Will the first time really hurt?
Q. I am thirteen and have been in a great relationship sence i was nine. With the same guy. I am completely ready for sex. no one can say its puppy love because it is not. not even close he means a lot to me and no one ever made me feel that good. and ...
A. 1 March 2010: To tell you the truth you might be ready in your mind but your body might not be. You're thirteen which means you are just starting to develop your body into a woman. And I don't think you're even ready to except the consequences for having sex at ... (read in full...)
I want to change my life!
Q. im 22 and I really want and need to change my life. I can look back now and see that it really started to go down hill from when i was 15. I mean it was pretty standard stuff, i drank with friends, smoked and i used to shop life alot as well. w...
A. 1 March 2010: Well this all sounds familiar to me. I had to change my life many times and I'm still not where I want to be. Some things work for me and some don't. But you know something it's never too late to change your life to reinvent yourself. Sometimes it ... (read in full...)
We keep running out of things to talk about...
Q. Lately my boyfriend and I seem to have run out of things to talk about. He calls me in the morning asks me how my sleep was and what I'm doing today. Then he says he'll call me later. After work he calls me asks me how my days was. I ask him about ...
A. 26 February 2010: Definitely have to stop calling each other in the morning after work and before going to sleep. Might want to get a hobby of your own whether its going to the gym or hanging with other friends to shop or eat. If you want things to get going again ... (read in full...)
Troubles at work, and I can't quit!
Q. My boss hates me! I just started working at Taco Bell because Im a 21 yr old college student and I needed a job with flexible hours plus I have two out of country trips so I need a flexible job. Ok so here's the problem. The hiring manager w...
A. 25 February 2010: Eventhough she's your boss you do have a right to defend yourself. If you feel you did nothing wrong then speak up. If you feel you're being treated unfairly with the yelling or they are overworking you when you agreed to flexible hours speak up. ... (read in full...)
Hung out with my cousin and my boyfriend is pissed I didn't beg him to come.
Q. This may seem trivial but my boyfriend is making a massive deal about it. My cousin is here form overseas and i want to spend as much time as possible with her as i have not seen her for 6 years. i invited my boyfriend to go karting, ice ska...
A. 25 February 2010: OMG!!! He was waiting for his mom to make him dinner so he couldn't go. I'm really sorry but (LMAO). I think you want a man and not a boy. He doesn't want to get involved with your family and he's getting angry with you in which you did absolutely ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is way too sensitive for me!
Q. I'm 18 years old and involved in a healthy, loving relationship. This guy is amazing, sweet, kind, and a beautiful person. We've been together for 5 months. However, he is a bit too sensitive. Sometimes I think he is almost spineless. I'm a very ...
A. 25 February 2010: Well back in high school I was like him but not to that extent. I've been used and made fun of many times. Sometimes I thought of myself not good enough for any girl. By the time I was a senior I grew out of that and I didn't care what people had to ... (read in full...)
Sex seems to be the his main focus. Sould I go on another date?
Q. Hi, I ran into this guy that I use to work with last year. He had gotten a divorce and asked me on a date. I accepted the. Well, of course he tried to sleep with me,on the first date but I didn't. On our second date we had a talk and he told m...
A. 25 February 2010: Definitely not a good idea to keep going on dates with this guy. Obviously he still has issues from his divorce and I don't think you want to be in the middle of it. He just wants to get laid and will keep on asking you till he gets it. He doesn't ... (read in full...)
Was he joking or was he serious?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost five months, and to this point we have had a very slow paced relationship. but last night, we were texting and he started talking about sexual topics, at first he kept putting jk or saying just playing ...
A. 24 February 2010: Oh he was serious. He was saying exactly what he wanted to say and then adding j/k at the end of every text so you won't get upset if you didn't like the idea. But at least the thought is out there. He's testing to you to see how you react to ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that when it comes to having sex I will just be really clumsy and inexperienced!
Q. Hi there this is really embarrassing but i don't really know what else to do. Basically i'm a 20 year old virgin, and this is totally out of choice. I have been extremely picky in the past, and to be honest a bit of a prude. I'm not ugly, and i ...
A. 24 February 2010: There's no standard for what age you should lose your virginity. It's a personal choice we all make ourselves. Most lose it in their teen years but I know most weren't ready to lose it just yet. Just because everyone is doing it doesn't mean you ... (read in full...)
I told her how I felt about her and things have become weird between us, will things ever improve?
Q. I recently told feelings to my friend who is engaged (She lead me on, she is a very good friend of mine, and I have always been there for her when she needed me), after telling feelings to her she said that she does not want to talk to me, then ...
