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writes:Theres this guy i have been talking to for abit on the internet he lives in the next estate but we've never met. I think im starting to fall for him. He is abit older and very good looking so i dunno if i even have a chance. I would like some tips and do's and donts to try and turn this into more. He says im pretty and stuff and i told him i like a guy but think he's out of my league and he said ' this guy would have to be not far from amazing then'. Im trying not to rush things as i dont wanna scare him away this is what i usual do. I fall in love to easily. Advise please!! xxx
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 September 2006):
 Always take chatting to someone over the internet with care, you don't 100% know that the person your talking to is really the person they say they are so before you get too deeply into this person you need to think about meeting them in a public place that you are very familiar with maybe take a close friend with you so you can confirm they are who they say they are and so you can see the real person away from the computer screen.
Don't ever be scared of being youself putting them off as he is here because he likes you already isn't he.
Good luck :o)
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reader, sonsofliberty54 +, writes (26 September 2006):
When I met my girlfriend online, I was unsure of what to expect. But meeting in public is your best bet, restaurant, movie, etc.
What I learned from meeting my girlfriend is that people aren't always who they say they are (in a good and bad way) and trust is a major issue.
Make sure to be open with each other, to avoid any heartache as well. Because if they're not open with you, it can lead to suspicion of who the person actually is and make you doubt your choice.
Also, take it slow, rushing too fast into something can be more of a lustful than a loving and caring relationship, if you want to build something that lasts, go with the latter.
Take this from experience, my girlfriend of now 4 months is currently away at school, when she was home everything clicked and sparks flew. But now, it's more like she can't be bothered at times and always wants me to send her $$$, etc. But that's another question I should address to everyone out here in the forum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): Very good advice from both Forest and Helen! Just be yourself, don't play games, and don't begin thinking you have "fallen" for someone you've not met! You both might be very different in person to what you see online!
The next step is to talk to him on the phone, and see how that goes. It will give both of you a slightly more "rounded" idea of who he is. If after a few phone calls, its going well, make arrangements to meet in person. IN A PUBLIC PLACE, and let one of your friends or family members know where you'll be! Make sure you arrive on your own to the restaurant or wherever you meet, and that you get home on your own! It would be a good idea not to get into his car.
You see, you don't really know who he is, so you need to be cautious first time you meet - and for the next couple of times as well. Just commonsense.
Good luck to you.
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Hi there I think that you should just be yourself! He thinks your pretty and you think he is nice, you live close to eachother, so it sounds to me like you could try and take things further.
I mean what is stopping you?
Dont worry about scaring him off because if he likes you too, then he wont be scared off easily. All you have to do is enjoy NOW, dont talk about your future such as kids or marraige just yet. Have some fun hunny and I guarantee a relationship will slowly just fall in to place.
I suggest you just speak to him in person just like you do on the net, as this is the woman he likes. Dont pretend to be somebody you are not because if he does decide to take things further he will soon learn that you are a fake.
Good luck
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reader, Forest +, writes (25 September 2006):
Chatting to someone over the internet is different from actually meeting them. Over the internet you may form an image in your head of someone that is completely different to who they really are. Try not to fall for them until you have met them in person. Arrange to meet in a public place where it is safe and then form an opinion. You'll either like each other or you won't.
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