He is afraid of commitment and keeps running away. What do I do?

A female age , anonymous writes:

He was hurt so deeply once, not by a woman, that he ran away from everything for years. His life, his friends, his family. He had to start over again from nothing. Now I feel that he is doing this to our relationship. His fear of allowing himself to love and be loved is so great. He said he gets hurt and is good at running away, he is very emotionally. He recently has been under stress from all angles - including a samll minor incident between us - so now he has run away for 1 week. He said he will call me when he gets back and we will talk. I know when he returns he will want to be friends and slowly it will move back to a relationship. I just don't think I can handle this any more. He admits that he is good at running away and that is what he does. But it is not good for me. He is just afraid of commitment or does he use this tactic of hiding so he can do what he wants. I know he will call and push me to see him but I can not handle this. I really dont know what to do because I love him and there is so much good about him. Life is never perfect there are ups and downs but to me running and hiding and not dealing with things is not good. It is very painful. His friend said to me he really loves you but perhaps you should move on. Is he just too emotionally scared too handle any indepth feelings. Help, I only a few days before his return and I keep going back and forth as to what I am going to do and with what I am thinking. Perhaps, another thought maybe he is just a jerk

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