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writes:hi,i am 21, married.my husband has got a small penis n does not like giving oral or even hand job..i really feel bad for not having an enjoyable sex life..the only thing he does is trying to penetrate n ejaculate..i feel embarrassed to post this as a query, but i don wanna leave my husband just for sex..pls advice..
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reader, happy140  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 My implication was not meant to be “it’s all on you”, I did not mean for it to sound that way. I was just saying try something new and if that does not change his selfish behavior then it is just going to have to be no sex. Even as a man I find it repulsive that so many men are that way, “shut up and let me get off”. It is just so selfish. I hope you have found a way to deal with him and wish you the best in finding a solution.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (8 May 2012):
 "....my husband has got a small penis n does not like giving oral or even hand job...the only thing he does is trying to penetrate n ejaculate.."He sounds pretty selfish to me. I for one do not support the whole 'you should masturbate yourself' or 'you're responsible for your sex life' theory. Not in cases like yours when the man doesn't want to do or try anything to make YOU feel good. To make YOU even want to have sex at all!If all he does during sex is putting the penis in and getting off, why should you be happy with that? Only an idiot would be happy with that and let it continue. Would anyone say to him: hey you're responsible for your sex life, so you don't get the vagina, no oral sex and no hand jobs. Do it all yourself because sex is not about orgasms or another person ensuring you orgasm? No one would say that to a man, but they will to a woman. You don't have to deal and put up with this selfish person. If he doesn't want to do anything for you, why does he deserve anything either? It makes no sense to me. Tell him very honestly that you're not happy with him and tell him what he needs to do. If he doesn't, then why have sex with him at all? In fact, why be with him at all?
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reader, happy140 +, writes (7 May 2012):
I do not know if you had sex BEFORE marriage, if you did, was it better then, what has changed. If you did have sex before marriage a small penis was OK then why not now. There is more to sex anyway. Women all over masturbate for their orgasms. As much as we try some woman cannot have an orgasm via intercourse. Many do via oral sex but since this is NOT an option can you masturbate. If not alone, with him. Sex and intercourse is not all about penis size. It plays a LARGE part in many women’s mind and as a male I understand the importance to many women that a larger penis feels better. Per my wife, there is nothing like filling “full” and that makes a really big difference to some women. You can masturbate with him inside you while you are on top, you can use your other hand to caress him while you masturbate lay side by side. As for putting in, getting off and that’s it…a lot of men ARE THAT SELFISH. Since you know he is NOT going to help, much less get you off, you have to take care of that yourself. An affair just for sex would be a BIG mistake. He may have a lot of stress or just not be interested in sex. If it is the lack of interest you will not be able to change that. Buy yourself some toys from the internet and have some fun.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Talk to him. Spice it up. You are at least as responsible for your SEX LIFE as he is.
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