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... Send *appy140 a private message | | | *appy140's profile:divorced 31 years ago,and have now been married 31 years, 2 young adults (our children) in ther twenties, been thru it all-good times and bad-rich and poor-from nothing to having everything-learning what I tought LOVE was to what it REALLY IS-I have learned that loving someone isn't about yourself, as many believe-it's about the one you love-never marry the one you cannot live without-marry the one you can live with---I reside in MD and have an unrivaled passion for my wife stronger than the day I met her (I thought she was to beautiful to go out with me-but she accepted anyway and she thought I was a foul mouthed ex-sailor)--how? why? why would I even want to?---because she is the part of me that the higher power left for me to find, to help me make myself a better person and a better man!! I love looking at women, all so different,shaply,sexy, some I may look at and think "what a sexy woman" (never thought I want to be single again and to be with "her") but that is far from the norm, I like to admire how hard women work at themselves, in shape (to me men are generically the same rough size and shape), clothes, makeup, etc.. and me, as a typical male, I'm very visual (something most women NEED TO LEARN along with "men need to have sex to cuddle-and a woman needs to cuddle to have sex"--its hard to work out but it does work!) ,she knows that and accepts it becuase she is on the recieving end of that admiration-I just need to be polite about looking--great compromise I think-remember sex is just sex until your married-then you should be able to open up, talk and NEVER NEVER EVER NEVER think "one way" sex is selfish-it's about showing your spouse how much you love making them happy |
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Why do guys ask for underwear?
Q. I slept with this guy like more than 5 times. He asked for my underwear twice and on his third ask, I decided, why not? So I gave them to him. I just want to understand this phenomena... why do guys ask for underwear? I'm curious. I just hope I ...
A. 11 December 2013: Masturbatory purposes. We don’t like to ask, women think it’s weird, but we always hope that the will accidently leave them for us to enjoy while they are gone.... (read in full...)
Is it true that love takes us by surprise?
Q. Hi! I would like the uncles and the aunties here to write briefly how they met their husbands and how did you know this is 'the one'. It would be nice if you can write how old you were when you met and when you got married. I would lik...
A. 11 December 2013: I was 24 and just got out of the navy, had a vulgar mouth and used women as often as I could. I wanted one thing. I just got divorced to someone while in the Navy, she was a habitual cheater since I was gone so often in my 4 years of service. She ... (read in full...)
Men: how often do you think about having sex?
Q. Men of all ages - roughly how often do you think about having sex? And who with? Your partner/girlfriend/wife, that random hot person who walked past you on the street? Do you ever feel guilty if you think about having sex with someone who isn'...
A. 2 December 2013: Roughly how often do you think about having sex—I’m 58 and I think about probably 20-30 time a day And who with? Your partner/girlfriend/wife, that random hot person who walked past you on the street?—The answer there is all the above-I think ab... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I only want to be with an uncircumcised man?
Q. I know that this is a pretty touchy subject for some people, so I'm hoping that my question doesn't upset anyone. I'm 23 and I have had sex with one person--my ex-boyfriend, who I dated for a year and broke up with a few months ago. Our sex lif...
A. 8 October 2013: Wow is all I can say. It seems as if other responders gave you a good thrashing! While I may agree with parts of their statements I tend to approach it in a different way. I am an uncircumcised man. We make love no differently then circumci... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you have sex with a woman on her period?
Q. What are your opinions on period sex? Especially guys... Would you have sex with a woman on her period? Would you do this only if you were in a relationship with her and care about or love her? Or would you do it with a random woman if you wa...
A. 5 October 2013: In today’s world I would NOT have sex with a woman during her period as a one nightstand, or even girlfriend UNLESS I knew she was STD clean. With that said, one of my long-term relationships LOVED orgasms during her period. We would engage in ... (read in full...)
My husband wants a sex change and I am feeling like it is the death of our marriage. How can I cope and help him?
Q. I'm at a loss and in desperate need of advice. So bare with me for a minute because this is gonna be a bit long... I am married to my husband of almost 3 years. Well the other day he came out to his family and friends about him being bisexual...
