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writes:I went on a cruise with an ex boyfriend and his friends. It was a couples thing and I guess his initial plan was to get me back during this vacation but he failed. He was being a complete jerk towards me the whole time and he kept starting petty arguments. I kept running into this guy who was the hottest guy I've met in my life. And at at times he would see me with my ex. We would talk and flirt here and there. The last day of the cruise he approached me again and we talked for a much longer time. And I admitted to him I was on the vacay with my ex but it wasn't working out. My ex then caught us and had a fit. Anyway, making a long story short me and the other guy went to dinner, hung out at the pool and had drinks, talked and joked more and we ended up having sex. And it was the best I've had in my life! We did it for hours. I stayed with him the remainder of the time and I was the one who wanted to leave, but he begged me to stay over with him. And he told me he HAD to stay in touch with me and talked about how he wanted to settle down ,we would be a great couple and it sucks that we live far apart but he still wanted to see me again and that he is not dating anyone at the moment. He told me to text him after I got home safe, so I did and heard from him briefly. Now I call him a few days later and he is not answering. At first I was just all about the sex with him but now I'm wondering if he was serious about wanting more. If it was just sex, would he still go out of his way to say all that? Whats you're view on this? He is 34 And me and the ex are completely done for good.
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reader, happy140 +, writes (23 January 2012):
 I'm sorry to say this but as a man, in my younger day when all I wanted was sex, I would use the move he did. The cruise ship sex is a fantasy most men have. His has been fullfilled. It was a fling, one night stand and that is all it was. Remember young men has sex to have sex, young woman have sex to encourage and build feelings. That was far from what he wanted. Don't give yourself anymore heart ach by calling hime, move forward. As a mature male I truley am sorry for the way most men act, Selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2012): Charmers will indeed say anything to their Female prey, even attest that what is occuring is love, not lust, and that they want a long term relationship. But the caution to note is that who indefinitely knows for fact that they met someone and want a long term life with them from one eye glance? *arch eyebrow*The whole fairy tale of finding true love is beautiful and inspiring but I much prefer the adult reality that it needs start out as commonality in interests, personalities, standards/beliefs, and genuine friendship which were not present to establish a solid foundation of a future with a stranger you met, lusted after, and had 'great sex' with on a cruise in the space of x days.Sometimes, even men are falliable and will spout out musing and wishings even when they KNOW for certain such things will be to no avail.This was a meeting of fantasy and imaginings and sexual heated mating and nothing more.
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