A. 23 February 2010: This ain't the movies that you can tell someone how you feel when they are enaged to be married and at the end of the movie they call off the wedding and run to that person. This is real life. I don't know what you were expecting but you know you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex and now she is pregnant
Q. ok so my boyfriend of about 7 months cheated on my with his ex. they had sex and now she's pregnant . I can honestly say he was my first love so I can't hate him . but I'm mad at him . I can't get over the fact that he cheated . I need advice o...
A. 23 February 2010: This is going to be a rollercoaster for you if you stay with this guy. You're going to get hurt and I don't want that to happen to you. You know he's going to have to pay child support and has to see his ex every week and keep in contact with her. ... (read in full...)
Best friend gets a boyfriend, now she seems to ignore me.
Q. Hiya, My then Best friend started going out with her boyfriend about 7 months ago. There good together and everything but i feel fully left out. Its lead to us drifting apart and hardly talking. If we do they're always together, we never get a ch...
A. 23 February 2010: It's nothing against you it's just that all of her attention is to her boyfriend and we sometimes get lost when we're in love. You already told her how you felt but she's really into her boyfriend and you cant change that. You're just going to have ... (read in full...)
When she asks me what's wrong and I say nothing, she just says "whatever"
Q. ok i just to say thanks to everyone who has read my past post heres my question my girlfriend currently broke up with me a while back and ask me out again 4 days ago because she didnt want to see me in pain *supposidly* but she doesnt talk to me as ...
A. 23 February 2010: Um she asked you out because she didn't want to see you in pain. Well there's your problem right there. Whether that's the truth or not she's with you for the wrong reasons. It just sounds like she doesn't care about you and probably just using you. ... (read in full...)
What else can I do to win her back?
Q. Hi everyone, sorry this is a long one ! I recently had an issue with my girlfriend. I came home one night and she asked me to move out as it was her house. We had been together for 9 months and lived together for most of that time as well. I'm 27 ...
A. 22 February 2010: Well I guess her mind is made up. When she said she doesn't love you they way you want her to is a nice way of saying I don't love you anymore. Chances are she's been thinking about this for a while because it just doesn't happen overnight that one ... (read in full...)
When we have a fight my boyfriend prefers to spend time with his friends instead of talking it out with me
Q. my boyfriend is almost perfect and we have great time.. sometimes he is the one how seems to love me more and he treats very nice to me.. BUT when we have a fight he becomes incurious and he seems that he doesn't really cares to work it out soon...
A. 22 February 2010: I seem to be the opposite of what people are saying here and I am a guy. Usually it's the girl that doesn't want to talk and work it out with me. But I have come to realize that there is no quick fix to anything. Doesn't matter if it's a man or ... (read in full...)
I'm 9 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend wants me to have an abortion, I don't know what to do for the best
Q. I am a 25 year old women with 4 kids and I am 9 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend of 3 years wants me to terminate my pregnancy but he also told me its my body and whatever my decision is he will support me no matter what and he will stay with me. we ...
A. 22 February 2010: Why not give it up for adoption.... (read in full...)
Joking around or an actual teacher crush?
Q. Okay, so there is this teacher at my high school. He is in his late 20s and I've known him for 3 years now. He was my world geo teacher in ninth grade, and that first semester everything seemed okay, I wasn't attracted to him and he obviously didn't ...
A. 22 February 2010: Regardless of what you might feel you can't do anything about it. I'm sure we all had a crush on a teacher at some point but we left it at that. He might tease you and pick on you all the time but it doesn't really mean he likes you that way. And if ... (read in full...)
I'm on a study-trip for 4 months, how do I keep my girfriend of 3 years from cheating?
Q. Hi all, this is slightly long-winded .... sorry ... I have been living with my girlfriend in America for 2 years, and we are best friends and all that, I love her dearly. I do everything for her. But ..... When we started our relationship, she...
A. 22 February 2010: This is not healthy for you. You should really move on before she breaks your heart into pieces. You just can't trust her yet alone a known cheater. If I were you I would just act normal and try to distance myself from her until you can comeback for ... (read in full...)
Was it a bad idea to tell my best friend that I like him?
Q. me and my best friend matt are really close and whenever people ask us if we go out we say yeah but were just joking then laugh. but ive really liked him for a long time and i told him and now we havent talked in 4 days because of how he ...
A. 22 February 2010: You freaked him out lol. But you know what it was the right thing to do. You told him how you felt inside and I've been there. You did nothing wrong and you needed to get this out of your system. He's probably surprised by this and trying to gather ... (read in full...)
Is going to a striptease cheating?
Q. Hi, It's been 4months I got married. Few days back when we were talking about the adult store I asked my husband if he ever went to striptease. He said his friends arranged a bachelor's party for him there so he went to that place. Its just a week b...
A. 19 February 2010: I've been through some bachelor parties at a strip club and it's harmless. The dancers get naked and just do a little show. He probably got a spanking but it's for good laughs. Theres no sex involved in any way. The most action that will happen is a ... (read in full...)