A. 19 August 2013: You have some really tough decisions to make. Although I don’t understand why men/woman get married and THEN decide to make life altering changes, YOU can only be supportive if you love him. With that said, SERIOUS thought on your part has to be do... (read in full...)
He couldn't get it up our first time together!
Q. I'm 31 and I went on my third date with a new guy (37) last night. We have known each other for about a month, but started dating just last week. The night went great and we had a lot of fun. We stayed up really late and he ended up spending the ...
A. 16 July 2013: How about he may truly have a sexual issue so close in the relationship, or have some type of stress outside of your relationship that is over whelming him. Maybe he’s not over his ex and can’t bring himself to have sex with another yet. Maybe he is ... (read in full...)
Does getting oral still qualify you as a virgin?
Q. hey guys just a quick question does geting oral qualify as being a virgin some people say yes others no if you can help please do...
A. 16 July 2013: Accoding to Bill Clinton-oral is NOT SEX ("I never had sex with that woman", so some say it isn't. To me the calluosness of thinking a blowjob is no more than giving a hug is wrong. Sex is sex and any wife will say if my husband gets a blowjob from ... (read in full...)
Why do men make such a big deal about my orgasming with them? Is it my issue or his?
Q. Every man I have been with has always made such a big deal out of me not having orgasms with them. It's like they are personally insulted by it or something? why? what's the big deal? I have only orgasmed with someone once through penetrat...
A. 8 July 2013: As kirra07 said we (men) associate your orgasms with our prowess. When we can’t make you cum we feel we did something wrong or we aren’t good enough at what we were doing. We lose sight of the fact that you cannot cum as easily as we do. We also ... (read in full...)
I'm having regrets after a one-night stand!
Q. Well I'm going to brutally honest. I'm 17 and I gave a guy a blowjob this morning cause we were up all night and I was at his appt. With friends and his friends. Later on we all separated and did our own things mine personally leading to giving him ...
A. 8 July 2013: As awkward as it might be let him know that you really like him as a friend. Tell him you were giving him some one time benefits. DO NOT USE THE WORD HO as that will stick in his mind. Let him know you never do such things but he just excited you ... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to have an affair with my hot co-worker to get back at my husband for the pain he put me through 3 years ago
Q. I am currently married for 3 yrs now. However, my husband and i had many issues in the beginning of our relationship when we were dating. he didnt tell me that he was still emailing his exgirlfriend because he told me she wanted to end her life so ...
A. 1 July 2013: “I never got back at him for what he did to me and now i am starting to have a real sexual attraction to a male coworker who i think is so sweet and incredibly hot and i see him looking at me at work and than he looks away,,,its so cute.”
What... (read in full...)
My husband wants sex but I dont!
Q. Please help! I have been married to my husband for 13 years. We have three beautiful children and are financially stable. My husband is the provider and I am a stay- at- home mom. Other than our sexual problem, we have a wonderful relationship. ...
A. 18 May 2013: I am in the same boat. My wife isn’t into sex either. She never turns me down though either.
Your husband wants some spontaneous sex, you cringe and say you can F… me but warm me up first. He has probably, over the years associated this with he w... (read in full...)
How do I get better at riding a man?
Q. I am 19 years old and have only had two partners (one when I was very young) and another recently so not that experienced. He is now my ex but still curious as to how i can get better at riding. Everything else during the sex was good the mental ...
A. 27 August 2012: I think most of your doubts stem from lack of experience. He falling out for example is just lifting too high or him down thrusting too much. It has nothing to do with you being loose. Also when riding him on a hard surface you have more pen... (read in full...)
I'm having issues with oral sex. Help!
Q. Hi everyone. This is really embaressing. My guy wants me to deep throat him but he's too big! I literally just choke and have to stop and go back to just normal oral. Will the gagging go away with practise or is he doomed to never be satisfied? ...
A. 22 July 2012: Men are very visual. The thing about deep throat (how lucky I am to have my wife!!) is seeing your woman take your entire cock. If its watching you gag ( I have NEVER-EVER NEVER had a male friend tell me that thats what they like about deep ... (read in full...)
What do men like to have done to them.
Q. The new man in my life asked me what things I would like to do to him. He told me to use my imagination. The only things I have ever done before was a blowjob and lick and suck on mens balls. My exhusband would not allow me to do alot. Just the ...
