front of the guy on tv. I've always been having issues with my sexuality, but even with porn I'm more attracted t...
A. 7 April 2007: personally speaking I am a female that enjoys gay porn but i have come to realise that it is because that gay porn is more "loving" and considerate, with it being two men it is more equal than when it is with a man and a woman.
It might be that you ... (read in full...)
We are both virgins and his penis is too big, so we cant get it up!?
Q. my boyfriend and I are both virgins and his penis is too big that we cannot get it up ! what can we do ?...
A. 7 April 2007: Right, it sounds that you arent relaxed enough to take him, I know from experience that it doesnt matter how big it is so long as you are relaxed enough excited enough and well lubricated it will slide in.
If you arent producing enough natural lubr... (read in full...)
We used to argue and bicker all the time but now that he's gone I miss him.
Q. Hello, i live in a sheltered housing for people over 50. There is a shared lounge that we can use to meet up. As we are all over the ages of fifty, we often meet there, and have our own little groups. Just lately one of the gentlemen who live there ...
A. 7 April 2007: To me the bickering sounds like sexual tention, I know women after a certain age dont tend to het the urges but that dosnt mean to say that yuo aret getting them.
I suggest that you get his number of his bosom buddy give him a ring and tell him that... (read in full...)
I feel so depressed all the time. How can I get back to my happy bubbly self?
Q. hii at the moment i am 14 and pretty much every day im deppressed even when im with my mates and having a great time people will always ask whats up becuase these past 2 years have been awful for me and i dont no how to get back to myself again i ...
A. 7 April 2007: I think that you need to talk to an adult that will be confidential.
Either a councilor at school, or a teacher that you feel comfortable with, you have alot going on in your life to be dealing with and if you cant talk to your mum about it then... (read in full...)
I've got genital warts, does this mean I will have to use a condom for the rest of my life, what about when I want to conceive ?
Q. I just started dating a guy and he knows that I have genital warts and we haven't had sex yet. I eventually want to have kids, I'm not talking about anytime soon, but when I do will I have to have his semen implanted inside me so that he doesn't get ...
A. 7 April 2007: genetal warts are caused by many things not just having sex with some one who has them.
once they have been cleared up there is no chance of catching them from you. I suggest you wear a condom any way because there are much more dangerous std's out ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make sex and putting on a condom more natural ?
Q. He is one of the sweetest guys I have ever been with and, although our sex life is realtively good, he gets immediately turned off after reaching for the condom. He is much less experienced in bed than I am and he gets quite nervous about the ...
A. 7 April 2007: There are ways to make it an enjoyable experience, you could put it on with your mouth during oral, or while you masturbate him, or ask him to wank using a condom when hes on his own, getting used to it by himself might cure his uncomfortableness. ... (read in full...)
She just suddenly left me for someone else after 7 yrs, what should I do with all her stuff ?
Q. My girlfriend of 7yrs has walked out,offering no explanation and is seeing somebody she works with. I have tried to contact her,without stalking or phoning her all the time but she will not respond. I have to accept that the relationship has...
A. 7 April 2007: I think that you should change the locks txt or leave a voice mail telling her that this is the case if she is still not answering your calls.
During the voice mail or txt give her a time limit to collect her stuff and when you will be around to l... (read in full...)
How do I stop ejaculating so quickly?
Q. how do you stop yourself from ejaculating to quick? I used to be able to last longer!! but now seem to be to quick, is it because im enjoying myself to much? i wnt my gf to enjoy it aswell its not fair....
A. 7 April 2007: I think that the item that sam was taliking about is called a cock ring!
Alternatively you know when you tense your muscles and it makes your cock jump?
If you strengthen these muscles you can achive what it known as a male multiple orgasm, ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappily married and infatuated with someone who is unavailable!
Q. At the outset, I just want to say that I'm in a lot of pain right now, so please don't add to it by being judgmental. I'm already juding myself pretty badly. To sum up my situation: Married 7 years with one child. Marriage was arranged (from a...
A. 7 April 2007: I am so sorry you feel that there is no way out, there are always ways of getting things sorted that are much prefferable to death. The only thing I can think of is there some one you can talk to, a councellor, a friend, someone that would be confi... (read in full...)
Is there any way to desensitise the head of my penis?
Q. Hi I am a 17 year-old male. I have a problem with the head of my penis and I think it is too sensitive. It hurts a lot when I have an erection and when I touch it. My foreskin also does not retract when I get an erection, I think my frenum is too...
A. 7 April 2007: It sounds like a job for the doc, the only way to desensitise anything is through getting it used to being touched. But it sounds like you might have a medical problem with your foreskin and the best way to get this sorted is by talking to a doc, t... (read in full...)
I know I'm probably taking my feelings for her out on my friend, but I am really upset.