Is 4 sexual partners a high number for a 21 year old?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend and we only dated for 2 months and he was basically using me for sex, I posted a question about it a couple hours ago and recieved good respones. My question now is- I am 21 and have had sex with 4 people. Is that a ...
A. 19 February 2010: No I don't think that's a lot. It really shouldn't matter how many people you done it with as long as you were in love them. Slutty would be doing it with someone you have no feelings for. You just wanted to get in and get out. Which is you're just ... (read in full...)
He was a drug dealer but says he has reformed
Q. ok this si going to sound stupid because i cant belive i'd say this but cutitn to the point. met a guy online.normally i wouldnt rush into things or get attachedd. nearly been a week and we jst chat so much. seriously hes great, and he unders...
A. 19 February 2010: Just tell him if he really cares for you then there's no need to rush into anything. Get to know him a bit more and when you are comfortable with him then you can introduce him to your family. Tell him you'll be there for him but there's no need to ... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush but I'm just too nervous when I'm around him. Help!
Q. I'm totally crushing on this guy in my class. We're friends and I'm not a shy person, but around him I am. He's not a shy guy either, but around me, he used to never make eye contact.(My friend spoke to him and said he acts normal. But when she saw ...
A. 19 February 2010: I think if you like him he would rather hear it from you than hearing it from your mutual friend. So flirt with him and study together more. And when the moment is right whenever that may be go for it. Ask him if that dinner offer is still on the ... (read in full...)
He keeps screwing around with girls online!
Q. okay so my boyfriend is screwing me over , around december i found out that he made a my yearbook account and a seperate msn that i never knew about and was tlaking/ fliring with chicks and doing shit on webcam with them , i found out wat abck then ...
A. 19 February 2010: I can tell you that one thing leads to another. He's meeting these girls online and it maybe all innocent until he start getting nude pics from them and then doing things on the webcam. He lied to you and he's be sneaking around behind your back. It ... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me by text but won't leave me alone!
Q. Right where to start. Well me and my boyfriend broke up around a month ago after spending 6 months together and I still find it so hard. We were so close and cared so much for each other but out of the ordinary he dumped me by text. He then messed ...
A. 19 February 2010: What an a$$hole. You need to get away from this guy and cut all contact with him. Delete every contact info you have of him and block his number so he can't text you. If you happen to bump into him ignore him completely don't even look at him. If he ... (read in full...)
I don't want my four year relationship to end. I've worked so hard and I don't want it thrown away because of sex.
Q. I need help. I'm only 18 years old, but I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for four years. I'm not very interested in sex anymore, and I'm afraid he's going to end us over it. He complains that we never do anything, and I feel bad. Even ...
A. 18 February 2010: Well if that's all he cares about then you should move on. You're very young and have a lifetime to have sex so there's no obligation. You should talk to him and tell him about your feelings about sex and where you want the relationship to go. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't perform in bed as good as he thinks he can.
Q. I just started having sex very recently.My Boyfriend and I have had sex a couple times and everytime it was bad. I cheated on him with a friend who I asked to teach me how to ride and perform fellatio and some other basic positions and the sex was ...
A. 17 February 2010: Wait wait wait, YOU CHEATED ON HIM!!! And just to learn some new moves? Well there's your problem. I think it's time to move on from this guy. You want something and this guy is not giving it to you that another man could. So I think it's time to ... (read in full...)
My Prince Charming says he'll only stay with me if I give our baby up for adoption.
Q. Hi, i am 18 years old, i am having a baby, i am 17weeks today, me and the father are together but he says he will be with and stay with me if i give the baby up for adoption, and if i keep it he will leave, I am stuck in a rut and im not sure what ...
A. 17 February 2010: Don't listen to him. He's forcing you to do something you might not want to do. If you feel you want to be with your child after it's born then it's ok. The moment he asked you to choose was the moment he stopped being prince charming and started to ... (read in full...)
She had sex with other guys while we were broken up! This bothers me! Help!
Q. About six months ago, I broke up with my fiance, high school sweeheart and first girlfriend. A couple of months later, we still weren't talking and I missed her as a friend but was too stubborn to admit it. I then got into a bad relationship with ...
A. 17 February 2010: Well when people feel lonely and heartbroken we are vulnerable to things. We usually do things we don't normally do because we want to make ourselves feel better. You guys were broken up so she had no obligation to you and probably didn't think you ... (read in full...)
I really don't understand him, can anyone shed some light on his behaviour?
Q. ok there is this guy i like we are friends i know he used to like me. im not sure now. but lately he is doing things he never did before like always touching my leg. asks me if i would ever marry him we argue a lot and sunday he asked me why arent i ...
A. 17 February 2010: I'm sorry but I don't understand you. I understand him because he obviously likes you but not sure what your intentions are with this guy. You like him and he likes you but your asking what gives him the right to hold your hand and chase you ... (read in full...)
