How could a guy like him fall for a girl like her?
Q. Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I have been dating the most wonderful man, Jeff, for about a year now, I have met his parents and he’s met mine, we’re planning to get married early next year. Everything’s perfect and I may be j...
A. 22 May 2013: He did right to open up about that ugly past of his and you should appreciate the courage he mastered to tell you all that happened between him and her. Most people especially men rarely cross that line.
What would you do or how would you feel if ... (read in full...)
No sex since January. Am I being paranoid? My instincts say he's messing about, but hides things. How can I be sure of it??
Q. Am I paranoid or is he up to something? I recently have noticed my boyfriend is acting like he's up to something lately. We haven't been intimate since January. I put this down to him having a low sex drive and he had made comments about not gett...
A. 22 May 2013: You have all the signs written on the wall.
He is getting all the sex that he needs from someone else.
As your husband,its his obligation to perform his marital duties and you do not have to beg him.
He is surely trying your patience and sho... (read in full...)
Frustrated with our sex life, what should I do now?
Q. We have been married for 13 yrs. He was basically a virgin except that there were already some preconceived misgivings and anticipation on his part.(Backward communication and not very forward thinking or fun experimentation etc..)He was/is unsure ...
A. 19 July 2011: So sorry to hear that. I think he is not in control of his body. Have you tried to talk to him about it? You may find that he is too anxious to please you and because of the anxiety,he ends up coming too quickly.
Lots of foreplay would do the tric... (read in full...)
What do I do? I am head over heels in love with him. But he dumped me as I cannot have more children
Q. what do i do when i am head over heels with someone and after two months of getting somewhere with me he dumps me because i cannot have any more children? Would this be a deal breaker for some men? How do I handle this?...
A. 5 July 2011: A real man who has real love for you will look beyond children,health and lots of other issues. For example,i once loved someone who later on ended up being HIV+ but i was ready and willing to go ahead and share a life and future with her only that ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be depressed on holiday when I see my friend's figures in bikinis!
Q. I'm going on holiday in two weeks with my best friends, but it's just hit me how amazing they're bodies are compared to mine. One of them is 6ft and she has a great figure that many guys love and girls are jealous of. In fact it's intimidatin...
A. 7 June 2011: Do not let the beauty of your friends get in the way of you having some good fun with them.
God created all of us in his own image and gave each of us unique features.
Humans come in all shapes,all sizes but each human has their own unique... (read in full...)
I feel like I have failed as a parent, please help!
Q. I am a mother of a 14 year old daughter that persists on having sex with older boys/men. She's already admitted to having sex with a 27 year old and now she's aiming at 17 year old's. At the beginning of April 2011 she went off with someone from ...
A. 7 June 2011: You haven't failed as a parent,i think your little girl needs your attention and understanding.
She is at a stage where being rebellious is very common and without thinking twice may display all kinds of disgusting behavior as a way of getting ... (read in full...)
Why is she trying to break us up? We don't even know her. Help!
Q. I've just started dating a girl and a complete stranger to both of us has just started emailing my girlfriend telling her I'm a fake and that I'm not genuine, I'm really confused because I've never spoken to this person before and neither has my ...
A. 7 June 2011: This can't be a stranger but rather someone that you both know and don't be surprised when it turns out to be one of your best friends who could either be interested in you or her and posing to be someone else.
Watch your friends and their fr... (read in full...)
We spend a lot of time with another married couple and I'm falling for the other husband.....what should I do now?
Q. I am married with 2 kids. The past year we met another married couple and have really hit it off with them and been partying most every weekend together. Well the other husband was very flirty with me in the beginning, sometimes hugging me a bit too ...
A. 7 June 2011: His goal might be just one...to get into your pants and you are vulnerable right now since your sex life is so boring and frustrating.
Even when one is under the influence of alcohol,they still have an idea about what they are doing since they'll ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive and my ob-gyn tells me that testing negative is "good." What gives?
Q. I went to my ob/gyn for a check up and she did a pregnancy test. When the test came back neg she said the it was "good" that I was not pregnant. Why does she say that when we are actively "trying to conceive?"...
A. 24 May 2011: I would like to think it was all a misunderstanding.
Does your ob/gyn know you are trying to conceive?
If know,then that could be the reason why.... (read in full...)
Found naked pics of a guy on my wife's camera. I'm not sure how to handle this...
Q. My wife and I are married 4 years this summer. Everything seems to be great, my problem is something from the past. I just bought my wife a new laptop and digital camera last Christmas. Her old camera she had when we met and was about 5 or 6 yea...
