Have I been stupid in trying to help her conceive?
Q. I'm in a crazy situation. One of my friends, a girl my age, has asked me to do something for her. Let me say that I have always been attracted to her, she is quite the beautiful lady, but it could never go further than friendship. She's one of thes...
A. 26 March 2009: She may be trying to ensure pregnancy. Once is enough sometimes, but often is not sufficient.
Lie back and think of England!... (read in full...)
My friend copies everything I do...it's getting to me! Help
Q. I've got a big problem with one of my friends. She copies me with everything! I told her I wanted a dog, so did she. I told her a babysitted for my younger siblings, so did she, even though her younger siblings can take care of themselves. I to...
A. 26 March 2009: You should stop being so predictable.... (read in full...)
"I am a good man without money" What does it mean???
Q. Hello, I have been dating this man for 8 months now , He first told me when we met that he dated other women and even got engaged but broke up because of money issues he said he just leaves when any women makes any money demands he said he alway...
A. 26 March 2009: Marriage requires money. Not the wedding (you seem to be emphasizing the wrong aspect here--it's after the wedding that counts). But he cannot possibly provide for the family--and yes, that is his responsibility--if he is not solvent.
Dump ... (read in full...)
We're "on a break", then he joked we were "Friends with Benefits" ???
Q. 2 weeks ago my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I went "on a break". It was his idea since we had been spending too much time together and arguing a lot more than normal. A few days later I asked what he meant by "break" and he said it was that we were ...
A. 26 March 2009: As Oscar Wilde once wrote, "It's most dangerous nowadays for a husband to pay any attention to his wife in public. It always makes people think he beats her when they're alone."
Your boyfriend is more interested in appearances than substanc... (read in full...)
He is really pushing for us to be together 24/7 !!!
Q. I need advice on how to approach my boyfriend so as not to hurt him. We met about 8 months ago; I am having a few doubts about us. I own my own place and he has gradually spent more and more time with me until it has now got to the point that he i...
A. 26 March 2009: Tell him you don't particularly admire needy men. Tell him to grow up and stop being a parasite.
And no, don't try to change him. You are not a miraculous being who can magically change other people.... (read in full...)
Yeast infection ruining sex for me
Q. i have a problem. i have this yeast infection that wont go away and it driving me crazy. i have been to the doctor several times about it but none of the medications worked! this is crushing my sex life. i told my boyfriend about this. we still h...
A. 26 March 2009: Stop having sex until you find a medication that works. Why have sex if you can't enjoy it?... (read in full...)
Is he using me for a fun time at the weekend only?
Q. Dear Aunts, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year - we both work hard and only see each other of a weekend (but all weekend). It took him a long time to say 'I love you' (said it for the first time last month, and even now I can see th...
A. 26 March 2009: Every indication is that he only wants the sex. You seem to have a talent for attracting the squeamish, non-commital sort, so I wouldn't be at all surprised if he turned out to be another one.
The next time you have sex, ask him during foreplay... (read in full...)
I have never 'cum' before!
Q. I've been participating in sexual activities for a couple of years, on and off. But I have never 'cum' before! I know not every girl cums, but I don't even get aroused. I am excited for about the first 30 seconds and then nothing. It's not painful, ...
A. 26 March 2009: Honey, a competent lover would make you cum. A competent lover would show you how to relax and feel your body so that you are responsive and receptive to orgasm.
You have a right to orgasm(s).... (read in full...)
We get along perfectly but I don't know if he's the one
Q. I don't know if my bf and I are working anymore. Our long-distance relationship has drug on for a year and a half now and we've broken up more times than I can count. He loves me so much and he treats me so well. He always says he doesn't think he ...
A. 26 March 2009: Obviously you are so special that you don't deserve to marry a mere human being with flaws and foibles. No, you deserve that fantasy prince in your head.
Decide whether you can accept your boyfriend's faults or whether his jealousy is a dealbrea... (read in full...)
Secret rendezvous with my ex's mum, is that OK?
Q. It was my birthday yesterday and my ex-girlfriend's Mum called me to wish me happy birthday. We have always got on so it's not unusual for her to call me. During the call, she said that she was preparing a surprise for me and would send it to my ...
A. 26 March 2009: Again, I would just note that Anonymous and Ginalolabridga seem to be responding out of irrational prejudice. Neither can explain why your ex can dictate your sex life.
Do you tell your ex whether or not she can sleep with someone? Then why... (read in full...)