A. 4 July 2012: One of the things I like most is the all day tease. Throughout the day whisper in his ear things like I can’t wait to suck your c—k, and during the day have a grab here and there. Be brave and sneak him off to the bathroom for a 30 second suck and ... (read in full...)
I need help with my marriage, I can't stand the fact she was talking with someone else!
Q. Ok I need help on what to do with my wife. I just recently found out my wife was talking to an old friend for 2months (I checked the phone records) it started off as text messages such as questions like how you doing or how was your day etc.... ...
A. 4 July 2012: “she begged me not to leave she called her friend in front of me to let him know they can no longer speak”—did you hear him on the other end? Was someone really there? Was it her girlfriend who is no going WTF?—don’t fall for that one-MAYBE and I ... (read in full...)
24 year old dating a 34 year old with a kid?
Q. Hello, Ill try to be brief, list the facts and ask the question *I got out of my first and only relationship (so far) about a year ago, I had the toughest time moving on and even became depressed until I met him, I think I'm 80% healed, I t...
A. 24 May 2012: I REALLY appreciate the fact that you choose me to help you. It makes me feel that my advice is sound and makes me feel good knowing I can be of some help. By your question you sound like a very nice woman, one that I would like to have as a ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my husband over sex!
Q. hi, i am 21, married. my husband has got a small penis n does not like giving oral or even hand job.. i really feel bad for not having an enjoyable sex life.. the only thing he does is trying to penetrate n ejaculate.. i feel embarrassed ...
A. 19 May 2012: My implication was not meant to be “it’s all on you”, I did not mean for it to sound that way. I was just saying try something new and if that does not change his selfish behavior then it is just going to have to be no sex. Even as a man I find it ... (read in full...)
Dealing with my g/f after she's been out with the girls drinking is like walking into a minefield!
Q. So I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years now. Most of it good, lately a lot of it bad. She is 43 and in the past year is when she really started getting bad with anger, mood swings and depression. One major issues is that she likes to ...
A. 19 May 2012: Oh have I been there! It seems some women go on a boyfriend/husband hating binge when the are with their girlfriends. I have been told that that is not true and we do not even talk about husbands/boyfriends. Well that is far from the truth. I ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my husband over sex!
Q. hi, i am 21, married. my husband has got a small penis n does not like giving oral or even hand job.. i really feel bad for not having an enjoyable sex life.. the only thing he does is trying to penetrate n ejaculate.. i feel embarrassed ...
A. 7 May 2012: I do not know if you had sex BEFORE marriage, if you did, was it better then, what has changed. If you did have sex before marriage a small penis was OK then why not now. There is more to sex anyway. Women all over masturbate for their orgasms. ... (read in full...)
How do I act around my co-worker now?
Q. I was tierd because of my allergy and stuff and at the end of the day I was photocopying stuff when my colleage came and we chatted for a minute or two then I continued with my work, I was reading and then he asked me a question, I lifted my head ...
A. 3 May 2012: I would make it simple and approach or at your next crossing, say you were really involved with the coping and something else on your mind and did not hear what he said, that is easy. I have done the same thing, giving a quick response even though ... (read in full...)
My fear of touch is interferring with my ability to sustain relationships. How do I overcome this burden?
Q. I am 20 years old and female and attracted to both men and women. I am relatively happy with my life, with the exception of relationships. I find it impossible to maintain relationships because I have a complete fear of touch. I do not mean just ...
A. 3 March 2012: I really cannot help except with two suggestions 1} seek a therapist (if possible) and (2) type “fear of touch” in Google—I just did that and it was very enlightening. It may help you to understand it if you read about the whys people have of this ... (read in full...)
Was it alright to turn him down saying "I'm not interested in relationships"?
Q. Just a quick question, someone who I suspected liked me tried to give me flowers and chocolates today. So all I said was "I'm sorry but I'm not interested in relationships" (which for my own reasons is true). He then tried to make out like it was ...
A. 3 March 2012: .I as a man would have taken that as a bit harsh. You may not have meant it personal but he took it that way. He was doing something intimate with you, something beyond the friend stage. He really did not know how to bow out gracefully. (had the ... (read in full...)