A. 24 May 2011: It's best you talked to her about it before you make any decisions or judgements. What if a friend of hers did borrow the Camera and used it to take those pics?
I remember lending my camera to some girls that i was friends with but they deleted ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty that I told this guy I liked him. I have a boyfriend!
Q. hello, i'm 20 and i have been with my boyfriend for 2 an a half years. A few weeks ago i went clubbing with 3 friends, one of which is my friend that i used to fancy when i was about 12 an i liked him for 4 years which he always new about. ...
A. 22 May 2011: Simple,call him up and tell him that all that was said during that night in the Club wasn't you but the influence of alcohol. Also let him know there is someone special in your life and there ain't any plans of leaving him.
Try and be polite enou... (read in full...)
I really care for my friend but think our personalities would crash if we tried dating!
Q. I have a really great friend that's stuck with me for years, and this recent he's clearly displayed signs of wanting to be more than just friends. I've never thought of him that way but I wouldn't mind giving him a chance. The problem is that I ...
A. 22 May 2011: How will you know whether it will work or not? I suggest you give it a try with an open mind but also talk about your different personalities with him and find a way of going around that difference. In life,sometimes we have to make compromi... (read in full...)
There is no valid reason why my husband refuses intimacy. What can I do about my controlling husband?
Q. can anyone help me find out why my husband 46 won't get intimate or even have sex with me? This has gone on now for over 7 years now. Before it all stoped, when we did have sex, he humiliated me in telling me how to do what and when. He is a very...
A. 21 May 2011: He could have fallen out of love and doesn't want to admit it. 7 years is way too much for a couple not to be having intimate moments. How long will you continue being so unhappy? He could also be getting what he needs from somewhere else.... (read in full...)
I am 33 and he turns 24. He can't handle the age difference, is there anything I can do or say to keep him?
Q. Hi...I feel so sad and heartbroken that I have no clue where to turn and who to revert to...something someone who can maybe help what I thought would be my long lasting relationship not be lost. I met this guy who is 9 and a half years younger than ...
A. 20 May 2011: That is a very brave decision you have made my lady. You can always count on our support.
A journey starts with a stride.
All the best.... (read in full...)
I am 33 and he turns 24. He can't handle the age difference, is there anything I can do or say to keep him?
Q. Hi...I feel so sad and heartbroken that I have no clue where to turn and who to revert to...something someone who can maybe help what I thought would be my long lasting relationship not be lost. I met this guy who is 9 and a half years younger than ...
A. 19 May 2011: Give him sometime and space. With time he will get used to the idea of dating someone older than he is. If you do insist on the two of you relating,you just might end up pushing him farther away from you. Accept his friendship request and who ... (read in full...)
Penis size and sexual satisfaction..
Q. Does penis size matter? Can a woman be satisfied with a small penis? ...
A. 19 May 2011: Size don't matter but rather how well you use it.... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so horny?
Q. I am Thirteen (Almost 14) and almost always horny. I'm ok with the fact, but not that I am horny all the time. Is there any way to keep my self from being like this so much? I know it would go down if I had sex, but I'm 13, that's not happening any ...
A. 18 May 2011: Having sex does not stop one from being horny. As matter of fact once you start having sex you will want more and more.
I would suggest you find more constructive ideas and activities to keep your mind occupied and if at all you have been indulgin... (read in full...)
I'm tired of my sexless marriage, please help!
Q. my spouse and i havent had sex in 9 years our kids are grown he doesnt want me to touch him he sleeps fully clothed i have tried to undress him while he sleeps but he wakes up before i can get his clothes down. what can i give him without him ...
A. 18 May 2011: That is really terrible.
If he wont use Viagra,then i suggest you include ground nuts in his meals,these are known to increase a man's libido.
Where i come from,many men eat ground nuts both as snacks and source as a way of staying sexually str... (read in full...)
A quick (honest) survey: How often do you and your partner have sex?
Q. This is something I am interested in as this often comes up on Dear Cupid, how often are couples actually having sex? I know personally I feel that my boyfriend and I are not having enough sex, I am 24 and he is nearly 28 yet we have sex once or...
A. 16 May 2011: I am 30 and would have sex 3 to 4 times a week. Having sex once in a month is a sign of lack of libido or could be that one party is not finding it enjoyable hence the limited number of times. As a man of 30 which is almost the same age bracket you ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he enters me, why is this?
Q. This is quite long because i wanted to explain myself properly, please take time to read and help me :) Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly a year now and i was sexually active before i met him. It never used to hurt when we had sex ...
A. 19 January 2011: Does he take his time to get you ready for the action?
I mean does he make sure you are well lubricated before he can insert his penis inside you?... (read in full...)
