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anonymous
writes:Hello, i live in a sheltered housing for people over 50. There is a shared lounge that we can use to meet up. As we are all over the ages of fifty, we often meet there, and have our own little groups. Just lately one of the gentlemen who live there has had to move out to live with his elderly father. The thing is, i really miss him. I don't know why because all we ever did was bicker. He is the youngest of us all and has had many ladyfriends. (he has never married) He just doesnt stay with them that long. Once after a few weeks of going out with one unfortunate lady, he never saw her again because she had one leg. I told him he was a horrible little man, but oddly enough the fact that he stopped seeing her cheered me up. But why?Even though we bicker, which i quite enjoy because i like to argue, which must sound strange to you all itself, i find myself drawn to him. But before he left to live with his father, we fell out. It was over something stupid, crossed wires i think, but for 4 months i haven't seen him. He has never visited, even though one of the other male residents is his bosom buddy.I am not one to say sorry for something i don't know i've done, but i find myself thinking that if i saw him just once, i would apologise.Lately i was talking to a girl of around twenty-two, one of the residents grand-daughters and after listening to me and her grandmother talking about him, me reminiscing about the things that happened between us, she asked if i missed him and that is when i realised i did. My husband died ten years ago and i've never looked at another man since. So why am i missing him. I can't say i find him attractive, or don't even think i could ever love him, but the thing comes to the same conclusion.I don't know what i can do now, because, even though i do many things to distract me, i always come back to thinking of him.I am sorry for the repetive 'i miss him's' but i don't understand what is going on? Does that make me sound naive, even at my age?Any advice would be greatly appreciated.Thankyou.
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (7 April 2007):
 To me the bickering sounds like sexual tention, I know women after a certain age dont tend to het the urges but that dosnt mean to say that yuo aret getting them.
I suggest that you get his number of his bosom buddy give him a ring and tell him that you enjoyed your "discusions" and that yuo would liek t see him again.
Life is short even at my end of the spectrum can you afford to wait to be happy?
I know I cant If i was in your shoes Id call him.
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