What do I get my boyfriend for our 3 year anniversary?
Q. I'm not sure what to get my boyfriend for our upcoming three year anniversary. Please help! I am so clueless as to what to get my boyfriend and I would appreciate any suggestions. Here's some background... He is 20 years old (will be 21 a month ...
A. 3 March 2012: How about a subscription to the magazine for one of the on line games he plays. They have the codes and secrets to help your gaming fun. You can get them online and have it mailed to him and its something he would enjoy reading to better his game. ... (read in full...)
Why do we want what we can't have? My hopeless infatuation
Q. So how did it happen? How could I have fallen in love with this man who is a priest when I am already happily married with two beautiful children? He is the associate pastor at our parish, a young, charismatic and energetic man, yet we know he h...
A. 7 February 2012: I haven't found ANY issue with the priest, if he knew about your thoughts then yes I would have a problem. He does not so we cannot blame him. What you need to do is figure out what is missing in your relationship, yes, and yes and yes, there IS ... (read in full...)
Why do we want what we can't have? My hopeless infatuation
Q. So how did it happen? How could I have fallen in love with this man who is a priest when I am already happily married with two beautiful children? He is the associate pastor at our parish, a young, charismatic and energetic man, yet we know he h...
A. 4 February 2012: Your going right where my other half did-spent to much time with another man and he became everything and I became everything he is not, all the bad. It lead to my bags being packed. That’s where your headed.
If you think for one second your husb... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend not attracted to me anymore?
Q. I am 24 and I have been with my 25 year old boyfriend for 3 years. I'm not sure if this is all in my head, or something I'm reading in our relationship... but I don't feel like he is very attracted to me.. mentally, emotionally and sexually. :/...
A. 31 January 2012: There are a lot of issues there. I will tell you one thing though, as a man, we get sick and tired of waiting for our other half. It is about as disrespectful as you can get. It says to me, yes I can eat at 5pm everyday, yes I can be at work a... (read in full...)
Should I tell his girlfriend he cheated on her with me?
Q. Hey everyone, i need advice. Ok heres my story, i have a guy friend who i have been friends since with the 9th grade. were in our early 20s now. i have had a crush on him since high school but never acted on it because i was really shy. an...
A. 31 January 2012: First decide what your REAL reason is for telling her. To get rid of your guilt, to hurt him, to hurt her, to help her or to expose him. What benefit is there in telling her (I am not suggesting you do not or do) from what I see around me af... (read in full...)
Tips needed for improving my hand job technique
Q. my boyfriend says im the best hes had in bed, and unbelievable at oral.. but when it comes to hand jobs they need some work. i want to be good at giving hand jobs, i never really do it cause i feel awkward. i dont know what to do because i find its ...
A. 31 January 2012: As an uncircumcised man I can tell you what I like in a hand job. First I like the foreskin played with and not ignored... I like it just touched and or lightly pulled until erection. The actual hand job I prefer that she uses 3 or four fingers ... (read in full...)
I don't feel as loved as I should, even though He makes it clear he really loves me!
Q. Ok Guys help me out. I don't think I am happy but until I can understand what is going in my mind I am not ready to give up. I met a good guy who started talking marriage earlly. I felt very lucky because all the guys have dated normally took the...
A. 27 January 2012: You need a long talk with yourself. Sounds like YOU wanted to initiate alot of things that he already did. He is also moving FASTER than you can handle. You need to ask yourself are you really in love yet. Yes you may be crazy for him but not in ... (read in full...)
Was this a just a fling on a cruise or is there something more?
Q. I went on a cruise with an ex boyfriend and his friends. It was a couples thing and I guess his initial plan was to get me back during this vacation but he failed. He was being a complete jerk towards me the whole time and he kept starting petty ...
A. 23 January 2012: I'm sorry to say this but as a man, in my younger day when all I wanted was sex, I would use the move he did. The cruise ship sex is a fantasy most men have. His has been fullfilled. It was a fling, one night stand and that is all it was. Remember ... (read in full...)
How can I relax during oral?
