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writes:Hi! I would like the uncles and the aunties here to write briefly how they met their husbands and how did you know this is 'the one'. It would be nice if you can write how old you were when you met and when you got married. I would like to know because I'm twenty and I never fell deeply for any guy, except a married man and it was an unrequited love. I'm not in hurry to meet someone, it's just that I would like to know if it's true that love takes us by surprise. Cheers!
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reader, totallyconfused100 +, writes (11 December 2013):
 Hi I was 19 when I met my fiancé and she was 26 and mormon. She was a virgin and had never had a girlfriend before. I was in a four year friends with benefits relationship I could not seem to get out of. My fiancé noticed me first and started talking to me on Facebook whilst I was living in Glasgow and she was in Aberdeen where I had lived previously. We started talking just friendly stuff but I knew she had a crush on me after she told my best friend. I was still in the fwb thing so not really interested. I was suddenly forced to move back to Aberdeen after losing my job in Glasgow and moved in with my fiancé and a friend of mine as I had no time to look for a flat. We became friends quickly and became very close within two weeks and I stopped being fwb with my other friend after about a week of knowing her cos I had feel deep for her. We started dating. After a month she lost her virginity to me. She came out to her Mormon friends a month later and her family about six months later and is now not a mormon anymore. Her family don't accept it and she lost some friends because of it but she chose me over it all. I moved out two months later and she came with me and we have lived together ever since.I am now 21 and she is 28 and we have never lived apart. She proposed in February this year and we have two cats. There's been some hard times but it's worth it in the end for our life together. We plan to buy our first place next year and get married a year after that and then kids! I had had a terrible time with relationships since I was 17 so I never expected to fall in love and finally get out of the rut I was in with the fwb. Love does surprise you!
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reader, happy140  +, writes (11 December 2013):
 I was 24 and just got out of the navy, had a vulgar mouth and used women as often as I could. I wanted one thing. I just got divorced to someone while in the Navy, she was a habitual cheater since I was gone so often in my 4 years of service. She was everything I ever wanted in a woman, southern, sweet, petite, blond and under 100 lbs. She was my walking fantasy of what I wanted in a woman. Back to when I got out—it was my best friends birthday party. I was ok friends with his girlfriend but didn’t care much for her. Then at the party I saw this girl walk out of my friends girlfriends bedroom and sit on the couch. After a short time (maybe ½ hour) when his girlfriend went back into the bedroom I ask her if her friend (Therese) would go out with me since they were best of friends. Her answer “I don’t know you ask her”. I thought Therese was so pretty and sexy and she had a look about her that made me think this woman is going to get prettier and prettier as time goes on. So I asked her if she would like to walk across the parking lot to my apt. that I shared with a brother and watch a movie. She said yes. We went into my bedroom and sat on the bed and talked and talked. I knew something was amiss when I took her home; I hadn’t tried to have sex with her in any form that night, out of character for me. We dated for about two weeks when she was at my apt again and we were talking and she stated she just had a appendicitis operation three weeks prior, hence her saying no to my advances all week. Well I new she was the one for me during our third week of dating. Not only because we could talk, I’m definitely NOT a talker, a bull crapper yes to get what I want but not a talker. I knew it by “accident”. My ex called while Therese was there and begged and begs and beg for me to come back to her. I said not a chance, I met someone I was serious about and drive my message home I told her that my new girlfriends name is Therese, that made her mad because her name is Theresa, and boy did she let me have it then. I don’t know why it offended her so much but it did.At that point both Therese and I knew we wanted each other. I didn’t realize what I said until I was halfway into the conversation. I now realize it’s because after 3 weeks of meeting her I thought I was in love. She is so far from what I pictured myself marring until that point. That’s when it dawned on me. I’m falling in love with her because she shows me respect hence I return it. She says thank you for every little thing and cared so much for me that she was always looking out for me from the smallest cut to my biggest mistake (getting married the first time), she brought out the gentleman in me, the romantic me, the man I could be and I have since kept her on a pedestal for that. I could not love Therese any more, it’s impossible. She feels the same, I’m much more verbal about it that she is but I learned to accept the fact that she’s not as complementy as I am. I used to feel that if they didn’t constantly compliment you then they didn’t notice you. I was way off base. Well AFTER I got a permeate job, per my goal I proposed, to her, it was 6 months since we met. We married 7 months later. Had our first (son) with and IUD installed 1 year and 1 week later. Had a daughter 2 ½ years later with another IUD installed. That is FATE!!!!!Now 32 years later we are enjoying our grand kids. Love just happens out of nowhere. I wasn’t looking for it. Nor was she-she was only 20 years old then me 24. Now I’m 58 and she’s 53.Yes we fought all the time when we were young, neither of us knew what we wanted in life. But we persevered and NEVER took the easy out and left each other. We worked and worked until we could stand each other every day, 24 hours a day. Love is not easy. In fact love is very hard. You have to always accept that your tied in the heart to someone who isn’t you. They have their own views, thoughts, feeling, taste and everything you have. When love comes out of the blue you have to give it a chance and not set parameters for it. Never say she/he must look like this feel like that. Its as if you as person have no say in it at all, your heart makes that’s decision for you. Never say I’m not dating him/her because I heard he/she’s an blah blah blah-if you have a tingle some where on your body when you meet someone, give them that chance.I hope it finds you! I believe it finds everyone. It’s up to us to make the right life long decisions Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to marry them. As I learned long ago don’t marry some one you can’t live without, marry someone you can live with. Then enjoy life’s ups and downs with someone.Sorry about the length of this.
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