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writes:So a bit of a random question, I have moved offices at work and now am at a office closer to home. Of which is next to a bakery.. over the past few months I have been in for my lunch and have met a nice young girl, who seems nice and has a nice smile..I go in a few times a week anyway she seems really smiley with and as time has gone on she talks a bit more to me, I notice she always trys too look at me to give me a smile and I do her. I have called a cutie as I have left a few times to ha. Anyway she told me it was her birthday a few weeks ago and she has turned 18 I myself am 25 .. but live with parents.. anyway I do like this rough idea of how she is and would like to get to know her more. But 1) how could I ask her? I haven't even asked her name yet, other ppl are around, I have seen her alone but not asked her still ha. Also she is 18 , is it fair on her or should I just leave and let her do what teens do ? I didn't party much because I was in a serious relationship from 17-21. Anyway I don't meet many girls I like but do this one, and am a polite guy who would never rush a girl into anything. So should I ask to know her more and how ? Thank you
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (18 April 2013):
Stick with the formula - 1/2 your age plus seven. So at 25, the youngest for you is 19.5.
It truly seems to work at any point during your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you faded, I am waiting for the right moment for stage 1, then stage 2 is gettin her number ha. I have always been bad at telling if a girl likes me. I was speaking to her and smiling a lot today, but then I think she is doing her job, or just smiling, thinkin to herself ' ha this is that silly bloke that clearly fancies me ' lol she did hold up the que to talk to ne though lol , If I get the balls to do it, I will let you know how it goes ha
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reader, Faded Lights  +, writes (16 April 2013):
I don't see why anything between you two would not let her do things that 18 year olds do, just let her have lots of space in that regard and don't hog her completely to yourslef, that is if things do advance further. Obviously you must ask her name well before you you even consider asking her out, but if you both continue talking and getting along then wait for one of those moments she is alone and ask her on a casual date for coffee or something, I wouldnt suggest anything to extravagant yet. There's no hidden secret to asking someone out, you just have to build up the courage and straight up ask her. If shes not interested just remember it could be that shes intimidated being the younger one, therefore having less experience.But I wouldnt let that completely discourage you either, then Id suggest just still be friendly with her and hopefully a less intimidating relationship as just friends would be more suited for now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for advice and confirming things. I do want to get to know her more. What do you think would be best way to ask her? I might get her number just to talk more, but what's best way to ask her ? Thanks for your help people.
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reader, Faded Lights +, writes (16 April 2013):
When I was 18 I was in a relationship with a 25 year old. The age gap didn't matter to either of us at all, the only thing that mattered was we both got along and enjoyed spending time with one another. The only issue regarding age was that my parents were not okay with the relationship, but if thats not a concern for you then I would say go for it and see where things could go! Good luck and I hope it works out!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 April 2013):
 I don't see a problem.
find out her name so you can call her by her name... at 18 I would hope this is a part time job and she's in school.... so ask questions... does she like her job, does she go to school....
after a few more visits ask her if she would be interested in getting coffee or something with you one day when she's not busy with work or (maybe) school....
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 April 2013):
I don't think it's a big deal unless there is a maturity gap. But the age difference itself isn't bad.
What you need to be careful of is moving things too fast. She's likely on a different page as far as relationships are concerned.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (15 April 2013):
What's critical here is how mature she is. Try to find out things like:
Does she have a serious attitude? Does she know what she wants? Is she a party animal? Is she impatient? How are her friends etc.
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