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writes:hey allone of my close girl friends we always talk about sex and each others experiences etc and we are heaps flirty. now were both single and even when she was with her boyfriend she used to talk to me about everything they did and send me sexy pictures. She wants to come over and stay the night at mine watching movies.just wanted to ask how would I make a move? I'm worried shell pull away and it will ruin the whole friendship dynamic.thanks
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reader, goodguy11  +, writes (16 February 2010):
Welll first thing is get the right movie to set the mood. No chainsaw ripping through guts all over the screen movies. Get something she might like. Something that might touch her personally. A comedy would be best. Put a touch of cologne on. Put your phone on vibrate and leave it in your room. Sit down on the couch close to her. From there see how she reacts. If she snuggles up to you to get closer that's a good sign. If she just texting on the phone that's bad. You'll know when the time is right to make a move. Number one thing is keep her entertained and comfortable. Play cards. talk about experiences or play a game. If you make spending the night with you fun she'll comeback for another night. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): I don't think you're going to talk your way into it. You need to get touchy with her and use kino. If you don't know what that is, google it. You're probably already doing it and you don't even know it. When you two are really close or you've been touching each other you can do the kiss test (google that too) look into her eyes, touch her hair and say it's really soft. If she smiles and lets you keep stroking her hair, then she's ready for you to kiss her. Go from there. If she gets weirded out and uncomfortable, she'll pull away and you don't have to worry about being embarrassed about asking her to sleep with you. Additionally, look for signs that she wants you to kiss her. If she looks in your eyes then to you lips and back to your eyes, that's a good sign or if she is wetting or puckering her lips that's a good sign too. Women do all kinds of body language things that we men constantly overlook. Anyway, good luck. You're the man, so you have to make the first move. It was her idea to spend the night, after all.
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reader, Xernyhs +, writes (16 February 2010):
I'd get her talking about it again, then sort of bring up, "why haven't we tried this together" lightly. Like with a smile/laugh. See how she responds and go from there. If she responds with a maybe or anything else that's unclear, tell her that both of you know many of the things the other likes (I'm assuming you do) and because of that it would be great for both of you
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