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writes:im 22 and I really want and need to change my life.I can look back now and see that it really started to go down hill from when i was 15.I mean it was pretty standard stuff, i drank with friends, smoked and i used to shop life alot as well.when school finished i didnt know what to do as i failed my gcses. so i got an apprenticship but it was not what i wanted to do. so i went back to college.i completed college, but didnt get good grades but still managed to get into a university.see the problem is for the last few years i have surrounded myself with negative people and beaten down on myself so hard.Well i failed university and moved in with a childhood friend who my family begged me not too, because this girl is a big drain on me, either has problems or wants to argue, but stupidly i did and i have allowed this friend to break my self confidence down to the point i litterally had a mini break down (stress, crying etc) i have allowed new friends to view my as second best to her and i have had enough.Luckily i have supportive friends not from this circle who i went to uni with who would want to live with me if i wanted to come back to liverpool, where i went to uni. I need to start again, build myself up again.so i am thinking of going back to uni, living back in liverpool where i can get work (not fond work in 4 months), and really reinventing myself, or more finding myself again!life has stood still for me now for a long time, i havent dated in 2 years and ive really let myself go lol.i would really like to hear peoples experiences in the same thing or people feeling the same and your plans.emma xxx
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reader, goodguy11  +, writes (1 March 2010):
Well this all sounds familiar to me. I had to change my life many times and I'm still not where I want to be. Some things work for me and some don't. But you know something it's never too late to change your life to reinvent yourself. Sometimes it takes extreme measures but people are different. There was this girl that I really liked, she left her family and moved to another city to enroll in a univeristy and started a new life. She came from a very poor family and she worked hard to become a nurse and have a job and a home and a car. She cut all the negative people out of her life including her ex b/f and for whatever reason she cut me off too for a very dumb reason (not because I was negative) but it's her decision. Just know you don't have to be stuck anywhere. You can always change you can always make yourself better. I have an ok job but I know once I get experience I will start to look for a better job I want to do and that will pay more. And I'm sure that will lead to other good things and meet some good friends and aquaintances. No one starts at the top. It takes hard work and dedication to get what you want. I hope this helped you out.
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reader, loner  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Hello.. You are already on the right track, you have decided enough is enough and you want to change the way you are. You are not alone, there are many people who feel the same, as you look back into your life you will find that you really did not do much for yourself and many times that is what turns things up side down. Break free from whatever is keeping you down, believe me when you are free you know you are free.. Become happy with yourself first, happiness comes from within, worldly things, a car a house a good job, can't altogether make you happy. When you jhave found happiness within you will become the person you want to be, the person you wanted to be before eveerything turned upside down.. Count your blessing each day and make the best of what you have.. 'Never give up'
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 March 2010):
It's a lot of work, that's what I can say. I lost my job in 2008, couldn't' find anything for ages, so ended up setting up my own company. It's not really paying at the moment, because of the recession. But I feel so much better for at least trying, and am till very hopeful that it will pay off. The point is, you're right to reinvent yourself, because even if it doesn't pay off at first, you'll still feel so much better. It's a lot of work, but I say go for it. Good luck.
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