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writes: since i was 12 ive done bad thingsi used to show boys on cam myself naked, now i really regret it. how can i forget about it? was it illegal?i used to do it cos i was ashamed with my body and they used to say they loved it even tho i was flat chestednow im 15 plz help Reply to this Question
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reader, realguy +, writes (8 October 2006):
So sorry that this happened to you and you are feeling bad. You have to give yourself a break though. Understand that you are in a really difficult generation. With crazy technology and pressures to be sexy and to be an adult so strong, it is so easy for girls to be exploited now more than every before. The good news is that you seem to be a very mature 15 year old who can understand why you did it. Now that what is remaining is the guilt. I know it is easy to say "just let it go" but that is what you should do. No it is not illegal for you to have done such a thing and secondly EVERYONE does things they wish they could take back when going through adolescence. Believe it or not, you are incredibly normal and sound more intelligent then most girls your age. If you are still feeling bad and itis effecting your self esteem or your body self image, then don't be afraid to talk to a therapist when you are ready. Otherwise, shed the guilt, thank god you have your head on straight and go and continue to live your life with no regrests, no apologies. Who knows someday when you're over 18 you might get the urge to take off your shirt in the middle of Time Square at 4 AM but on your own terms and not feel exploited.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (7 October 2006):
 I am glad that you regret it, because some people move on to more extreme forms.
This should really just be put to rest now hun, try to put it out of your mind. It appears to have made you a better person. You now value yourself more, so that can only be a good thing.
Life is full of regrets and if onlys. You would not be the person you are otherwise.
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (7 October 2006):
Dont be ashamed never regret anything you do in life!
See what you did as part of you past part of you growing up and learning to accept yourself. Everyone goes through stages in thier life and that was one of yours. You'll never forget what you did and i dont think you should be proud of who you are girl and never be ashamed!
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (6 October 2006):
 Hi hunny.
Alot of people have done things that they regret. God I have done enough myself!!!! I also used to do similar sort of things when Iwas young because I too had insecurities about my body, I guess it is all part of growing up.
Just hold your head up high darling, dont be ashamed. You have learned now! Past is past hunny. Just remember there are people out there that have done worse things, so really you should be quite proud of yourself.
Take care xxxx
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reader, kt +, writes (6 October 2006):
 hey, well i cud b very hard to forget about it. i think the best thing to do is just come to terms with it. things i regret and im ashamed of, i just think about them and the reason i did it, and try and convince myself that it wasnt that bad. or you cud just stop thinking about it if you can. there is going to be loads of things you regret in your life, everyone has regrets, youve just got to learn to live with them and know that what doesnt call you only makes you stronger
hope that helps xx
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (6 October 2006):
 Hmm, i suggest you just think of it as, whats in the past stays in the past, you didnt (i assume) know the people, so why worry. We all do stupid stuff when we are young, i know i have. and being 'flat chested' isnt anything to be ashamed off, especially when you where 12. Im not sure of the legallity of it, and i would think it isnt, because its indecent expsure of a minor, but im not sure what it would be deemed as. But yeh, live your life, forget about it, and enjoy youself. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): hiya bbz i am kinda im the same boat can i just ask y u regret it?
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