As soon as we were married everything changed!
Q. I am a 39yr white female. I married a 46yr black male. This is the first time that I have ever stepped out of my race. Governor and I got together on 09/20/09 We got married 05/24/10. Prior to marriage, he and I had a wonderful relationship. ...
A. 25 October 2010: Looks like he is listening to so many people's talk that he forgets to trust you. Someone must be feeding him with all this crap.
He better be a real man and stand by wife wife.... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to make sure he leaves and stays gone
Q. My husband and I have always had problems... He has been saying " just tell me to leave" constantly for months and I have never told him to. but i told myself if i hear it again I will agree and tell him to leave. yesterday he told me " i dont want ...
A. 22 October 2010: I think what you will have to do is pack up his stuff and put it somewhere he can find it like in the living room and telling him if he doesn't take his stuff out of the house,he will find it outside the house.
If he doesn't,take the stuff ou... (read in full...)
A question about manners!
Q. Its not a love question, but about manners. i went out with my friend yesterday, and later her coworker joined us with 2 friends, all guys. They were approximately our age, early, mid forties. We were introduced, exchanged 'nice to meet you'fras...
A. 22 October 2010: It is not you expecting too much but rather the men that your friend works with are simply selfish and self centered .
They only think of themselves.
Your friend could also be trying to set you up with one of them but none of them is brave or cou... (read in full...)
Bisexual or just curious
Q. Hey Guys and Gals... Don't know what I'm really looking for here, suppose its for someone to relate so it doesn't all feel so bizarre and illicit. Basically, I'm a straight girl, virgin, no real experience to speak of, but very into guys. I ...
A. 21 October 2010: Get back into your bed and sleep some more...lol!
It's normal to want this but let me tell you something......am a guy who is so into ladies that i have never paused for a single second to wonder how it would feel to be with a fellow guy.
We ... (read in full...)
I want to stop being jealous of the guy she lost her virginity to!
Q. hey, me again. Warning you ahead of time that this is quite long, and I'm not a good writer so bear with me. Here is some info to start with- Ok me and my girl have been going out for 6 months now. We are in a committed Long distance ...
A. 21 October 2010: It's common for most guys to feel jealous about the 1st guy who deflowered their woman but that is a thing of the past and no matter how jealous you will get,that is what the truth shall always be. Rather than hang unto what she did in the past,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't marry me because of my past.
Q. In the beginning of our relationship I told my boyfriend about my past sexual relationships. I have slept with more guys than he has girls and have had a few friends with benefits type situations. I wanted to be honest and upfront with him because I ...
A. 21 October 2010: I would like to commend you for being honest with your boyfriend. Most people keep a lot to themselves. However i would like to say that somethings are better left unsaid.
Any man would not be happy with such a past but i must also add that som... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cope with the regret of the break up!
Q. I am going through a very very hard time. I have pretty much been hurt and torn apart emotionally. I met my first serious boyfriend when i was 20..almost 21..he was my first sexual experience, the first guy i loved..pretty much most of my first...
A. 21 October 2010: I think you have said all you had to say to him,made all your regrets known and he has given you all the signs that you are never going to be together again,he has even ushered in someone new in his life.
At this point i must say you are acting t... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my coach!
Q. I am In love with my softball ast. Coach he is 26 I am 17 I no he has feelings for me because he is always texting me and flirting with me we hang out every friday at the football games the biggest problem is I have a bf that I have been with for 3 ...
A. 21 October 2010: You already know the answer.
Follow your heart for your happiness does matter most.... (read in full...)
Why would he ask if I thought what we did was bad? Of course it was!
Q. To cut a long story short, a few months ago i did a very stupid and selfish thing and ended up sleeping with a friend who has a girlfriend. Recently this friend and me were talking about what happened and he asked me if he thought what we did was ...
A. 26 September 2010: He asked you that question because to him it wasn't bad at all and he would like to do it again but has no direct way of asking you if you can do it again other than just beating around the bush.
He also wanted to hear the good side of it and prob... (read in full...)
Pain during sex and unable to reach an orgasm.....what is wrong with me?
Q. i am a lady aged 28 and am having problems with my boyfriend when it come to sex. when having sex i feel pain on penetration and i dont reach my orgasm. what can i do because i am not sexually active and i dont even think of having sex when i am ...
A. 24 September 2010: Having sex before one is ready can be very painful.
Try to engage your partner into foreplay as this is a very important step towards getting you as a woman ready for sex.
Talk to your partner about this,find a better and simpler way of not rushi... (read in full...)