Q. My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up for a little over a year now. While I still have strong feelings for her and would love to get back together with her (she was the one who broke up with me), I feel like I live a happy single life and am ...
A. 7 April 2007: I dont think you are angry with the fact that they are together, but the fact that they went about it in such an underhanded way. You are totally right to have these feelings, If I was in your situation I would feel the same way you are. What you ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I ejaculate with out actually orgasming at all, is there something wrong with me?
Q. This problem is becoming increasingly more common and im worried something is wrong with me. Sometimes I ejaculate without orgasiming at all, i dont feel a thing, and im not talking about pre-cum here its full on ejaculation. Im just after some ...
A. 19 February 2007: If you masturbate quite a lot then you become desensatised.
You dont have the feeling of orgasm even though you have, if you think this could be the reason then try not masturbating for a week or so then when you do the feeeling should be back to n... (read in full...)
Starting to get feelings for the guy I'm messing with!
Q. I have been messing with this guy for awhile know. When we started we both agreed thats all it would be. I expected him to call once in awhile and ask for me to come over and do are thing and leave. But its more than that. We hang out almost ...
A. 6 February 2007: I wouldnt just end it out of hand, speak to him tell him everything give him a few days to think then speak to im again and see if there is anything to work towards.
Do you really want it because you are coming across very negative?... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man at my son's school. Should I approach him? If so, how?
Q. There is a man at my son's school who I have become very attracted to (yes I am a single mum). I know this guy is single unfortunately due to losing his wife to cancer. I would like to pluck up the courage to speak to him and get to know him but ...
A. 6 February 2007: Please dont feel like this, there is some one out there for every one and he may not have been the right one for you.
But please dont shelve any thoughts of happiness because it will come to you one day
xxx... (read in full...)
I broke up with my bf, then he called me I was angry so I didn't pick up, So later I called him back and he blanked me! I'm so confused! What does he want?
Q. My ex broke up with me about a week and a half ago. In this relationship, he has been nothing but rude to me and he treats me so horrible when I was being nice to him all the time. He was so emotionally and verbally abusive to me for the last 2 ...
A. 18 January 2007: he wants his cake and to eat it, he had a door mat (you know you were) and he loved having that control over you, you are out of it now leave well alone and move on, dont waste any more time, cedit or emotion on him!
Now is the time to rebuild your... (read in full...)
He doesn't know that I'm aware that he's a cross dresser! Do I tell him I know?
Q. I have been married for some time and never really had a great sex life with my husband. I think I did not really fancy him enough from the start and probably should not have married. We went without sex for most of our marriage (due to me)and are ...
A. 18 January 2007: Well if he does cross dress does this affect you in any way? are you wholly adverse to the idea? it could be that she is lying you just dont know how people react under "stress" and lets face it splitting up is a very stressful situation to be in, ... (read in full...)
My husband never defends or supports me! Does this mean he has no respect for me?
Q. My husband never supports me. He always seems to take everyone else's side on everything and it seems he always thinks I'm the one who's wrong no matter how small the problem or question. He will defend ANYONE before he tries to even put himself ...
A. 18 January 2007: I am afraid it does, you sound like you bow down to him more often than not, maybe he just doesnt have any respect for you, tell him that he either need to start respecting and appreciating you or you are out of his life!... (read in full...)
My friend and I leaned on each other during our marriage separations - now I'm seeing her ex!
Q. I separated from my husband last year and have started seeing someone else, a friend's husband, who are also separated. It's has got quite serious and we have been seeing each other secretly for several months. I know I am playing with fire, but, we ...
A. 18 January 2007: Well if he does cross dress does this affect you in any way? are you wholly adverse to the idea? it could be that she is lying you just dont know how people react under "stress" and lets face it splitting up is a very stressful situation to be in, ... (read in full...)
Scared to confront my husband about his online chatting and possible cheating - he said he was working when the pic says otherwise!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my husband for 6 yrs (married 4). He has been spending a lot of time online chatting to 1 particular woman, and just before x-mas he said he was thinking of leaving me, but that he wanted to work it out. I agreed t...
A. 18 January 2007: Well its obvious that something needs sorting out, ask him if he feel that you need time apart? Maybe he has a fettish that he is scared of telling you about.
This woman that he talks to might be nothing more than a confidant to this secret he MIGH... (read in full...)
Bf wants his space and is reluctant for us to live together because he thinks we're too dependent on eachother. Any thoughts?
Q. HI! My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months and we moved in together about a year ago, Jan 2006. It was he who suggested it. After a few months, in April, he and I thought we should move out and live separately because we'd been fighting ...
A. 18 January 2007: Maybe he is afraid that you will find someone else when he leaves?
Maybe hes scared of the whole commitment thing, it sounds a little more deep seated that just "was some things he couldn't do coz we live together n stuff"
Maybe take some time out... (read in full...)