He gets a lot of pleasure but I get nothing
Q. I'm 17, and I have a question about sex. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex, but we do other things and while he gets a lot of pleasure out of everything I get nothing. He tries and it upsets him that he can't please me. I suppose I'm being selfish, ...
A. 26 March 2009: You should both learn how to play chess. This is a mutually satisfying activity.... (read in full...)
I keep dreaming of my ex!
Q. I always see my ex in my dreams and I do not know why. Apparently he was holding me tight close to him and then we started kissing. I really want to stop dreaming about him since it is always delaying me from moving on completely with my life.. ...
A. 26 March 2009: Dreaming about your ex is not a problem.
The fact that you are an inveterate cheat is. Stop being a slag.... (read in full...)
The woman I get along great with has commitment issues.... Thoughts?
Q. So I 'reconnected' with a girl I knew a while back through friends of mine at a wedding last month. Had a great time with her at the wedding, asked my friend for her number, and for the last month we've been hanging out alot and just this weekend ...
A. 26 March 2009: She has the right to set her boundaries. Period.
You should respect her decision and move on.... (read in full...)
Lost interest in marriage
Q. am a lady and married for seven years. my husband has had a tendency of not communicating in marriage when something annoys him. he just changes his mood and do not talk that much. at first i would try to start a conversation, but it was only...
A. 26 March 2009: You should consult a divorce lawyer. Your husband may be depressed or mentally ill; with the quick temper changes, there's certainly cause for concern. But you do have a right to protect your own interests, and he's as good as shown you the door. ... (read in full...)
He's using our friends to shoot arrows into my heart
Q. Hoping people can help out here and would appeciate it if they did. I broke up with my ex about six months ago. He kind of hurt me and so I have gone the no contact route and have avoided going places where I think I might run into him. Likewise he ...
A. 26 March 2009: In future, be careful with whom you share confidences. This should teach you not to trust anyone who hasn't earned your trust. That applies both to your ex and these so-called friends.
For now, make new friends. The best revenge is living w... (read in full...)
Secret rendezvous with my ex's mum, is that OK?
Q. It was my birthday yesterday and my ex-girlfriend's Mum called me to wish me happy birthday. We have always got on so it's not unusual for her to call me. During the call, she said that she was preparing a surprise for me and would send it to my ...
A. 26 March 2009: Go for it. You are both consenting single adults, and an ex-girlfriend has no claim on your sex life. An older woman can be a wonderfully invigorating conquest; at her age, she will probably be more experienced, communicative, and relaxed. She ... (read in full...)
Am I JEALOUS of the dog?
Q. I hope there are some pet lovers out there that can help me with this. As a disclaimer, I LOVE animals, I've just never liked them indoors. All right, on with the show: My fiancée is pure magic. She's everything I've ever wanted, and...
A. 26 March 2009: Perhaps if you weren't such a bitch, you wouldn't be jealous of a dog?... (read in full...)
Convict? or cop?
Q. I am a 38 yo single woman with high IQ and very practical. Here is my issue. I broke up with Ryan a few months ago because he was living with another woman and didn't seem ready to make that step. He is the perfect image of responsiblity, lawful, ...
A. 26 March 2009: You should date Ryan, the perfect image of responsibility who lives with another woman, and have sex with Heath.
This is typical behavior in the animal kingdom, where the female lives with a beta male as a provider, but actually mates with the... (read in full...)
Too shy to express himself!
Q. Well here goes, I've know this lad for 3 years lets call him Mike. When i first started hanging round with him we didnt really know each other becuase i was mates with his mate who he'd known for like 10 years lets call him Fred. Well Fred went...
A. 26 March 2009: He sounds like a nice guy who doesn't want to date a slag. If you are a slag, you should respect his wishes.
Assuming for a moment that you are not in fact, a slag, you could open up a conversation about what he likes in a girl. If he steers t... (read in full...)
He cheated because he thought I did!!
Q. I have been with my husband for six years. I am 34 and he is 28 we have a 4 year old and 8 month old. He has commitment problems. We get in a fight and leaves to his sisters for like 5-9 days then comes home for about two weeks and the cycle repeats ...
A. 24 March 2009: Yes. Move on. Please don't take offense, but you should also find a new religion too. Christianity does not seem to be working for you, especially if you think it means forgiving your husband's obvious sadism.... (read in full...)
He lied about his age, was having an affair, what am I supposed to do?
