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writes:Why can't I get him out my head? This is killing me:(?My ex boyfriend lied cheated and dumped me and i lost all my confidence so I decided to join the gym and I'm in the best shape in my life.Guys all say I'm attractive. But there's this cute guy that I've liked for so long now and is killing me. He's always on my mind and he's all I want. I don't even know what I like about him but I just do. I'm bubbly and flirty with guys I meet but when I see this guy I get so shy and can hardly say a word.He's friendly and chatty with everyone else but when he's with me he's really quiet and I think he finds me intimating. He says he's single for 2 years now(so have I) cause he works all the time.This is killing me. Other guys wants to talk to me but I'm so stuck on this guy. I feel so miserable.:( Is 8months now. I can't get him out my head he just stares at me when he sees me:( and I can't ask him out cause I like him so much I'm scared I don't know how he feels about me:(He's 25 and I'm 23.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2013): If you can tempt him to take an hour off for lunch or a coffee then you will have a chance to get to know him and him you. Ask like he's one of your girlfriends, just a hey, come and join me tomorrow for _ _ _
If he says no thanks then you can start to date other guys and draw a line under this crush.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (24 April 2013):
Dear OP,
You need to do something, even though you're scared to death. I face the same problem when I'm attracted to someone. But if you don't act, you'll never know what could have been and you'll regret it.
Don't be too straight forward, but show a little interest and invite him to something. Don't make a big deal out of it.
Say something like, "hey, do you also go to party XY on the weekend? me and my friends will be there and I thought, maybe you and your friends want to come along?"
Or: "Hey, I've noticed your office is really close to this new coffee place. I wanted to check it out tomorrow, would you like to join?"..
.. or if you too shy, invent an excuse to talk to him.. maybe he can help you with something? maybe you share a common interest that you could do together?
I know how much courage it takes to make the first step. Be brave and share your story with us! Thumbs up!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 April 2013):
 goodness of course you can ask him out... just ask him if he wants to get some coffee or something. the worst thing he can do is say NO and then you know he's not interested in you and you can start to move on.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (24 April 2013):
Well, it seems like he might be suffering from the same problem as you do. He get's quiet because he really likes you.
Why don't you ask him if he would like a walk or a drink together? That would be a nice intermediate step before asking him out on a 'real' date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2013): Just ask him out to a favourite restaurant or bistro after your next gym session for a cup of your favourite drink. Get to know this person before you want to do anything else. It might work out but you should have all kinds of questions to ask him. I am sure he already knows you like him. Maybe after this meeting he may not be the man you thought he was or you can hit it off right away. Move forward on this.
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