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writes:Hey Guys and Gals... Don't know what I'm really looking for here, suppose its for someone to relate so it doesn't all feel so bizarre and illicit.Basically, I'm a straight girl, virgin, no real experience to speak of, but very into guys. I know I want a relationship with a guy, and know that I only really am into guys. 'Problem' is that I really want to have an 'encounter' I suppose with a woman, I know I'm not lesbian, nor do I think I'm bi, its just something I'd love to try. Is this normal/attainable? Suppose in this day and age we are constantly labeling ourselves, I'm not a lesbian, I'm not bi... am I anything? This preoccupation with labels seems bizarre. Maybe I'm just curious. Any one in a similar situation, why am I thinking like this, do I need more sleep perhaps? Thank you
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I think you are simply bombarded by sexual images and messages in the current culture and you are going down a dangerous slope to want to have an encounter with a female.
Have some morals. Stop watching porn and date boys. Stop this mental masturbation about whether or not you are bi. Bi is another word for promiscuously confused.
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reader, gigolojone  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Get back into your bed and sleep some more...lol!
It's normal to want this but let me tell you something......am a guy who is so into ladies that i have never paused for a single second to wonder how it would feel to be with a fellow guy.
We are all different but remember curiosity killed the cat and hey,find something developmental to get involved in just to keep your mind busy.
But if you still have the urge to try being with a woman,you can go ahead and give it a shot.....i can imagine this urge or curiosity is comparable to the urge one gets when he is at great heights and looks down below and feels like jumping without thinking of the consequences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): I thnk for nw ur curious bt if u find urself wantin to have anthr encountr aftr already havin one it would classify u as bi. Alot of ppl want to try it outa curiousity bt the ones that want mre aftr that are bi. But being bi and being a lesbian are 2 diffarnt thngs.. A lesbian prefers girls. Straight, of coarse means u want only guys, and bi means both even if u couldnt see urself with a girl and u like guys mre, some bis favor one or the othr mre. Bt for nw id say ur just curious
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reader, glassblower +, writes (21 October 2010):
 It is perfectly normal to have feelings like that. I doubt there's a woman around who hasn't at least thought about it. And yes, I've noticed the obsession with labelling too. Seems odd, but then again, sometimes society seems to say "You're not normal or beautiful unless you're blonde, skinny and straight." You don't have to label yourself at all! If someone asks, "It's none of your business" is perfectly warranted here. Good luck honey! xoxo glassblower
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 id say you are curious.you are into guys rite..and i dont think wanting to try something makes you bi or lesbian unless you wil try it again and again then you'll be bisexual
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reader, hotnhorny  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Hi There. You seem to have answered your own question there. Ofcourse it is normal to think about having encounters with people of the same sex when you no that your straight. The main thing is that you need to be honest with yourself. This might sound really weird but when you become sexually active you will realise more what sexuality your are. But that shouldnt make you want to rush into anything with a random person. And what ever you turn out to be be it straight, bi whatever etc never deny it and be proud of what you are. Hope this helps
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