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writes:I was seeing this older women for awhile as a friend. We would go out and have fun, she didnt want sex at the time because we were just friends she said. One night as it happened she ended up having sex with me and i havent seen or heard much from her since.Should i let it go and move on or see whats up with her? It's realy confusing as this is not the first time somthing like this has happened (with others).The one problem is every so often she goes running back to her ex for awhile then they break up and the whole show starts again. What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell a quick update is in order. She went back to her ex yet again. Had made a date for New Years eve but was told have the kid's cant make it. Went out and saw her at a bar with her ex. Thank you all once again for the advice it did help a lot in moving on :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the advice. So far have not heard much from her still. Might be time to move on me thinks and see who else is out there for me.
Thank you again for all the help :-)
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Ask her whats on her mind.dont sound so pushy,be gentle,.maybe shes afraid of emotional atachment.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 You are in an emotional yo-yo with this woman. Clearly she's not happy at home but she's afraid to let go of the "known" for the "unknown" so she's testing the waters. Her guilt and her conscience forces her to say she doesn't want sex, but she obviously wants your company and your attention. She seems very confused and has no direction in her life. The next time she calls or texts you, just don't respond. Why should you be there for her when she needs an ego boost or a little side fling. If she's really unhappy at home, she needs to get divorced. And if she just wants a fling, which I suspect, you have to decide if you can be used in this way and kept on emotional "hold" for someone who is not really available for your needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): The only way to know is to ask her. Be careful if she is still attached to x and you are hoping for more than a friendship with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): Unless you want a broken heart.....stay away from her is all.
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reader, brussells +, writes (27 December 2010):
Im guessing that if shes still seeing her ex on and off, and shes been on and off with you then she must be feeling very confused. it sounds to me like she still has feelings for her ex, and the fact that things are starting to happen with you is confusing the situation. based on what your saying it sounds like shes unsure of what she wants. In my opinion i dont think its anything that you've done thats made her be distant with you.
give her time, and if she comes back to you again then you have to explain to her that whats shes doing is confusing you and putting you in a difficult position, explain to her that she cant keep chopping and changing between the both of you, ask her how she really feels and tell her how you feel. but make it clear to her that she cannot keep messing you around, because you dont deserve that.
Hope everything works out for the best. x
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reader, happy24birthday  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 See what's up with her. She's worried what you're thinking and probably doesn't want to appear pushy or needy after sex.
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