Q. ok well i have a pretty big problem. I've been dating the same man now for four years and im eight and a half months pregnant with our third child but i just found out a disturbing secret about him. First off he's had a dominatrix mistress for a ...
A. 24 March 2009: He sounds like a great catch. The dominatrix was probably acting out a humiliation fetish of his by showing you that tape. You clearly should stay with this lying, cowardly Aussie and allow Number One Dad to pass on his wholesome values to your ... (read in full...)
He has done this before where we break up and then get back together...??
Q. My boyfriend and I have had a rough month kind of like constantly walking on eggshells. He went out on St pattys day all night and didn't call me which I found disrespectful since we live together. I called him the next day and he gave me the worst ...
A. 24 March 2009: He is bored with you, having sex with other women, feeling guilty and lashing out at you as a result.
So why do you want to be his doormat so badly?... (read in full...)
My friends with benefits relationship is confusing me!
Q. I have dated a guy for two months, but we decided to just be friends with benefits because he has too much going on in his life right now and so do I. He said he doesn't feel that "spark" anymore. We meet up for sex about once or twice a week,...
A. 24 March 2009: He is sweet and thoughtful because you are a guaranteed easy lay. Once he's convinced you this is a great arrangement, why would he disturb it by acting rude?... (read in full...)
Threesomes and the mess that comes with it... is this slutty behaviour?
Q. I am dating this girl who is without a doubt the greatest person I have ever met, however, I recently inquired about her having a threesome with two guys, mostly because I made a joke about us having a threesome with some random 10/10 I saw, then ...
A. 24 March 2009: It's not a quality I'd look for in a wife. Then again, I wouldn't bring up threesomes with a "wife-material" girl either.
If you wanted to be daring and experimental around her, don't be surprised if she serves you in your own coin.... (read in full...)
We're "on a break", then he joked we were "Friends with Benefits" ???
Q. 2 weeks ago my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I went "on a break". It was his idea since we had been spending too much time together and arguing a lot more than normal. A few days later I asked what he meant by "break" and he said it was that we were ...
A. 24 March 2009: He probably wants to see how far he can push it. Probably figured it was worth the risk, on the off chance you did agree to be his penis sleeve.... (read in full...)
Why won't he trust me? Should I tell him that I over heard him?
Q. I have been with my husband since high school, we got married last summer and I thought we had the perfect relationship. He is in the army and will be leaving to do a 8 month tour on April 15. Last night I overheard him telling his brother that...
A. 24 March 2009: He is in the army. This is a common fear. Distance puts a strain on relationships.
It's nothing personal. He hasn't accused you of anything; he's just (justifiably) nervous and insecure.
You should tell him what you overheard. Emph... (read in full...)
Is what he's doing to me ...abuse??
Q. Is this abuse? We were being intimate and I was enjoying being close with him (boyfriend of just over one year) and I have been doing kegels a lot because he tells me almost every other day that I'm 'too big' for him and that it must mean that I...
A. 24 March 2009: Your boyfriend is chronically jealous. He is a pitiless misogynistic racist and he talks to an invisible audience.
Leave this jerk. In all likelihood he is sleeping with whores anyway. Hence the obsession.... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of being a faithful good girl when no one else is!
Q. I have fallen for my boss. He is young, funny, beautiful and very sexy. The problem is that he is married and I already have someone. Recently, I find out that my someone else is seeing somebody too. He has been seeing her for a year.I am so tired ...
A. 24 March 2009:
You would inflict precisely the pain you're experiencing, many times multiplied, on your boss's wife, an innocent woman who has nothing to do with you getting dumped.
Why?... (read in full...)
I really want to be in porn!!!
Q. I really want to be in porn. It's my dream. What do I do. I'm even on chatrooms where I meet up for all sorts of sex with all sorts of people and send photos of me. Everyone says I'm a stunner and I really just really want to be a porn star. Advice ...
A. 24 March 2009: 1) You should stop hanging around pedophiles.
2) You should discover that thing between your ears, encased in your skull, and seek to use it, despite the evident strain.... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend back or is all lost?
Q. I want to know how I get my girlfriend to go back out with me.... I started seeing this girl a year ago just after I left my wife, it was the most perfect relationship ever....Never argued about anything, agreed on everything, had great fun, good ...
A. 24 March 2009: Well, of course it was the best sex and the best use of tongue ever, four exclamation points. That's why she left you to go have sex with somebody else.
But women will just be lining up for your best sex and best use of tongue ever. You'll h... (read in full...)
Will having anal sex ruin you or stretch you out in "that area"??