I don't see myself as sexy, I can only see myself as "cute"
Q. My issue is that I don't see myself as "sexy." This poses a problem since I am in a relationship. I see myself as "cute" - not really how you want to see yourself when you're intimate with your significant other. My boyfriend says to me, "you're t...
A. 17 February 2010: It's not all about looks that makes you sexy. If you have a great personality that makes you even hotter. I've met some cute girls and they were really nice and intellectual. That turned me on and I found that really sexy. I told them that and yes ... (read in full...)
What can these guys online give her that I can not?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a girlfriend problem. We've been seeing each other for about a year now, but lately I've seen a different side to her. She's always been a little edgy when it comes to my exes, never wanted me to talk about them. But now all she ...
A. 16 February 2010: She's 27 and I think she's being the immature one here. This relationship sounds pretty odd to me. Obviously there are many issues to be addressed here and I don't feel like this relationship isn't working at all. The communication is bad and the ... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision to cut him off and let him miss me?
Q. My relationship of nine months ended 2 months ago because my ex boyfriend didnt have feelings for me anymore, wanted time and space for him alone, and we argued too much! He was tired of fighting. It was a hard break up for me cuz i loved him, we ...
A. 16 February 2010: Ummm first thing is don't beg for him your better than that. I think he made it perfectly clear he has no feelings for you anymore and just wants to be friends. He will miss you but probably just as a friend. So let's say it does work and he wants ... (read in full...)
I told his fiancee we had an affair out of anger!
Q. I had an affair with a man who was in engaged. He is from Italy and is here for work and his fiance is and has been in Italy which I'm sad to say made it easier. When we started hanging out he didn't tell me but after I found out it was so hard to ...
A. 16 February 2010: I wouldn't worry about his life since he ruined it on his own. But you should know that being in an affair can get you in very hot water and people will always come out hurt in one way or another. So don't get yourself involved in this mess again. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend attended a "filthy" lap dancing club..and had a dance!
Q. Hi everyone ... Please read my story , because I just dont know what to do and Im constantly privately in tears . I found out by pressuring one of the guys ( and thats a story in itself ) That my b/f of 3 1/2 years attended a " filthy " lap d...
A. 16 February 2010: Ok first you gotta find out if this is true. It depends on the stripper because they all do different things and some won't even let you touch them at all. Usually a lapdance is just alot of grinding and touching which I think is harmless but it ... (read in full...)
My wife has admitted having an affair and wants to save our marriage, but all my trust for her is ruined
Q. I recently learned that my wife was seeing someone else through people that I work with. She admitted to having an affair, and I have been on a roller coaster of emotions for about a week now. We've been married for almost 5 years, we have 2 young ...
A. 16 February 2010: It's within your right to get a divorce if you want. She broke the ultimate rule of marriage and that's trust. I can understand how you feel. But you also have to think about the best interest of your children. If you decide to give it another go ... (read in full...)
How to make a move on friend when she's sleeping at my house
Q. hey all one of my close girl friends we always talk about sex and each others experiences etc and we are heaps flirty. now were both single and even when she was with her boyfriend she used to talk to me about everything they did and send me sexy ...
A. 16 February 2010: Welll first thing is get the right movie to set the mood. No chainsaw ripping through guts all over the screen movies. Get something she might like. Something that might touch her personally. A comedy would be best. Put a touch of cologne on. Put ... (read in full...)
Still madly in love with my ex...how can I get him back?
Q. Ok...This is the situation...This guy1 and I had feelings for each other since we were kids...I am now 24 an he is 25...He never got the gut to ask me out...He kept sending mixed signals...Finally I decided to move on with someone else and was in a ...
A. 16 February 2010: Spend time with him as friends. Let him know that you're there for him when he's heartbroken. Sooner or later he'll see that you really care about him and he'll get over his fear of being heartbroken again. These things take time so be patient. In ... (read in full...)
I really want her back but she wants to have a large single social life, should I text her or continue to give her space?
Q. Hi, my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost two whole years i am seventeen and she is sixteen. recently she told me that she did think she wanted to date anymore and needed to find herself. She states hat she doesnt want to look back at her ...
A. 16 February 2010: Well people do change overtime. It's just the way life is. She's growing into becoming a young mature woman. She's curious about the world and she knows she has all these opportunities in life (college, traveling, working, etc). And from what you ... (read in full...)
Why does she ignore me when I ask her out?
Q. there is a girl i really like, i call her like 4 - 5 times a day. sometimes i feel that she is ignoring me. what must i do ? sometimes she ignores me when i ask her out...
A. 16 February 2010: First thing is stop calling her 4-5 times a day. She has a life and she can't talk to you all the time. You're making yourself too available and desperate so just back off a bit. That's why she ignores you when you ask her out. Now if you want to ... (read in full...)
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