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writes:I'm 17, and I have a question about sex. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex, but we do other things and while he gets a lot of pleasure out of everything I get nothing. He tries and it upsets him that he can't please me. I suppose I'm being selfish, but I get angry that he can be pleased and I can't. I have had sex before but I was kinda forced and it wasn't wanted. But anytime I do things with anyone, nothing feels pleasurable. I guess I just want to feel something. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, guppypig +, writes (26 March 2009):
You should both learn how to play chess. This is a mutually satisfying activity.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (26 March 2009):
 No advice from me, just total and complete understanding. I was in a relationship where it was the exact same way. He would always get off, I would never, he would feel frustrated, and I would feel resentful... All in all a bad combination. Sometimes the guy just needs to get better at sex, sometimes the girl needs to learn her body better to know what she likes, and just recently I heard a guy claim that orgasms for girls are very much about getting over some sort of mental block. Any of that sound familiar? Maybe you aren't relaxed enough...
If it's only when you're with someone that you don't feel something I'm almost positive it's fixable. If you don't feel pleasure EVER, even when you're doing things by yourself, you might want to talk to a doctor...
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