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writes:What do men really think of women that are good in bed?Recently, I heard that a couple of my ex-boyfriends had told people that Im good in bed and while my friends say I should be flattered I actually feel quite embarressed. Does it not make a woman look dirty and slaggy? Or is it attractive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): I prefer some experience over say, a virgin. But with a lot of experience, I worry that there won't be anything new or exciting to enjoy or bring excitement to the relationship. Too experienced, and I'd start wondering how all the experience came to be. I like a woman to be experienced, but not wear it on her sleeve. So if she's sophisticated and discreet and selective about her past, and that makes for a good present, that's good. As long as she can demonstrate why I'm special.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Depends on the guy. The right one will be ecstatic about the fact that you're skilled. The wrong ones will talk about it behind your back.
Personally I'm proud to be well-regarded by men who I didn't want a relationship with anyway. And the guy who I want a relationship with (I think) doesn't think any worse of me for it.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 I'm afraid I can't agree with most of the above agony aunts. I would also be embarrassed if I was in this situation. Tell them that if they want to discuss what your like in bed, they should have your permission first.
And if they don't have your permission, then they should shut up.
I know this question was asked in 2006, but I thought I'd give my opinion anyway.
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 September 2006):
 I would be proud of the fact you got good ratings especially from ex boyfriends who normally won't say that many good things about someone.
As long as you haven't been sleeping around don't be embarrassed by this as you've done nothing wrong, just becareful of those guys that may want to sleep with you just because they think your good.
Hope this helped :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): When I was married my husband said I was hopeless in bed. After we divorced (not for that reason by the way) I was determined to please my next partner and did a lot of research watching films, talking with friends etc. Well I've been in a relationship with a guy who says I'm good . Do you know what? He doesn't want a committed relationship with me. What amazes me, is that a lot of men are still very 'victorian' in their views. Women who are good in bed are not 'partner/wife material. It's totally baffling for us girls,we are in 2006?
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Hi there, I dont think that it makes a woman slutty unless they sleep around, or they flaunt the fact about themselves.
You are good in bed but keep for your relationships only. Your ex's are just making themselves look stupid and immature which they are by bragging about it.
All you have to do is hold your head up high and think how pathetic they are. Also I warn you to be careful because I can guarantee that the people that they told will try and sleep with you now. So do not fall for there sweet talk hun.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Well think about it. Would you rather have a reputation for being good in bed.....or a reputation for being a dud?
Oh...yeah.....she sleeps with anyone...but bring a bag and a cattle prod... make sure your too drunk to remember cause she's a dead fish in the sack!
Or
Yeah...she's so hot in bed....I will never forget that girl. wow...she was teerrrrriffic.
Duh! I think I would rather be number B! LOL
Honestly....if your X boyfriends are getting together and saying anything remotely nice about you....YOU must be doing something right....why worry about how you might look...you were comfortable with you decision to sleep with them at the time....don't regret it after you can't take it back. Just think of it as an experience you needed and it will somehow help you make better decisions next time....IE picking guys who don't brag so much...maybe? Feel free to critique them back to their friends....beings they started the ball rolling.
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