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writes:ok so my boyfriend of about 7 months cheated on my with his ex.they had sex and now she's pregnant . I can honestly say he was my first love so I can't hate him . but I'm mad at him . I can't get over the fact that he cheated . I need advice on how to talk to him about wat he has done and how to confront him about it .
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reader, Hard_decision  +, writes (25 February 2010):
Ive been in your position recently. I was with my ex for 3 years, the relationship was never happy as he was always hurting me, pursuing other girls behind my back etc. Anyway he cheated on me and got her pregnant. The baby is now 5 wks old.. He has sworn until he is blue in the face that he has changed and that can be the man I deserve. I dont believe him, I recently found out he was still trying to have his cake and eat it too... (I was slowly letting him prove to me he could change, he told me he would prove to me hes the man I can marry and rely on, but at the same time he was telling the childs mother he wanted to make it work with her and was done with me) therefore he still hadnt changed and there I was looking so stupid yet again. I wasted nearly 4 years of my life waiting for him to be that better person he promised he could be, and when I finally thought he was making progress he goes and gets someone pregnant.. Leave now trust me, its not worth all the drama that will come... Youve only been with him for 7 months.. dont be a love struck fool like me and think he will change and stick around for many more years... he too was my first love, but like the last poster said, why is he so great.. we havent had any other love to compare him too... Good luck, I hope your smarter then what I was
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): Move on.
He's your first love, and he's so great compared to . . . what?
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (23 February 2010):
This is going to be a rollercoaster for you if you stay with this guy. You're going to get hurt and I don't want that to happen to you. You know he's going to have to pay child support and has to see his ex every week and keep in contact with her. Leave him and move on because this could get ugly for you if you stay with him. Are you going to trust him to go this ex's house to pick up his child especially if he's takes too long to get back home. I can understand you want to be with him because you love him but love didn't stop him from cheating on you. Think about it. You can talk to him about this and eventhough he'll say he'll never do it again well that's what they all say.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 February 2010):
You need to move on now, before you get hurt even more. This isn't something you will really be able to cope with at this time. Now should you. He has cheated with an ex, which means he still loves her, not you. He has got her pregnant, which means that now he will have to pay for the child and see that child. Can you really handle knowing that every day he has another child with an ex he cheated with, that he has to see and pay for that child and that you are now less important than the ex because she is the mother of the child. He might be your first love, but he sure as hell won't be your best love. Move on now, because in ten years time you will be full of resentment for him.
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