Q. Just curious... will having anal sex ruin you or stretch you out in "that area"?? How long does it generally take to work up to being able to actually have anal sex without it hurting so much?...
A. 24 March 2009: Occasionally, the anus may tear and cause infection, but it heals eventually. But given proper lubrication, the anus should accommodate the average penis/dildo quite easily within a week or two of constant practice. It won't ruin you physically, ... (read in full...)
Why is she so uncomfortable?
Q. Split with an ex over a year ago, I found out she was seeing someone else. We all work in the same offices. I walk away wish her well and to my knowledge cause her no trouble. Throughout the year she has been very hot and cold with me without ...
A. 24 March 2009: She is playing the two of you against each other to keep all options on the table.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I had my chance with him and wasted it.
Q. Hi, I really like this guy I met in college and I was trying to flirt with him at our end of year party because he seemed interested too but we didn't hook up in any way and now the semesters nearly over and I'm afraid I had my chance with him and ...
A. 24 March 2009: Guys are not girls. Unless he gets married, there is no such thing as "wasting a chance" with a man.
Seducing a woman is continuous process, and if you mess up at any stage, you're effectively frozen out.
Men are different. If you are remot... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my husband but I can't live with a liar!
Q. Hi, Need some help.. How do you trust a husband that has lied on numerous occasions?? He's never cheated or anything like that but we've had alot of problems lately over his drinking and friends.. We seperated earlier this year because once aga...
A. 24 March 2009: Alcoholism is a serious problem. If he's lying to cover up the problem, that is an immediate red flag. Another is his refusal to go for counseling.
Leave. It's difficult, but you have a child. You owe that child a stable life. While your hus... (read in full...)
Moving in with girlfriend and her kids
Q. Hay everybody, My girlfriend and I have been in relationship for almost two years and have decided to move in together.She has three kids (7,9 and 11 from first marriage).She is seeling her house and with that money will pay off her mortgage and...
A. 24 March 2009: Talk to a solicitor. In the States, marriage provides better legal protections. But in some Commonwealth countries, you're better off financially staying single. Whatever you do, make sure every transaction is written. You're in love right now, ... (read in full...)
I've finally fallen for him, but now he doesn't care. What should I do?
Q. Ok, I was in love, in a 2 year relationship and then he suddenly left me and didn't even give me any reasons. I was shocked, and alone for about three months, and then this guy (my current bf) came around and I really liked him. I even thought at ...
A. 24 March 2009: He never loved you. He likes the sex. Find someone who will treat you better than a whore.... (read in full...)
His behaviour has made me feel jealous. Help!
Q. I am a woman who can admit to other women as being beautiful but enough is enough. My boyfriend stares at every nice looking girl...not look but stares. So when I'm talking to him he doesn't hear a word I say. I asked him to stop doing that around ...
A. 24 March 2009: You are jealous of a pop star. Do you seriously think your boyfriend has a chance in hell with Beyonce? I would guess not. Then why are you bothered?
It's not Beyonce. It's those other women he stares at on the street. Your real rivals. ... (read in full...)
We broke up so that we could see other people, but what if end up not getting back together?
Q. Dear Cupids, My bf just broke up with me a few days ago, it hurts so much and I'm really confused. We have known each other for 4 years, but dated on and off for 2 years within those 4 years. We started dating since he was a freshman in coll...
A. 24 March 2009: Why buy the cow when the milk is free? Your boyfriend isn't interested in commitment right now. You are. He used that to get what he wanted and now he's leaving.
Learn your lesson. Be smart. Look for another guy. A decent one.... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend back or is all lost?
Q. I want to know how I get my girlfriend to go back out with me.... I started seeing this girl a year ago just after I left my wife, it was the most perfect relationship ever....Never argued about anything, agreed on everything, had great fun, good ...
A. 24 March 2009: This woman is not interested in you. She is interested in a conquest. She has successfully ruined your marriage and is looking for someone else to get her kicks.
But you were using her too, so it's even, right?... (read in full...)
He is afraid of commitment and keeps running away. What do I do?
Q. He was hurt so deeply once, not by a woman, that he ran away from everything for years. His life, his friends, his family. He had to start over again from nothing. Now I feel that he is doing this to our relationship. His fear of allowing ...
A. 24 March 2009: Running away? Sure, it's understandable sometimes. But if he's refusing to confront serious problems, he's a coward.
On the other hand, he may just be busy. Or running lines on you.... (read in full...)
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