Does he like me as much as he says he does? Because communication is not his strong point. He doesn't call as often as I'd like him to. Any thoughts?
Q. Hello well there is this guy we have been talking for a while, and right know he due not live in the state i live in and he says after bootcamp he want to come live in cali to be with me, he also says he likes me a lot, the prob. is that I dont ...
A. 17 January 2007: If he is saying he will move down/up to be with you then he must do, to behonest you look to be both a little young for such a move.
Actions do however speak louder than words, ask him to be honest with you.
If he keeps side stepping the issue ma... (read in full...)
I have a weird lump on my vagina. Does anyone know what it might be? Is it anything to worry about?
Q. Im a teen and i have a weird lump thing at the back of my vagina i dont have a clue what it is but if anyone knows or experiences the same thing please tell me ....
A. 17 January 2007: Go to the Doctor if you dont feel comfortable going to your family gp then go to family planning!!
They will examine it and tell yuo what it is and if it is something to worry about, no one can tell yuo what it is with out looking at it!!!
for i... (read in full...)
Should I choose Sociology or Religious studies as a GCSE subject? plz help me choose.
Q. i'm 14 from England, London and i'm in year 9 and its time for my GCSE options. i already know which ones i'm going to take as i really really really would love to become a lawyer, i have my career planned out already. but the thing is i hate my ...
A. 17 January 2007: I think the best thing for you to do is eather talk to your teachers, get in touch with a uni you might be thinking of goping to and have a word with one of the tutors there or find a firm of lawyers in london close to you and ask them which subject ... (read in full...)
We have a lot in common and I love him thing is... we've just met! What should I do?
Q. hey everyone I got this problem ok here it goes I like this boy who is 17 and he lives in South Carolina and he called me last night and we have been dating for a day but my problem is i love him and yes we have alot in common but we just met so ...
A. 17 January 2007: take it easy and see how things go ... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and I feel embarrassed and ashamed that I met a guy online. Any thoughts?
Q. hi how u doing i met this man online about a year ago we get on really well got the same sense of humour hes really caring when things were going wrong for me he rings me up we have talked on the phone and sent each other one pictures im just...
A. 17 January 2007: I have been meeting people online for a while now there is nothing wrong with it, just be careful when you meet.
Now days its as natural as meeting some one in a pub, atleast you didnt meet him in a strip joint!!... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and my left breast is smaller that the right breast. Is this normal?
Q. I'm 18 and my left breast is slightly smaller than the other, is this normal? Is there anything I can do to physically even them out, not with padding but the actual breast? I do girly push ups and light weight lifting to perk them, but is there a ...
A. 17 January 2007: yes it is normal, one foot is also bigger than the other,
it is usually a small difference.
but in some it can be quite noticeable, I knew a woman who had a c cup and an a cup breast. Do not worry about it.... (read in full...)
Why are my nips sore?
Q. ok, so my boyfriend and i are sexually active. and im on birth control, but my birth control makes me not have my period for 3 month which is great.but these past few weeks my boobs and expecialy my nipples are so sore. i can't be pregnant but i ...
A. 17 January 2007: The pill works because it contains hormones, those hormones either stop the egg settling on the uterus walls, stops the uterus getting ready for the egg or stops the eggs being produced (dependant on which method you use).
Now those hormones you ... (read in full...)
I met him through an internet dating agency and he was the ideal man... until he just disappeared off the face of the earth!
Q. ok, here's the deal. i recently split up with my boyfriend of 3 years and a friend told me to sign up to an internet dating agency where i met an amazing guy. we exchanged emails for a week, swapped numbers and last sunday we met up for the first...
A. 17 January 2007: it could be a case of hes lost your number or his phone and being a bloke didnt think to email you, you have checked your emails havent you?... (read in full...)
Starting to get feelings for the guy I'm messing with!
Q. I have been messing with this guy for awhile know. When we started we both agreed thats all it would be. I expected him to call once in awhile and ask for me to come over and do are thing and leave. But its more than that. We hang out almost ...
A. 16 January 2007: Communication!! tell him how you feel, you are calmly talking about ending it to save yourself. What about actually telling him and letting him have a decision too? At least that way if he doesnt feel the same way you wont have lost anything because ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man at my son's school. Should I approach him? If so, how?
Q. There is a man at my son's school who I have become very attracted to (yes I am a single mum). I know this guy is single unfortunately due to losing his wife to cancer. I would like to pluck up the courage to speak to him and get to know him but ...
A. 9 January 2007: hiya I think you shouldnt shelve any thoughts of being happy quite yet!
are your children friends? maybe you could arrange a party and invite his child to the party, sleep over, bowling party what ever you decide it to be, maybe get chatting to him ... (read in full...)
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