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writes:My husband and I have always had problems... He has been saying " just tell me to leave" constantly for months and I have never told him to. but i told myself if i hear it again I will agree and tell him to leave. yesterday he told me " i dont want you anymore just tell me to leave" and so i said ok leave. he asked "is it over" and i said "its over". He didnt leave, he hung out with his freind locked in our garage all night long and i just went to sleep. What do i do? I really want him to leave but i have never had the heart to tell him straight up "leave". Should i do this now that i know he doenst want me anymore? I still cant find the guts... please help me with the words to say... I dont know and i wont see him for like 5 hours I need advice on how to make sure he leaves and stays gone. I have always thought he treats me like shit but at least wants to be with me. now that i know this i want him gone but i still dont have the guts to tell him. I dont know whats wrong with me. Please any advice would be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): I don't really understand why if you really want him to leave, you can't just tell him to get out and throw him out. Do you still love him? Do you hope that things will improve? I was in an awful relationship for a long time and I actually had to sell the house before I could get my husband to leave. He only stayed with me because he loved his children and I was his property to control. If your partner does not want to be with you, maybe he doesn't want to face the hassle of starting over, the questions about what went wrong or admit that he failed in the relationship. Maybe he really loves you and is hoping you will beg him to stay and sort it out. How about you both go to counselling and see if you can work out the problems, just in case the relationship can be saved?
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reader, natasia  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 He is playing games with you, and he probably doesn't actually want to leave. I don't know what has gone wrong in your relationship, but actually I think you should try to work that out before you ditch it. A guy who wants to leave just leaves - he doesn't keep asking you to tell him to leave, and he doesn't stay up all night in the garage with his friend. This guy doesn't want to leave. And he possibly also doesn't want to be without you. You can't totally believe what he says, because he is saying these things to get a reaction. What is missing in your lives? What is the problem? Address this first, and maybe even tell him that you don't want him to leave - you want him to stay, and work it out - see what happens.
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reader, gigolojone  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 I think what you will have to do is pack up his stuff and put it somewhere he can find it like in the living room and telling him if he doesn't take his stuff out of the house,he will find it outside the house.
If he doesn't,take the stuff out and lock the house.
Before you do any of that,tell him you are tired of the marriage and seriously want out.
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reader, Shugarr  +, writes (22 October 2010):
Are you sure you really want to end your marriage? That is something you should re-consider..
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