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female
age
30-35,
*esert-rose
writes:Hello everyone! I have this friend whom I've known for years. She has always been so bossy and always trying to control my life. I've reached a point where i can't take this anymore. She's very selfish, only thinking about herself. She calls me up every single day just to take her out due to the fact that she doesn't drive, i feel like i'm her personal driver. Whenever i tell her that i can't go out with her because i have to go at my cousins place, she tells me to ditch them because thats what she's gonna do to her cousins if it was her. And sometimes I have to be home at 10:30 max, or else my dad will get really upset, so whenever i go out with her she tells me to ignore my dad and that i'm such a party pooper for wanting to go home on time, and i always have a fight with my dad because of her. In addition, i work, that's reallly hectic, she calls me up and tells me to pick her up once i finish work. Sometimes i try to ignore her, then she goes and make a big deal out of nothing, trying to make me feel guilty for ignoring her, telling me things like "is this what i get for loving u so much and considering u part of my family, i even ditch my cousins just to go out with". I would never ever tell her to ditch anyone for me or cancel her plans just to go out with me. even if i had plans with other friends she tells me to cancel those plans, and if i didn't she gets upset and tweet bad things about me, and accusing me of being a bad friend. I feel like she's using me, i'm so depressed and stressed because of her. I wake up everyday with 10 missed calls from her. I'm a person who enjoys to be alone sometimes, i need some ME TIME! help what should i do? i tried talking to her but that didn't work.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (12 May 2013):
Dear OP,
This situations sounds terrible and you've let this go way too far already. 10 missed calls every morning? Driving her around after you're tired from work, getting in trouble with your family, reading bad tweets about yourself.. for what? Why do you still keep this person in your life?
You don't sound like you enjoy this friendship anymore, you're just dragging her along in your life because you both have a long history together.
My recommendation is to cut all contact, block her phone number, unfollow her on twitter. And then enjoy your free time and find real friends.
Yes, she'll be upset about it and talk and tweet bad things about you.. you have to live with that. Sometimes people will be disappointed by your decisions, get angry, sad or whatever. You need to learn to stand up for yourself and not try to make everyone happy at all cost. You've got the right to see who you want to see and do what you want to do in your free time, don't let anybody take that from you.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (11 May 2013):
You feel being used? You definitely ARE being used!
Is there anything positive about her? Do you still like her at all?
Someone needs to be ditched by you and it's not your cousin...
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