Q. My boyfriend loves to give me oral but I have a really hard time relaxing so that I can climax. How do I relax my body so I can reach a orgasm?...
A. 23 January 2012: My wife has a litle trick since this is such a tense situation anyway-find a position thats confortable. Some like it on thier back, some "doggy" style and still others with their legs open laying on their side. Find a place in your mind that makes ... (read in full...)
How can I deep throat and swallow cum?
Q. Hello, I have recently begun giving my boyfriend blow jobs. He really loves it when I swallow, and I enjoy doing it for him. However, I hate the taste so I always try to make sure that he cums in the back of my throat. The problem is... wh...
A. 24 November 2011: I once had the same problem and then starting drinking large amount of fruit juice (but I love fruit juice). In the meantime to over come this we (she) used altoids, the breath tablet. That makes for a “cool” blowjob with incredible feelings and ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Or am I jumping to conclusions?
Q. I know I may be jumping to conclusions, but, there's this guy in my a few of my classes. Actually only 1st and 4th. Anyway, he has a girlfriend, and she's in my 1st and 3rd period and whenever I am near her she gives me these dirty looks for NO ...
A. 31 October 2011: He defiantly likes you. With no other input, I know that because of his girlfriend. He must have mentioned you to her and she is jealous. The action he has taken says he is interested. You say he is too cute for you and your ugly, what the heck? ... (read in full...)
How can I change my boring husband?
Q. its been 7 years when i got married. my marriage is like a rock. when we got some fight, we did 'nt talk for so long for about 3 months, is the worst..sometimes 1 month or less..my husband is a type of person that when you start talking, he will ...
A. 31 October 2011: I have somewhat of a different take than the below poster. If you have to torment and torture someone you love after they talk to you I would ALWAYS keep my mouth shut because I know what is next. The silent treatment. Three months, a month, what ... (read in full...)
He stayed over and nothing happened, then I never heard from him. Did I scare him off?
Q. I have been separated for 1.5 years and did not date at all. I recently met a guy through mutual friends and we hit it off. He is very old fashioned and very scared to get hurt. He has not been in a relationship for over 8 years. We do not get to ...
A. 4 October 2011: As a male, I feel sorry the man. Unless you paid attention to him all night he feels cornered. He was interrogated all night by your friends and it sounds like he wasn’t by your side all night as a proud new boyfriend or other wise he would never ... (read in full...)
Sex addiction, does it exist?
Q. Does anyone really believe in sex addiction? Ive always been one to say people use the word addiction to make things look a little better and a little less their fault...But all my life ive always been fond of sex, ALOT. Its almost as if i cant say ...
A. 10 September 2011: I think your right in one aspect it is labeled to make things easier but it is also true. I consider myself a sex addict I want it all the time. Think about people who are adrendium junkies, they have to have it. People who have to have a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends can't bring me to orgasm, I have to do it myself
Q. Hi.. i am 17 soon to be 18 years old and i have had, which i ould consider, 2 serious boyfriends. both in which complain about how i never orgasm during sex. it seems to be that i am the only person who can bring myself to orgasm, however this is ...
A. 6 September 2011: You boyfriend are young and need to prove man hood by saying she is muti orgasmic to their friends. Try this link http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_cant_orgasm_from_intercourse_and_its_ruining_my_relationship
It is also about your age brac... (read in full...)
Do we all need space?
Q. Do we all need space from our partners? What exactly does it mean when your boyfriend says we need space, you have things to do with your kids and I also have my things to do ... ...
A. 6 September 2011: You answered your own question with” you have things to do with your kids and I also have my things to do ...” Yes we all need space. My wife and I look at it this way, were two separate people when we met. We may be one entity now but I do not ... (read in full...)
Info about BJ's please
Q. Alright so I'm quite up for basically anything sexually, but I've never given a blowjob. I want to make my boyfriend happy and I really wouldn't mind doing it, but curiosity is killing me. I was just wondering, what does cum taste like, and what is ...
A. 21 August 2011: The most important thing is wetness. A wet (saliva) BJ is SOO much better than a dry one. The area under the head is the most sensitive, a great place it use the tip of your tongue on. Putting the head in your mouth and rolling your tongue around ... (read in full...)
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