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*annah85
writes:Hi there, Basically, i am a 21 year old female who has been single for just under two years. Although i dont think that this is a huge amount of time, the time has affected me quite severly i think. Firstly, i am not unattractive - although i have very low self confidence, i do know that people do find me attractive. This presents me with the question of, 'well, why am i single?'. I feel I have started to lack in inspiration; how to have good dates or, how to have exciting conversations, I feel being a singleton for over two years has severely affected my social and communication skills without even mentioning my self confidence. I am afraid to let people in, i don't feel i am good at havng conversation anymore and generally feel like i have deteriorated as a person. Please help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2007): Hey Hun, well being single for just under two years you probably become very self reliant,Which is good but I think your low self-confidence, may be due to you feeling quite negative about the whole relationship’s situation which we all feel to a certain extent because relationships are complicated things, (it is not a bad thing that you stayed single for a bit)But part and parcel of “gaining back power or inner strength” is learning to play the game (the game can be dropped in my opinion when the partner Loves you and not before and your settled with this person until that time keep all negative traits in the cubud with your other skeletons) unfortunately though when we meet someone we feel comfortable with every ounce of us wants to let our guard down but if we want things to work we must put fourth our U.S.P(unique selling point)Lol! Just like a product we must show are best personality assets in a non-arrogant way,We must be interesting, don’t babble too much, (If you do at first which you will because it all is in good practice) don’t worry about it too much just try and correct your behavior, Don’t be afraid of pauses Listen to them find out all about them massage there ego in a subtle way, Please don’t feel like you’ve deteriorated as a person that’s why you must find something that’s your own U.S.P this can be your career if you enjoy your JobYour college/university if your enjoying your degree,You’re good friendships, or any hobby that you enjoy and shine at. Let these things rebuild you as a person because then you will express more confidence, Good Luck ?
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (7 April 2007):
 I have been single for a lot longer than that and dont feel impeeded in my conversation at all, thats because I use chat lines to talk to people, I talk on the net and although I dont use speed dating I would do if I had the cash.With the chat line its like msn but you send vocal messages to each other I do have the number if you would like to build up your conversational skills then get in contact with me.I will say that there are men on there purely for sex and there are men on there that do want a genuine chat, just like in a pub.With the chat line they havent a clue who you are, or how to get in touch unless you give them any details.it is safe and im here if you want to chat to me.
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