A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I really stuffed up.I really did.Hi there, to all who're reading this..I became mates with a guy , lets call him Dave and we started texting for ages. We obviously were more than mates.. i.e we texted into the night every day, he asked me how my day was and all etc etc. then when (I thought) we were getting closer, i got freaked. We didnt hang with the same people, we have different personalities,i was a year older than him and he hadnt made his feelings clear(but i guessed he liked me back). And so I stupidly, said "ok" when one of my friends, stefanie* who didn't know what was going on, asked if it was okay to give out my number to another guy, mike*. then i went out with this other guy coz it seemed so much safer.(this does seem extremely highschool etc but it was awhile ago)Then that fell apart, as mike treated me badly (I know, serves me right..) and the dave was there was always there to listen to me(talk about other dramas, not this). I didn't cling to him still and get annoying but I continued to share alot with it. Eventually he didnt want to listen to him. I was waiting for him to say "i would never do that to you" which was selfish of me and i hope he was hoping id say that to him vice versa.I said sorry to dave for things but stopped myself from explaining it all and saying I had feelings for him. I thought he had moved on, that he had brushed it off his shoulder and there was no point in telling him.Times passed and i realise things will never be the same, yet i always think about dave. I cant just come out and explain how i had/have feelings for him because we dont talk that often as it is.It would be inappropriate for me to just suddenly tell him.Ive treated him like crap but we are still acquaintances. What should i do? Move on? move on for the time being until we get to talk?
View related questions:
move on, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): Well, I have gone through the same set of things myself. Except that I have been at the receiving end. I really ended up being this girls shoulder and she would share everything with me. I had told her that I had feelings for her and she knew I did. For some reason, some other guy walked into her life and they had a fling/affair which didnt quite go right and she would talk to me about it as well. One day, I felt I was really being treated like crap and walked out. I am still there for her, still there whenever she needs. I just long sometimes for that one call though where she would say she had feelings for me. Maybe just ask him for a coffee and tell him so. Won't hurt and if he is a nice guy he probably deserves atleast that much.
A
male
reader, rcn  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 It is your fault if you loose the opportunity to be with the one that you like. You like him, swallow your pride and tell him that you do. At least you'll know for sure if he feels the same way. I don't think there should be any more time passing before you do. I don't want you to be writing down the road how you regret never saying anything. If it's you that initiates the conversation, that's what you need to do. The ONLY way for you to solve this issue is by telling him how you really feel. It's time for that and it is not inappropriate to do so. This is your chance and you may miss something that could be wonderful if you don't take that chance.
...............................
A
male
reader, gigolojone  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 I will not blame you for treating him like crap because am sure you have blamed yourself over and over again.
It's time for you to go after what your heart desires.
If you know what you want and really want to have it,then you better go out there and get it.
Chances are that he might be interested but too afraid to let you know or he might not.
The best thing to do is text or call him and try to find out if he can spare some time for you....that is meet him and let the cat out of the bag. If you don't have the courage to tell him,then sent him flowers and a card and try to open up to him.
If he feels the same way,you'll surely be happy and if he doesn't, you will know what to do next....and that is move on.
Good luck.
...............................
|