She said she was 18, I developed feelings, but it turns out she's 16
Q. 11 months ago i met a girl. At the time she told me she was 18. Months later the truth came out that she was 16. i am 22 years old. It wasnt hard to believe that she was older than her real age. Her friends are all around my age. Her Ex bf is a mon...
A. 24 September 2010: Since you are a decent and respectful guy who isn't thinking of getting sexual with her,i suggest you keep it burning.
As long as you bring positive vibe with you and ain't going to mislead her in any way,why not. You can keep the relationship and ... (read in full...)
Internet dating confusion
Q. I have been single for 10 years. (aged 33) I have found it difficult meeting guys so I have been trying internet dating on and off for years. I am getting very concerned that I am going to remain single long term. My concerns are from arranging ...
A. 20 September 2010: Internet dating is not easy,i have been doing it myself since i started using the Internet in 1999. I arranged a blind date with a girl i had no idea what she looked lime though i let her know how i was gonna dress up. After waiting for her at the ... (read in full...)
I'm no good at asking guys out
Q. Hi, I've been flirting with this bloke at work whose really gorgeous and easy to talk to, but it hasn't actually gone beyond flirting. Although the other day, we sort of arranged a night out between us next week. Not sure if it's a date or what. W...
A. 17 September 2010: You can either ask him face to face or send him a text asking what he thinks about you guys going out on a date.
Keep in mind that in life there is always a winner and a loser...so say to yourself...Come what may,i gotta ask him out.
Good lu... (read in full...)
I don't know which way is which anymore!
Q. So it started about 4months ago... I was with someone and had an interest in someone else. I've been really good friends with this guy and having relationship problems and I hooked up with him. Well we were just the usually friends with benefits but ...
A. 15 September 2010: You will never know if he is willing to be a part of this baby thing or not unless when you let him know about it.
Find a way of letting him know that he is going to be a father and then wait for his reaction. If he really loves you,he will be ... (read in full...)
I treated him like crap but I really like him and I don't know how to tell him
Q. I really stuffed up.I really did. Hi there, to all who're reading this.. I became mates with a guy , lets call him Dave and we started texting for ages. We obviously were more than mates.. i.e we texted into the night every day, he asked me h...
A. 15 September 2010: I will not blame you for treating him like crap because am sure you have blamed yourself over and over again.
It's time for you to go after what your heart desires.
If you know what you want and really want to have it,then you better go out there... (read in full...)
I cheated and now boyfriend is still so jealous! Is this normal?
Q. iN THE past i cheated on my bf various times, n he forgave me, but now, he is extremly jealous, iff i dont call him every day, he gets upset, n if i delete a post on facebook, he thinks im hiding something. What do I do, is this normal?? Enough time ...
A. 15 September 2010: They say once beaten,twice shy.
If you have cheated on him many times,he might forgive you because he loves you but he will not forget the fact that you had the nerve to cheat more than once and that is the reason why he needs your assurance in term... (read in full...)
I don't know which way is which anymore!
Q. So it started about 4months ago... I was with someone and had an interest in someone else. I've been really good friends with this guy and having relationship problems and I hooked up with him. Well we were just the usually friends with benefits but ...
A. 15 September 2010: Is he responsible for the pregnancy?... (read in full...)
I lied to my online love about my age
Q. I am in love with a guy who is 26 and i am 15 years old.... i met him online...he dont know my real age and now i love him alot i want to tell him everything..but i am scared that he will leave me...my intentions was not bad...i was depressed bcause ...
A. 14 September 2010: Sorry about your family problems. It is not good to build a friendship or relationship based on a foundation of lies because even what is done in the dark does come to light some day. I suggest you tell him the truth about your age ,show him t... (read in full...)
I lied to my online love about my age
Q. I am in love with a guy who is 26 and i am 15 years old.... i met him online...he dont know my real age and now i love him alot i want to tell him everything..but i am scared that he will leave me...my intentions was not bad...i was depressed bcause ...
A. 14 September 2010: Sorry about your family problems.
It is not good to build a friendship or relationship based on a foundation of lies because even what is done in the dark does come to light some day.
I suggest you tell him the truth about your age ,show him th... (read in full...)
What is my next step?
Q. I like this boy and i think he likes me coz he chose to sit next to me in two lessons and chose his locker next to mine and he always smiles at me and his friends are always telling me he likes me but a few weeks ago we had this convo: me:hi ...
A. 14 September 2010: Well,at that age,some boys are too shy and don't like being chased....i myself was like that when i was around your age,i would like you but due to shyness,i would never like talk about it. Try to be as natural as possible and let your friendship ... (read in full...)
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