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writes:I am in a relationship that my family is not OK with. How can I stay on good terms with my family, but not have to leave my boyfriend?A few years ago I moved to the USA, and I began a relationship with an illegal immigrant. We've been together for 3 years, and he is a great guy. My family really should have no reason to dislike him, but they don't want me involved with an illegal. I don't think this is fair of my family to put limits on us just because he is not from the US. What can I do? I love my family, but I love him too... Reply to this Question
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reader, Spl-ash  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 HEY!!
sometimes you can't help being illegal...
i've known a few and their reasons, have you try explaining your family why he is illegal?
I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago because of family pressure and now am regretting big time. i was rash and indecisive, but i hurt us both and we are both very depressed on our sides and he does not want to get bak together cause he fears my family will get involved again... can't blame him really.
i want him like hell...
What i mean to say is learn from my mistake... if you want to be with him and believe you can make it work, DO IT!!
at the end of the day it's YOUR happiness and it counts. give your family time, they will come around once they realise your relationship is strong and sincere. mine came round only after they've seen the wreck i've become...
Don't let him go if you love him...
all the best
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (13 June 2007):
 Hey huni
You just have to try get thru to your family that you really love him at the end of the day they are your family and will love you no matter what and will want you to be happy what i suggest is you gettin your family to allow your bf round to meet them if they havnt already and if they have then jus see if he can come over for dinner so you can all sit down and have a chat about it then he can put on the charm and hopefully win them over a little. he just needs to gain their respect and see even tho what he is doing is wrong that hes not a bad person and you are in love good luck :)
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