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36-40,
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writes:Dear Cupids,My bf just broke up with me a few days ago, it hurts so much and I'm really confused. We have known each other for 4 years, but dated on and off for 2 years within those 4 years. We started dating since he was a freshman in college, broke up for a year and half and we got back together earlier last year because we realized we still deeply cared about each other, and couldn't seem to stay away from each other even though we were in different states. But now that he is about to graduate and looking for work, he said he wasn't sure whether I'm the right person anymore...He said he was sure I was the one for the first half of the relationship, but he felt like I have changed and grown up due to work (I'm 2 years older than he is) and he hasn't. He said he felt like basically he spent the entire college with me, but he felt that we rely on each other too much. And he said he wanted to figure out more what he wants. I'm really hurt and confused. I love him very much and I want to wait for him, but I know i shouldnt. He said he still thinks maybe someday we could be together but only after we have both dated other people and changed because he said right now, something is not working and he doesnt know what it is. We cried alot while breaking up, and I know that it was very tough for him to breakup but he felt that he needs time on his own. What should I do? would he come back? What is the point of dating other people so we can get back together? I don't undersatnd....we got back together before so i have some hope that our love will endure through this, but I also have doubts that this time may be different...please help and give me your advice and experiences. thanks so much!
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reader, guppypig +, writes (24 March 2009):
Why buy the cow when the milk is free? Your boyfriend isn't interested in commitment right now. You are. He used that to get what he wanted and now he's leaving.
Learn your lesson. Be smart. Look for another guy. A decent one.
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