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writes: I met my boyfriend in my first term at university and we spent every day together for the past 7 weeks before having just gone home for the holidays. However towards the end of the term I started feeling like he was taking me for granted... he stopped being as thoughtful, for example sending me a text when he was out and not being as cuddly. This is fine as i saw it as a natural progression in a relationship ...being less crazy than when you first start out.Anyway, I've been on holiday for a week and I've barely heard from him. I was hoping he'd at least text me once a day but he has bothered.. I've texted him a few times but no replies. He hasn't told me he misses me nor did he ring to check i got home ok after getting the a very long train journey back home. Yesterday i requested a chat but he ignored my text and today i saw he was online on MSN and he ignored me again. I feel like he doesn't care, it's really upsetting me. I'm not sure he misses me at all. Anyone offer me any advice? I want more from this guy than he can give.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): It sounds like he has someone back at home and as going back home approached...he began to feel guilty.
This isn't him being lazy or caught up in Home...Family and Home are good but for a guy to be that thoughtless and considerate is usually because there is someone else.
Time to get Strong and Smart.
Best Wishes Sweetie and Have a Happy Holiday with those you Love and are Loved by.
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (20 December 2006):
 Basically you need to get hold of him and have a chat. He cannot lead you on like this, its not fair he is playing with your head.
Ask him what he really wants, whether he wants to be with you or not. If he does then tell him that you are feeling a little pushed out and that you just want a little bit of affection.
If he tells you he doesnt want to be with you then at least you will know, I know that it will hurt but at least you can move on with your life.
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reader, goodbutnotgifted  +, writes (20 December 2006):
 Sounds like you could benefit from some soul searching. take this time to learn who you are and what you really want, he'll be more attracted to you when you have that confidence, and you may just find you deserve to be treated better. Good luck.
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reader, Nikita +, writes (20 December 2006):
 Hi anon, Im really sorry that you feel your bf doesnt miss you or care anymore. It does sound as if he's having a little me time but he really should talk with you and not ignore your texts. I would feel the same if it was me. I think that something in your relationship has changed for him but he'd obviously not telling you what it is or how he feels. He's ignoring you and avoiding the issue. You need to call him and ask what is going on and why he's not replying to your texts etc. If he does want some time to himself then its only fair that he tells you this. There may be nothing wrong at all of course but until you call him you wont know. Dont bother texting again, just ring him and ask whats going on. Good luck, i hope you work this out.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): Maybe you are being too pushy? You want a relationship with this guy...maybe he just wants to be friends..rather committing himself to a realtionship. You are both young and at Uni and getting into a serious reltionship at Uni is never good, most relationships don't go the distance, especially if this is your first term. He may want to leave himself free to see what or should I say who else is available for him to have a bit of fun with. Hate to say it but you'd be best of outta it...if he really genuinely cares for you (after this very short time) then he will come running as soon as you stop bugging him. Don't phone/message/text...you are not getting anything back except getting upset. Don't bother yourself with him.
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