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writes:My boyfriend is very relaxed about his personal hygiene and is quite happy to have only one shower a day in the morning regardless of what activities he has been doing during the day and only cleans his teeth in the morning too. I am the opposite and always have a couple of showers a day, particularly before going to bed and I am always prepared for whatever sexual activity might take place when we are together. This is now becoming a problem for me as I refuse to have oral sex with him unless he washes himself first and as he likes sex in the morning it means that he may have gone 24 hours without a wash and then expects me to make love to him. I have told him so many times but he doesnt get the message. He also insists on not shaving over the weekend as he does it all week and says his skin needs a rest. My previous boyfriends have always been pristine about their appearance and personal hyiene and I don't know why I stay with one who is the exact opposite.Advice please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): Jeeze, LIGHTEN UP! Dont you think your being irrational? As some of the others have said, one shower a day is very hygenic! Its not fair on your boyfriend to compare him to your exes! How would you feel if your boyfriend compared YOU to his ex girlfriends! If he say showers in the morning, and you have sex at say 8pm, thats 12 hours, thats nothing! Everybody sweats, EVEN YOU! Its the bodys natural process, and your going to have to get used to itFair enough that you want him to be clean before you go down on him, what girl wouldnt? But why dont you try using a flavoured condom? then you wont be able to taste anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies and I like the one about the wet rag as I had thought of this but thought he might take offence at that as it is the unwashed private bits that concerns me most about him and not so much the fully body wash so I will lighten up a bit and put this into practise and surprise him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Oh my god woman. Lighten up on him. 1 shower and tooth brushing a day is average. Men can't stand women that tell us that we're dirty, especially when we clean regularly. Your personality will probably not work with this boyfriend of yours as you both mature. And if you WANT it to work you're gonna have to realize that sometimes ya gotta get dirty before you get clean. The human body sweats, thats just how it goes.
I do have one suggestion for goin down on him though. As An uncircumsized man, i know its easy to have some foulness come from down there in just a few hours. I'd suggest wetting a washrag and keeping it nearby if you plan on going down. Then right as you unzip him , give him a once over gently with the rag. Then when your done, use a warm rag to clean him off. We love that.
Happy hunting
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 June 2007):
I dont think he sounds seriously that bad, why dont you tell him to have a shower at night instead of the morning. If i was you and i saw this as such a big problem i would just leave him.
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reader, angelica111 +, writes (13 June 2007):
 Hi anon!
Hygiene is really important to me too. I feel w/ you completly, but do not know how it would be best to make it loud and clear to your boyfriend that you don't appreciate his less hygenic ways of living.
In general, a man will not want to change any habits of his, until he's madly in love, but the 'better' habits will sooner or later fade away agian too.
I was shocked that he only brushes his teeth once a day!!! Help!
Can you still make love to a guy who's so the opposite to you? I would advice you not to do so, especially in the morning, he might get the message then... As a woman, it is better to ACT (in action) than react (verbally). Men in general do not hear women talk about what they like or not concerning the man himself, so it's much wiser to do something than just talk. I know it might sound difficult, but the result will be there and fast. Of course there's a risk that if he's not so attached to you, he'll walk out. But then, if he hasn't had more in his brain and heart, that should be the best relief for you, no?
I hope all turns ot well, good luck, yours, angelica
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (13 June 2007):
 Hey Huni one shower a day is very hygienic i no someone who has about 2 a week his gf absolutly hates it so from that aspect think your self lucky lol n ok i suppose you cant really change him but you can tempt him if he wants sex tell him he has to shower or wash first im sure he would but honestly he doesnt sound like a total loss if he at least showers everyday and just think so what if he doesnt have a shave over the weekend its only 2 days out of the five and hey weekends are for resting if you love him that much it shouldnt matter what he looks like i no its nice to find your partner attractive and you should but its just a bit of stubble :) take care
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reader, GAMEchief  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 There's nothing wrong with showering once a day. Lighten up a little. As for the "going 24 hours without showering," that's not true. In 24 hours after his last shower, it will be time for a shower again. You're thinking approximately 12 hours (morning to night). That's a huge difference, and it might ease your thoughts a little on how long it's been in between a shower and sex.
But, all in all, he's a guy. If you _demand_ that he showers before sex, by golly, he'll do it. But don't complain that he doesn't shower on the nights you don't offer sex, odds are, he won't. It's going to be a hard habit for him to break. He probably never will, and I wouldn't expect him to. You just need to get used to once a day, twice on days with sex.
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