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writes:About six months ago, I broke up with my fiance, high school sweeheart and first girlfriend. A couple of months later, we still weren't talking and I missed her as a friend but was too stubborn to admit it. I then got into a bad relationship with another girl which I broke off a few days ago. I did not have sex with this girl because I wasn't sure if she was the one for me. Now I am back on good terms with my ex and we are both interested in trying to make our relationship work again, but I found out that she has had sex without other guys since we broke up. I know that she is entitled to do whatever she wants because we werent together at the time, but for some reason i'm hung up on it. Advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010):
Welcome to your new relationship with this new girl.
Neither of you is quite the same people you were before the breakup. You can't have the old her back. That girl is gone. You can either accept who she has become now or don't be with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): Get counseling... and get over it... she's an adult, you're an adult. She ventured out, you didn't... neither is wrong- you just didn't score in the off season.
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (17 February 2010):
Well when people feel lonely and heartbroken we are vulnerable to things. We usually do things we don't normally do because we want to make ourselves feel better. You guys were broken up so she had no obligation to you and probably didn't think you two would get back together. It happened and it's the past and you guys are back together so try not to let it bug you and concentrate on making the relationship work this time. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 February 2010):
You and your ex didn't work out before, and you won't now judging by this. Remember you broke up with her, so she was entitled to do what she wanted. I just think you're walking straight back into a mess.
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