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writes:Thanks for reading.I will make it as brief as possible :)I'm 20, and have been in a long distance relationship for around 4 months.Previously was living with my boyfriend (25) but have moved interstate to live with my mum for awhile.I found a full-time job, car and for the first time in my life, am actually proud of myself.Only problem is, I have no friends here and am extremely lonely.My question is, would it be better to stay here and continue with my job, and hope things get better.. or to move back and have my friends/boyfriend but have to start again.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 May 2013):
 Hang in there : 1 ) 4 months it's really a short time to feel happy/ comfortable in a new place. 2 ) I know this will sound as heresy to you , but a good job of which you are proud of is less disposable than your current bf and friends. At 20, both bf and friends can be VERY transitional and replaceable, while gratifying jobs are harder to come by and, most of all, a sense of accomplishemnet and self esteem is priceless and irreplaceable.
3 ) You live with mom, you are not totally all by yourself, so when you say you are lonely, I guess you just mean you are BORED. A bit of initiative ,my friend. To make friends, be a friend, why don't you just invite a couple of coworkers to join you for drinks or coffee or a movie ? Or call them home and cook dinner for them ?
Or else, get involved in some club / course ( class / church. Join a volunteer group, take some interest in the life of your neighborhood/ community.
Making new acquaintances ( if not real lifelong friends ) is not that hard, but you need to do your part, you can't just sit at home or in a bar and wait for people to befriend you.
At least, give it a try ! , then if in three more months or so, you are still so miserable, you can always go ack then.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (11 May 2013):
Do you life in a remote place with little activities?
Have you already investigated what's going on in your area?
Do you have any hobbies?
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