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writes:I've been going with my boyfriend for a year and 1/2(since I was about 2 turn 13) and I love him so much and I know he feels the same but I think I can only love him 50/50 percent because there's no promise that we'll be together for a long time. Is there any chances of us making our relationship last a long time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Helen is correct..love and dating is all about risk, taking chances, no guaruntees. You are a young adolescent and am I to draw the conclusion, your bf is, also. I cannot tell you if there any chance of making this relationship, long term. Usually teens your age, date a variety of people and continually change dating partners during these developing years. In some cases, there are teens that date exclusively just one person throughout all their adolescence. But I can say, please do not go into a steady dating relationship, thinking that if you don't get a 'long term promise' of commitment from this boy, you will not give a 100% to a dating relationship with him, hun. We don't make our feelings for another conditional, if we don't get what we want. Dating takes time and efforts of both people to making it work. However, if you are uncertain and holding back for any other reason, such as he is not treating you well, then you definitely should not be looking at long term with this guy. But if he's kind and tolerant, you should also be putting in your best efforts to make this an equally balanced relationship. If you want him to be your long-term, steady bf, then it's a good idea to sit him down and tell him what this relationship means to you. You both should be in agreement that this what you 'both' want. Be honest with each other and find out if your bf will want to date other people, someday. He'll likely state 'he doesn't know'. Because he truely doesn't know and neither do you. Every relationship you undertake, is a risk. We can't say what the future brings. Put forth the best of what you have to offer and just let this play out. And if it doesn't end up being long term, try not to take it to heart...you are in the years where dating is teaching you about life and love..it's preparing you for adulthood and the responsibilities that go with 'truely loving another' at that time.
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 I am afraid thats what life is all about hun taking chances. You never know what is around the corner or what is going to happen in the future.
Enjoy life for what it is, be happy and stop worrying. Enjoy your relationship with this boy and if it doesnt work out in the future you can learn for future relationships. You are still very young and have your whole life infront of you. Live for the moment. xxx
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