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writes:I am a 22 year old virgin female not sure about online dating. Is it ok? Though I am trying to finish college I decided not to start dating until I am 25 or 26, however not only did my mother tell me not to date during junior high and high school and college, no boys or men asked me. Anyway if I start online dating which are the best ones and is it ok to tell them that I am a virgin? Reply to this Question
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reader, Carina  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Personally I don't think online dating is much different than meeting a stranger in a bar. Anyone is potentially a weirdo and the answer is to be extremely aware at all times. Don't let anyone know your address or landline phone number and make sure you meet them in public places and not near your home. Always tell a friend where you're going to be and it's a good idea to text a car registration number to a friend when you first meet a guy.
I agree about not falling in love with someone you've never met or who lives many miles away. It can cause a lot of problems and if you haven't met someone it's very easy to build up a fantasy about them. You'll only be disappointed when you actually meet. Try to be realistic about the whole thing.
There a lot of genuine guys out there but there are also those who are just out for what they get and who will lie. I wouldn't even discuss sex/virginity or anything like that with a guy until you know him. He either likes you for who you are or he doesn't and whether or not you're a virgin is totally irrelevant.
Online dating is lots of fun and can lead to great relationships and new friends, but be very careful....as you would meeting a stranger anywhere else.
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reader, NuVu +, writes (27 July 2007):
I would strongly encourage you to stay away from online dating. I've heard some of the saddest stories ever from people who chose to date online. OK, with that said, I've been dating the same person for 18 months who i met online. Yes, you can find success, but its just much more dangerous and difficult and because you lack dating experience it might be more difficult for you to spot a dirt bag.
If you do decide to online date let me offer this suggestion. DON'T FALL IN LOVE ONLINE. Don't waste your time falling for someone around the world or even 50 miles a way. Find someone local and instead of writing emails for 3 months, write for a couple weeks and then go meet out for coffee or lunch. Use online dating to meet people not develop a relationship. If they sound pretty cool after 3-4 emails make plans to get together. It make no sense to fall head over heals with someone online when its a greater than 50% that your online chemistry will not carry over to the face to face meeting.
As for you being a virgin, its not a big deal, its not like your the 40 year old virgin. There is virtually no reason in the world you should bother mentioning this in an email or online. This should only be shared once you've developed some intimacy face to face with somone.
Good luck.
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reader, Helen Help! :)  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Hey so heres my opinion online dating is ok i think that love is hard enough to find and spreading your search is great but it can also be very dangerous there are alot of weirdos out there and over the internet you can never really no if a person is tellin the truth about them selves just keep that in mind. and also if u ever find anyone u like and they want to meet up take a friend along with you in a public place preferably day time just to be safe for a while. Its not necerssery to tell them your a virgin but if you feel comfortable enough to do so then thats fine its up to you. There is a programme that comes on sky tv if you have it called e-love its great shows you what happends when these couples finally meet up whove met on the internet sometimes it works out n sometimes it doesnt another thing to keep in mind is tht lond distance relationships can be very very hard. i cant really give u any advice on which dating sites to look at as ive never used them but there are pleanty out there so good look be carful and have fun :)
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reader, daglish  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 I was avirgin at 21. Nothing feels as good as being a virgin even when everybody is screwing around you . Infact if i was the lucky guy dating dating you online, i would do everything to take this electronic relate to the highest level possible. Feel free to tell anyone you are dating online what exactly coz nobody runs a site to have it used by a bunch of liarz! think about the fact that your g spot is still full of pure expensive red wine and any man would die to have you my dear..
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